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RE: How do you handle loneliness? - 3/29/2006 5:45:50 AM

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Hair grows!

OMG! Now you are telling her to chop off her hair! LOL

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RE: How do you handle loneliness? - 3/29/2006 7:37:23 AM

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Sorry to drift off topic. I am obsessed with my hair this week.

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If you are truly lonely inside a relationship,

Somehow this phrase gives me the idea that you must have a significant other/primary partner to be un-lonely. I think there are many ways to feel happy and fulfilled and un-lonely even outside of a relationship. I also think it is unrealistic to expect a person to fill a void of loneliness in your life. That is quite a burden.

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RE: How do you handle loneliness? - 3/29/2006 8:21:40 AM

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Doestoevsky once said, "Consciousnes is a disease." On the other hand Tolstoy argued that freedom lied in the "unconscience" state of being --- that mystical zone where one just is. Freud said a person needs love and work.

I think they're all correct.

For me, hyper-consciousness hits me when I feel disconnected --- and when I also feel powerless to connect.

"They all laughed and clapped, taking it for a deliberate witticism, while he did not know where to escape from his forebodings of disaster and his feeling that despite his striving for the good and his capacity for happiness, he had no real power over the future."

--Pasternak, Dr. Zhivago

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RE: How do you handle loneliness? - 3/29/2006 8:48:16 PM

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Do you go to fellow subs/slaves for support?
Rarely. I have little in common with most submissives in my area.

How do you ask your Dom/Top/Master for more one-on-one time without appearing "needy"?
I tell Him I'm feeling neglected and ask for the time I need from Him. If I don't ask for it, how would He know I need it?

Do you request play time with others?
Sometimes, yes. I'm not comfortable bottoming to anyone without His being there, but if I ask to top someone, He'll usually grant that request, and He will not require that He be there.

Do you fill your time with hobbies or other distractions?
I have a LOT of alone time, and more than enough work, hobbies and assorted social engagements to keep myself busy 37 hours a day.

Do you think this is a common problem?
Loneliness? It certainly is common for those of us who belong to truck drivers, doctors, traveling salespeople, entertainers, and the like.

What have you tried in order to adjust your mind-set?
I've become accustomed to it, and I know it won't last forever.

Does this mean that you're suffering from depression?
I'm not, but someone else in the same circumstances might be.

Have you been retreating from the world too much?
No more than usual. I tend to enjoy my own company.

What re-energizes you and makes you feel more in-touch again?
In touch with what?

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RE: How do you handle loneliness? - 4/4/2006 6:00:53 AM

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I have been quite lonely since I left the U.S.A. last September to move to Moscow, Russia. To further complicate issues, I speak very little Russian.

I find I cope by masturbating excessively. But that's just me.

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RE: How do you handle loneliness? - 4/4/2006 7:00:54 AM

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oh that made me laugh...you have to love kids, they are so honest....an octopus? i don't believe an octopus sitting on your head could ever be considered a good look, even if the adults smile and nod politely....good luck with the re-texturing - if all else fails, the perm will relax over time and eventually grow out....

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RE: How do you handle loneliness? - 4/4/2006 12:29:27 PM

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I'm a slut.

No, really. I am poly, but I'm also a bit of a slut. Especially with submission. There are... three people, maybe four, to whom I feel especially inclined to feel submissive to. But if they are not around, or if they are busy, or if they wish to hand me off, I am perfectly happy finding new and special connections with a whole range of other people.

Of course, I also don't believe in the 'I should deal with everything myself' theory of submission. While a lot of it I do internalize if I feel it is unjustified (guilt over them paying attention being the big one), any serious issues get brought up so they can be dealt with.

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RE: How do you handle loneliness? - 4/4/2006 1:05:34 PM

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I have been quite lonely since I left the U.S.A. last September to move to Moscow, Russia. To further complicate issues, I speak very little Russian.

I find I cope by masturbating excessively. But that's just me.

Ti govorish po Ruski?
I dont know about the outlook of Russian people on BDSM, I left the country at the tender age of 11, but I suggest that you watch your back, being American puts a bulls eye on your back.

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Stay away from Russian cops, they are all dirty!, If in legal trouble try to contact embassy ASAP. Also do a search for a dommes here in Russia they actually have a by country listing here make some friends see if they can take you to "alternative" clubs, oh being American will also make you a traget for gold diggers, you better be a very good judge of character.
I used to live right across "gorkiy park" you have to visit it!!!

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RE: How do you handle loneliness? - 4/4/2006 1:13:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: isubmit2you

I have been quite lonely since I left the U.S.A. last September to move to Moscow, Russia. To further complicate issues, I speak very little Russian.

I find I cope by masturbating excessively. But that's just me.

Ditto! Fastlane combats lonliness with his left hand, it's like getting strange!

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RE: How do you handle loneliness? - 4/4/2006 1:14:53 PM

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Done forget to switch hands or work out, otherwise your bicep becomes bigger then the other one