sunshinemiss
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To the OP and her Gentleman Friend, While yes, this is a kinky site, it has been discussed a number of times on these fora what levels of privacy different people are comfortable sharing. I prefer not to share my own personal stories for a variety of reasons, mostly though because I am a fairly private person. Now, that said, I have a number of girlfriends on this site (and male friends, but they are not pertinent to this particular story - sorry guys). After a certain amount of time, I am willing to share more intimate details about my life with these ladies - not just sex stories, but also things about hurt and celebrations, fears and struggles - because these people have shown themselves to be trustworthy. You two have stepped into a group of people who have a certain comraderie here and who are in fact very willing to invite more folks in. However, it is not realistic to think that a bunch of strangers are going to spill their guts or their personal stories with a stranger. Really - would you go up to a stranger at a kink party and just start saying these kinds of things? Yes, there are people who would do that, but most people would respond by either confronting the speaker or walking away while rolling their eyes and saying "Can you *believe* that chick?". My own answer to things like this generally tends to be "Well that's a personal question, now isn't it? Why in the world would you want to know that about me? And why would I tell you when I don't know you from a can of paint?" ('I don't know you from a can of paint' is a better understood phrase now that I'm in Tennessee than my other phrase - 'I don't know you from borscht' - which I used in Philadelphia. However, down here in the south there aren't as many people who know what borscht is and therefore my meaning is lost on folks. But I digress). It's lovely that you all are so comfortable with what you are doing. It would seem that she is not in fact having any negative reactions to what you are talking about, and you are just happy as pigs in poop. Good on you (I do so love that phrase - picked it up from the Brits here). Just because you want to say "HOORAY! I like this" does not mean we all do. Nothing wrong with saying it, but there is also nothing wrong with people saying they aren't comfortable with answering your question or asking you to ante up. For the record, I believe I was the one initially who said "you first". And I did it for a very specific reason. When a stranger comes to me and asks me to give them something without first giving me something, it makes me wonder why. *Similar thing with someone coming up to me and saying "Hi. What's your name?" rather than saying, "Hi I'm Steven." Why would I give my name to a stranger who hasn't even had the courtesy of introducing himself. You want something? You gotta give first. Anyway, in this situation, I wonder if the asker thinks I am so pathetic that I need to pour out my sexcapades to someone I don't know. It also makes me wonder what they are thinking. Do you really believe that I sit around thinking about this stuff all day? (and on a quiet day I may in fact, particularly when I get a hot call from my hot Italian, but let's not go there because I will not be able to focus, and Valentine's Day in love with an ocean between us is already difficult enough. Sigh, woe is me). Welcome to the forums, glad you are happy, but please don't mistake us for high school giggle girls who need to discuss our Friday night follies. Some of us have a bit more discretion than that. Best, sunshine
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