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Jasmyn -> Please use me (3/28/2006 8:21:42 AM)
lol not me! but him, her, them... I don't necessarily seek submission in the power exchange model, rather subservience in the un-equal model, superior/subordinate...I am Woman hear me roar, kiss my arse and all that yummy Power of the Pussy trip stuff... and I like nothing more than using a sub for my own end. Male or female those who genuinely wish to be of use will be used. At a drop of a hat... "I need you now!" and having them do all in their power to fullfill that need. Whoelse enjoys demanding much of their subs' time, mind, body and soul? Subs what do you enjoy about availing yourselves to someone demanding? Thanks in advance for your contributions :)

GoddessAlexia -> RE: Please use me (3/28/2006 9:26:43 AM)
How would you like to be used?

Jasmyn -> RE: Please use me (3/28/2006 9:30:47 AM)
Donating my mind to science I think ;)

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Please use me (3/28/2006 11:02:09 AM)
I am very in tune with and on the side of using a submissive/slave as I need, when I need, how I need. I am actually amazed at how many boys include this phrase "please use me" in their profiles and in their emails. Yet when I agree to do so, it is not so easy. They don't quite want to be used, or be available at the drop of a hat. They are more into being used at their convenience, and under the circumstances of getting naked for a good flogging when they haven't got better plans! I would be much more amenable to the live out situation that so many boys seem to prefer, if they could be available within reason, for whatever, whenever. I'm not saying I would call them and interrupt their workday because I want a coffee from Starbucks, but it would be nice to know that there is a boy who is actually ready to serve, and give his time, when he is not obligated to be at work. So where are you boys who write to Me saying "use me, Ma'am"? When I agree to use you, you don't seem to have the time! I'm looking forward to seeing the response to this very interesting question.

proudsub -> RE: Please use me (3/28/2006 11:10:47 AM)
quote: Whoelse enjoys demanding much of their subs' time, mind, body and soul? Hubby does. I am always at His command unless on the golf course without Him.[:)]

thetammyjo -> RE: Please use me (3/28/2006 11:31:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jasmyn lol not me! but him, her, them... I don't necessarily seek submission in the power exchange model, rather subservience in the un-equal model, superior/subordinate...I am Woman hear me roar, kiss my arse and all that yummy Power of the Pussy trip stuff... and I like nothing more than using a sub for my own end. Male or female those who genuinely wish to be of use will be used. At a drop of a hat... "I need you now!" and having them do all in their power to fullfill that need. Whoelse enjoys demanding much of their subs' time, mind, body and soul? Subs what do you enjoy about availing yourselves to someone demanding? Thanks in advance for your contributions :) We have a rule in my household: the slave cannot say "no" to me. Fox still has the right to walk out or and to say "red" if something were to cross a limit but that just doesn't happen after 6.5 years. He even has the right to offer an alternative to what I want based on the guiding rule that he is here to make my life easier and better. So, let's say for example I have a craving for ice cream -- he can't say "no" but he also knows that he can point out or ask if I'd be happy with fat free or low fat types because he also knows I might feel bad later if I ate the 20 grams of fat a serving type now. Another example, I want an orgasm and its 5am. He can't say "no" but he can ask if it would be possible for me to wait until he's a bit more awake because he'll do a better job then. If I say "now" its now but gee, orgasm now or better and more orgasms a bit later? It's my choice.

crouchingtigress -> RE: Please use me (3/28/2006 3:00:48 PM)
I agree with you, it is good to be King

Real0ne -> RE: Please use me (3/28/2006 10:11:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jasmyn Whoelse enjoys demanding much of their subs' time, mind, body and soul? Subs what do you enjoy about availing yourselves to someone demanding? it is all circumstancial. demand in the first week of knowing each other and you will be out the door in a new york second. if you do not know what that is ask any new yorker and they will tell you its a damn fast second. if my needs are being met in the relationship and in life then the sky is the limit, if not refer to the new york second. symbitic, synergy, between two people on an emotional spiritual and physical level is to die for and as long as things are setup so i am secure then whatever it takes to maintain that within my power and ability is fine.

starymists -> RE: Please use me (3/28/2006 10:34:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jasmyn Subs what do you enjoy about availing yourselves to someone demanding? If you ask my Dominant, he would say he demands not a lot, and I would have to agree with the semantics. He doesn't demand a lot, but he does expect a lot. As to how I deal with it, that would depend. In the beginning, I often brought up the subject of not feeling as though I could meet those expectations. And each and every time the subject arose, there was the unfailing belief expressed in 'you may not think you will get there, but I know you will' kind of statements that saw me through those early days. I no longer doubt that I will reach the benchmarks set. I take pride in what I have accomplished with my Dominant's unfailing guidance, support, and yes, correction. I accept the challenge that takes my service to the next level. And I feel cared for, supported and safe as more and more of the journey becomes available to my view. There are times that I have to talk about it...there are times I need additional support...and I've become very good at bringing things to the table to ensure that the relationship remains intact. And that process of growing into those expectations has allowed me to grow in new and beneficial ways...and for that, I have nothing but the utmost in respect and admiration for the One who calls me His own.

brightspot -> RE: Please use me (3/29/2006 2:00:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jasmyn Subs what do you enjoy about availing yourselves to someone demanding? Thanks in advance for your contributions :) Well Jasmyn. I don't thrive off the "use" word. But I do like to avail myself to someone demanding. I am a fairly strong minded woman and when I can find a woman to seduce me in a sensually demanding way.... a kind of put me in my place exchange. It's a pretty mutually satisfying dynamic. *Brightspot

TexasMaam -> RE: Please use me (3/29/2006 2:43:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GoddessDustyGold ... I am actually amazed at how many boys include this phrase "please use me" in their profiles and in their emails. Yet when I agree to do so, it is not so easy. They don't quite want to be used, or be available at the drop of a hat. They are more into being used at their convenience, and under the circumstances of getting naked for a good flogging when they haven't got better plans! I would be much more amenable to the live out situation that so many boys seem to prefer, if they could be available within reason, for whatever, whenever. I'm not saying I would call them and interrupt their workday because I want a coffee from Starbucks, but it would be nice to know that there is a boy who is actually ready to serve, and give his time, when he is not obligated to be at work. So where are you boys who write to Me saying "use me, Ma'am"? When I agree to use you, you don't seem to have the time! Amen to that! bobbi, are you reading? Ask Me again why I have My profile up here at CollarMe? Texas Maam

TeeGO -> RE: Please use me (3/29/2006 2:51:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jasmyn I don't necessarily seek submission in the power exchange model, rather subservience in the un-equal model, superior/subordinate... D/s is Dominant/submissive. It means power exchange. In my mind power exchange means one giving up control to another, i.e. superior/subordinate. But you separate the two ideas. Would you be so kind and explain to me what you feel are the differences. "... and I like nothing more than using a sub for my own end." I love that, it really gets me going. "Subs what do you enjoy about availing yourselves to someone demanding?" In a sense I can't answer that, I just love doing it. The why escapes me. But to be there for my Domme, to fulfill her every need (or at least do what I can), to bring that smile of appreciation, that feeling of making her happy. I love it. Demanding is no problem, unreasonable would be another thing because my time is limited due to life circumstances. Otherwise, what I have I freely give. Freely and joyously, I might add. I really do enjoy it.

Cloudz -> RE: Please use me (3/29/2006 5:15:11 AM)
subservience...gotta love it

Jasmyn -> RE: Please use me (3/29/2006 5:32:50 AM)
quote: D/s is Dominant/submissive. It means power exchange. In my mind power exchange means one giving up control to another, i.e. superior/subordinate. But you separate the two ideas. Would you be so kind and explain to me what you feel are the differences Hi Teego, not at all ... after spending a fair amount of time on these boards the general consensus seems to be that the d/s dynamic doesn't have to have a superior/subordinate element, with many finding the idea extremely offensive... but for the record I feel the same way you do and for me it does have an inequality to it, always has and always will... perhaps its the fem supreme/Goddess stuff I enjoy that lends itself to an inequality of roles. particularly gender defined, in the relationship, but even that doesn't cut the mustard as to why I entertain the idea as I felt this way before I discovered anything to do with fem supreme/Goddess worship, etc. So for clarity, I like to clarify my stance so people get an idea of what side of this particular fence I am coming from to better understand why or what I have to say. quote: "... and I like nothing more than using a sub for my own end." I love that, it really gets me going. Gets me going too ;) so does this :- quote: what I have I freely give. Freely and joyously, I might add. I really do enjoy it. ;) quote: Demanding is no problem, unreasonable would be another thing I greatly appreciate when a sub does do something for me that I know is a hard ask for them..whether that simply be racing me a coffee from Starbuck's (Dusty I love that and I would make them do it) during their lunch hour or something as out there as making them take line dancing lessons so they can lead the crowd at my nana's wedding. One sub I had spent three months turning up every Friday to put my garbage out and if my schedule allowed he would be invited inside for foot worship, but no gaurrantees. And I loved that if he was going to be late or couldn't make it, how much that guttered him...I love that whole so not wanting to let their Mistress down. But yeah unreasonable is not cricket...everyone has limitations and it is my responsibility to find out what those limitations are and find ways to work within them for a mutually beneficial lifestyle exchange. Dusty thanks for your input, am looking forward to more responses too :) lol Proud, my Mum would have loved you, Dad was a golfing widow too! In retirement, at his beck and call, unless it was the third Monday of the month and every second Wednesday when she was swinging clubs on the green :) Tammyjo I love this! quote: [He] has the right to offer an alternative to what I want based on the guiding rule that he is here to make my life easier and better. Like the Starbuck's scenario, if he just can not deliver it in his lunch hour then I'd expect an alternative suggestion of how he might accomplish this particular task, say later in the day or after work...which kind of implies they do wish to serve fully and are thinking on their feet about how they can do just that ... but like you said, if it's no go for you to change what it is you want and/or how then I'd expect him to do his utmost to fullfill my request as stated. Back to the unreasonable thing though, I wouldn't be unreasonable if his need to suggest an alternative was due to circumstances out of his contol but if there was no good reason for it then I could be quite unreasonable and demanding about them doing it or face a not so nice consequence or two. But if I wanted to push the envelop so to speak then I could be just as demanding and unreasonable just to see how they fare under distress. Crouchingtigeress ... yes it is ;) Starymists I do like how you put this, stairway to heaven comes to mind :- quote: I accept the challenge that takes my service to the next level. And I feel cared for, supported and safe as more and more of the journey becomes available to my view. 'Tis one of the things I like about being demanding of my sub/s time...sometimes my requests might just be random whims but more often than not they are calculated steps to help those who are willing to trust in me move forward within their submisson/service/subservience to me. I know what it is I want but it takes time for a d/s dynamic to evolve where it is safe for me to reveal the journey so to speak... doms need to feel cared for and supported and safe too...and every challenge accepted tells me that I am. Thanks for your post Starymists, enjoyed reading what you had to say. Hope you enjoy many more moments for growth, security, love and support. Brightspot, yum yum seducing in a sensually demanding way ;) and agree it can be a very mutually satisfying dynamic. lol Texas, hope bobbi got to read that. Cloudz...yum yum subservience...its all that I am about... those who see me as their superior to their subordinate make my world go round. Realone, I think you hit it on the head, and so did Starymists when you both speak of security...and I'll add appreciation. So while I may sound demanding and bolshy and egotistical and submission to me is all about me ... I know people don't thrive without a) knowing they are appreciated and b) secure in their place in my world. Thanks all for your responses :)

openmindedslave -> RE: Please use me (3/29/2006 6:37:28 AM)
Appreciation does go a long way...this is the essences of most longterm relationships or connections ...The porblem for many subs/slaves as they preceive that these duties or requirments will put then in your good gracious for other rewards and favors .While there is truth to it and they ,if they get your starbucks or pick up your dry cleaning , have shown a desire to meet your expectations , ..the problem can evolve where the subs expectations never materialize. For example,.. Knew a Mistress who had sent for her potential slave in the middle of the night to her house to change a roll of toilet paper on the roll. Now the purpose of this was to test his " please use me " request .He came. He replaced it and was told to leave. This was one of many challenges he faced , including the star bucks coffee, picking up dry cleaning , cleaning up after her dog and a few other jobs that really made him more of an errand boy than the slave he had pictured himself to be inside. The reallity is , much like a job interview , a slave must start off exhibiting a form of agreeablity. To say no, even thought it would be in the longterm the best for all, is looked down at .The excitement of a Mistress sitting accross from a potential slave /sub interviewing his/her worth to them is very intense. To a newbee, it's almost expected he will agrre to almost any thing you say as long as your willing to accept them...Haven't we all seen that pretty much be the case? The reality may be that somethings can't be done at a whim as you may want.You have to give them a little attention so that when you want something or your testing their true use to you , that you don't abuse it . Sometimes a thank you will do. Sometimes that look that makes them feel special above all the rest. ..Otherwise , you may find a number of slaves/subs coming and going as they get burned out or realize that your expectations are too high for them to reach.

Jasmyn -> RE: Please use me (3/29/2006 8:08:01 AM)
quote: the problem can evolve where the subs expectations never materialize. Oh I totally agree! What we do is an exchange and a beautiful one at that...and while I do very much enjoy demanding much of subs, if they are not getting their other needs and expectations of a 'd/s relationship' returned, then I'm not been a Mistress...I'm being a control freak...and if I wanted to be the latter I'd get a boyfriend not a sub. ;) Unfortunately that 'errand boy' dynamic or 'non-sexual service' sub or whatever labels been bandied about to define it has taken on a life of its own and become something so far removed from what it actually was. When I consider subs doing my bidding, my menial tasks etc, they are doing it because I want them to serve me, I want to control them, I want them as my property, and that 'errand boy/non sexual service' is only a part of the sum of us. But alas with the pick & mix kind of laundry list of kinks available now via websites, bdsm checklists etc, its too easy for people to say 'oh hey I want that' and expect that to just materialise without any d/s exchange framework in place (if that makes sense). And on the flipside you get the boys who tell us they don't do housework or gardens or errands and can't fathom why subs should have to do these things for their Mistress/es despite them declaring they are here to serve her every whim. quote: The excitement of a Mistress sitting accross from a potential slave /sub interviewing his/her worth to them is very intense. Yes it can be quite intense...hence why I advocate taking things slow with newbies (newbies and new to me subs) and am very strong on dominant responsibility of not letting them run before they can walk. I want them around for a longtime not a short time where their left thinking 'holy crap she wanted to do what with the maracas?' ;) quote: You have to give them a little attention so that when you want something or your testing their true use to you , that you don't abuse it . Sometimes a thank you will do. Appreciation yes :) and again comes back to the d/s exchange ... the framework, the relationship itself. I feel terrible if for whatever reasons a sub I am demanding much of hasn't had an opportunity for that attention and I'll go out of my way to make sure they get some. I especially love to do it when they are least expecting it...mostly because I am of the mind 'anticpate, but never expect'...and sincerely serve, obey and be genuinely rewarded.

liks2plzlf -> RE: Please use me (3/29/2006 11:04:16 AM)
New to the boards, and I am impressed on how interesting and informative they are. Especially this post. Pleasing a woman is enjoyable, really pleasing her is the ultimate thrill. In many ways D&S, is similar to the vanilla lifestyle, in that you meet numerous people hoping to find one compatabile. The fantasy of total slavery, which I am informed is 'usually' just that, a fantasy, is not possible for me 24/7/365. Having two daughters, I could not meet most Domme's requirements, especially if relocation is necessary. But the thought of being at someone's beck and call, and not being able to say no, excite's me immensly. So I leave my profile and just hope maybe there is some way to still experience this, at least for awhile. Being the one in control, you can have as many subs as you desire, if one is not availbale because he is at work, there should always be another. Checking out the profiles of some of the Dommes and Goddesses posting here, I would have to concur there are far to many of us who would love to be used by you, than you could ever take advantage of. Unfortunately not all of us can offer you that availability. To be wealthy and not have to work, the service we could provide. There I go fantasizing again.

liks2plzlf -> RE: Please use me (3/29/2006 11:33:39 AM)
I would like some clarification on the differance between sub, slave, boi,boys, etc. Differant Dommes seem to have differant excepectations, from each classification! Not sure how to direct a post to a particular Goddess, but for GoddessDustyGold, the only acceptable excuse for a boy not bringing you a Starbucks coffee, is it might cost him his job. It should not matter how attractive a domme is to the sub, but I believe most of you will agree many men are guility, especially in the vanilla world. I must confess there a some posting on here, that being there slave would come under the statement "it would be too good too be true". Ah! to be younger and wealthy again. But Goddess DustyGold, you ask where are these boys? I have checked your profile (many times), and you state you are not seeking at this time. Should they ignore your request and write anyway? I am sure there are too many us who wish they could be used by you. I also confess since I feel I am addressing Goddess'es and Dommes, I find I am tremnbling as i try to type an intelligent post. That you exist out there is excitilng

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Please use me (3/29/2006 11:41:54 AM)
Welcome to the boards. I have seen you post on one other occasion, and I hope you will continue to do so. Although I speak for Myself, I think I can safely say it is important to understand that most of us expect and are tolerant of a male submissive's or slave's workaday world. But to be owned, particularly as a slave, does mean that your main focus needs to be on and with your Mistress. Ongoing personal family issues might or might not be a problem for Me. It depends on whether or not it is a temporary emergency or the "family" is being hauled out as an excuse to be unavailable too often. Living in is preferred. But to be available for service 24/7 is the idea. It is the mindset that you do belong to and are accountable to and available for your Lady. That is always the undecurrent running through the relationship. It does not mean that you have to be always kneeling and available. Any reasonable person understands that other things are necessary in life. It is when the boy expects to fit his submission into a schedule that is convenient for him, rather than having the mindset that his life is primarily about being there for his Mistress, that we run into problems. You say you are retiring and you are relocateable on your profile. But now I read that you would not be able to do this because you have two daughters and other responsibilities? You admit that you find the idea of being at a Lady's beck and call and not being allowed to say "no", very exciting, but you would not have the availability to do that? To you this is the fantasy? It is important to figure out how you might fit into this lifestyle and what you can realistically offer. Then it is important to choose youir relationship wisely. Many of us have absolute respect for other necessary life relationships (not wives! Smile), but we don't want to feel that we are being worked into your schedule. It sort of takes away from the whole dynamic. I hope I am making some sense here.

liks2plzlf -> RE: Please use me (3/29/2006 12:46:02 PM)
Hi Goddess Thanks for your reply, what you say and believe, is improtant to me. I do search for your posts, and look forward to them. I probably did not put things in the right perspective before. What I meant to infer was that if I relocated to serve, i would be available 24/7, but not 365. I plan to move out of Salt Lake after I retire, but hope to still visit my familly occaisoinally, just to be with them. If i should be fortuntate to finally meet someone, i hope this will be negotiable. Ideally they might even enjoy traveling, and accompany me, with visiting them as a sidetrip. Traveling when I am retired is something I hope to do, but meeting the right woman, could change everything. I believe,as in the vanilla world, when you meet that certain person, your whole life is subject to change, as per there wants and desires. Do you desire service from some slaves more than others? I believe I would submit to the degree the Domme wanted me to, but might enjoy some things with one, that might not be enjoyable, or as enjoyable with another. I try to be totally honest about to what extent, i am able and willing to be used. To me nothing would be worse than failing to keep a promise or a committment. So I have not said "please use me Ma'am" although it is what i desire, i may not be able to totally comply. I a trying not to offer more than I am positive i will be willing to give. Can I still fantazise or hope for 24/7 320 or maybe 340? You are a Goddess, and i treasure your input, immensly. How do I get that litttle in reply to at the lower right corner?

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