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Seperated but still going strong - 2/13/2010 11:50:44 PM

SophiaChan

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Hi All!

I have to admit that I have been using this site for many years. In reading the message boards I've always felt a safe harbor about my inclinations towards desired slavery. That said, I think it is long overdue for me to introduce myself and throw out my unique situation to the world.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now. I'm white American from small town western US who found herself in India and fell in love with it and stayed and then later stayed because I fell in love with an Indian. I've just recently returned home and he came for a two month visit to see how he would like it and to meet my family. I'm happy to report that we've jointly decided that he will return in May and live in the US for awhile together (or at least until I finish Grad School).

Ok, now the real intro! It's short and simple: I am very much 'his' and he loves to use me and order me about. In the course of the last three years I feel we have lost some of the initial 'fun' we experienced with our BDSM. We got too used to each other sexually, moved in together, gained weight, etc.

Anyways, now that we have these three months apart I'm a bit nervous that I'll go back to all my bad habits (like leaving clothes on the floor, etc.) that I know he hates. And, we do have our share of fights and much of the time, the fights are forgiven and 'sealed away' by my physical service to him in all the fun ways you can think of (no matter who was right or wrong). I think the physical touch is going to be very missed from our relationship. But, I don't want to despair and I think this will be a great opportunity for us to reunite with some fun, creative BDSM play.

So, any advice from couples who maintain long distance relationships? Especially Male Master, female slave relationships spread (literally) half way across the world!!

I"m really looking forward to some fun responses and am already humbly grateful for all the great reading I've always come to expect and admire here on collarme!

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RE: Seperated but still going strong - 2/14/2010 12:04:35 AM

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I'm not wondering how to keep your long distance relationship together. I'm really thinking about why you left your Man to go to school. If you left him of your own free will then the relationship is already doomed. I know you retionalized leaving him somehow. But, in the end you left him. The reason doesnt really matter.

Sorry, that's probably no help to you. You seek the answer that is already within you.

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RE: Seperated but still going strong - 2/14/2010 12:17:35 AM

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Thank you for your reply! I think you might have misinterpreted me. We decided to make the move back to my home as a joint decision and we would certainly still be together if it was an easy process for Indians to immigrate to the US. But, we aren't doomed by that small problem! He is coming back and we will make it work!

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RE: Seperated but still going strong - 2/14/2010 12:30:19 AM

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Well, admittedly, Kitten and I weren't halfway across the world from one another when we went long-distance, but...

Contact, contact, contact. We were on the phone with each other every night (sometimes more than I wanted to be, I'll say that right up front), and in contact through email and IM programs when we weren't actually talking. These days, I believe webcams and Skype are probably the cheapest way to keep up communication, given the distances involved.

It's not an easy road you're headed down, but it's far from impossible. Just an incredible pain in the ass.

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RE: Seperated but still going strong - 2/14/2010 5:01:20 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lorenzo19

I'm not wondering how to keep your long distance relationship together. I'm really thinking about why you left your Man to go to school. If you left him of your own free will then the relationship is already doomed. I know you retionalized leaving him somehow. But, in the end you left him. The reason doesnt really matter.

Sorry, that's probably no help to you. You seek the answer that is already within you.

Sometimes in this world you have to be an adult. That means making the hard decisions to be apart for a bit to better yourselves and your future.
The relationship is not doomed.

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RE: Seperated but still going strong - 2/14/2010 5:05:06 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lorenzo19

I'm not wondering how to keep your long distance relationship together. I'm really thinking about why you left your Man to go to school. If you left him of your own free will then the relationship is already doomed. I know you retionalized leaving him somehow. But, in the end you left him. The reason doesnt really matter.

Sorry, that's probably no help to you. You seek the answer that is already within you.

Sometimes in this world you have to be an adult. That means making the hard decisions to be apart for a bit to better yourselves and your future.
The relationship is not doomed.

i agree with the blushing one.

By Lorenzos way of thinking, every military couple would be facing the end of their relationship? Pleeease.

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RE: Seperated but still going strong - 2/14/2010 8:27:52 AM

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