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PetofMB -> Hurting your Master (2/15/2010 9:42:17 PM)
I have completely disrespected my Master by showing attitude while he gave me a discipline task to do for repetitive bad behavior earlier. By showing this attitude I have hurt him and he was extremely upset with me. First how do I deal with the feelings I have of hurting him and how can I rectify or make it up to him?

girlygurl -> RE: Hurting your Master (2/15/2010 9:44:18 PM)
It sucks to hurt anyone. As far as rectifying it, it depends on what has taken place. There's no generic answer.

EbonyWood -> RE: Hurting your Master (2/15/2010 9:46:48 PM)
Depends on what you did, and depends on what you did. All responses will rest on this information.

antipode -> RE: Hurting your Master (2/15/2010 9:47:16 PM)
quote: How do you deal with the fact that you have done something to hurt your Master and is there a way to rectify it? Could you be a little more cryptic please?

CelticNightmare -> RE: Hurting your Master (2/15/2010 9:48:59 PM)
Ask him,not us. I was always impressed by some serious atonement. It takes guts to not just admit having been wrong-but doing what it takes to finally make it right. No pain no gain-and some degree of suffering and sacrifice serves the memory well. Then again, I have been burned enough in my life to not forgive without this. Grace is an earned thing-not a freebie.

DarkSteven -> RE: Hurting your Master (2/15/2010 9:52:26 PM)
First, you acknowledge it and say you're sorry. Then the ball is in his court. Good luck.

DesFIP -> RE: Hurting your Master (2/15/2010 10:32:48 PM)
Figure out why you did it, and what would be needed for you not to repeat this. This didn't come out of nowhere, you need to talk about what happened and why it did.

AquaticSub -> RE: Hurting your Master (2/15/2010 11:07:58 PM)
It really depends on the specifics. There is a difference between saying "No, I don't want to this" and saying "Fuck you, you couldn't master me if you were the last dom on the planet", you know what I mean? So my best advice is apologize and mean it. Talk to him to find out what he needs from you to move past this. Assure him it won't happen again and follow through with it.

elleX -> RE: Hurting your Master (2/15/2010 11:51:59 PM)
... the only way is to talk and talk with him,,,, there is no standard answer,, it depends on you and your master and what happened,,,,,,

Zechriel -> RE: Hurting your Master (2/16/2010 5:14:18 AM)
Good morning! Hard to know without being specific but my question would be was it an automatic response...like you said it without thinking ( a huge opps but easily remedied if you say you are sorry) OR was it something said that took a minute of thought (something said intended to "get back" or "strike back") If the latter, then you have a problem and you need to talk with your Master on how to work to solve that. Reflection is not enough and sorry may not be enough, work needs to be done to calm and re-think any hurtful answer you may give. That is the process of growing up and advancing in life, Good luck. Love, Zechriel [sm=couple.gif]

xxblushesxx -> RE: Hurting your Master (2/16/2010 5:55:40 AM)
Give him a caning and show him what real pain is?[:D] You are human, and you make mistakes. You realize what you did was wrong, (right?) and then you both move on from there.

texangael -> RE: Hurting your Master (2/16/2010 6:33:37 AM)
quote: how can I rectify or make it up to him? Easy. Just unring the bell.

HisSweetElysium -> RE: Hurting your Master (2/16/2010 6:39:46 AM)
I've been there, it happens. For me, once I stopped being a brat and cried it out, I went to Him, and knelt and put my head on His feet, hands on his ankles. When He acknowledged me, I said I was wrong to have treated Him badly, I was deeply sorry and begged His forgiveness. We had a long conversation afterward and there were many tears but much progress was made. Eventually He punished me and it was put in the past.

PetofMB -> RE: Hurting your Master (2/16/2010 7:03:31 AM)
Thanks so much to everyone's advice, it was really very helpful. I ended up sending an email to My Master and apologized about the way I acted and the attitude I gave him. The reason there was the attitude was because of frustration I was feeling throughout the day elsewhere and then I didn't like a discipline task that he gave me, so I guess I lost my cool and just ended up being very cold and callus towards him. I was/am genuinely sorry and realized what I had done after I had the chance to calm down and he did forgave me and we talked about what happened, how it made him feel and I think it's just made us stronger now. He's such a great guy....I love my Master. I really appreciate the advice that all of you gave me but not without consequences. I'm learning the ropes here as I'm fairly new to all this so it's great to have this as a resource, of sorts, to chat with others who KNOW WHAT I'M TALKNG ABOUT...lol. Thanks again everyone!!

DesFIP -> RE: Hurting your Master (2/16/2010 10:06:26 AM)
Next time tell him about your frustrating day first, and tell him about the problems you have with the assigned task and why you can't do it. Be a grown up and talk about it instead of acting out. Not nearly as much fun but better in the long run. And I'm not putting you down by that. I'm a lot older and have just in the last couple of years discovered where my attitude comes from, usually fatigue and hunger. If I don't eat I get short tempered but lots of women have problems feeling their body needs due to pressure to be thin.

candisa -> RE: Hurting your Master (2/17/2010 6:30:12 AM)
Greetings, PetofMB Simply, forgive yourself. I don't know anyone who is perfect. A very sincere apology to whom you feel you have wronged. The admission and taking ownership of the mistake made, trying to never make it again. best of luck to you. edited to add greetings :o) quote: ORIGINAL: PetofMB I have completely disrespected my Master by showing attitude while he gave me a discipline task to do for repetitive bad behavior earlier. By showing this attitude I have hurt him and he was extremely upset with me. First how do I deal with the feelings I have of hurting him and how can I rectify or make it up to him?

sirsholly -> RE: Hurting your Master (2/17/2010 6:43:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PetofMB I have completely disrespected my Master by showing attitude while he gave me a discipline task to do for repetitive bad behavior earlier. By showing this attitude I have hurt him and he was extremely upset with me. First how do I deal with the feelings I have of hurting him and how can I rectify or make it up to him? i am wondering if it was actual hurt vs disappointment. Either way...talk it out.

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