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For those of us new in the lifestyle what should one av... - 2/18/2010 10:13:38 PM   
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RE: For those of us new in the lifestyle what should on... - 2/18/2010 10:27:38 PM   
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RE: For those of us new in the lifestyle what should on... - 2/18/2010 10:31:58 PM   
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RE: For those of us new in the lifestyle what should on... - 2/18/2010 11:11:43 PM   
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RE: For those of us new in the lifestyle what should on... - 2/19/2010 12:31:56 AM   
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Inconsistency.

Not listening.

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RE: For those of us new in the lifestyle what should on... - 2/19/2010 12:59:50 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: winterlight

in the lifestyle. What i mean is what are the behavioral types should newbies avoid.




People with the letters "IRS" on their business card.

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RE: For those of us new in the lifestyle what should on... - 2/19/2010 1:01:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

If someone makes your gut instinct twitch... PAY ATTENTION.


That said, PAY ATTENTION but don't jump to conclusions - good or bad.

Bad will out itself soon enough.

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RE: For those of us new in the lifestyle what should on... - 2/19/2010 1:23:55 AM   
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*Unless said person is a known professional and the money is a deposit on a booked session.  Even then, be sure to get references before making said deposit.

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RE: For those of us new in the lifestyle what should on... - 2/19/2010 4:15:23 AM   
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RE: For those of us new in the lifestyle what should on... - 2/19/2010 6:59:15 AM   
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You might hate someone who is jealous. But to me that shows he cares passionately.

You might hate a daddy/little girl dynamic, but others love it.

You need to figure out what you need in a partner and reject anyone who doesn't fit with you.

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RE: For those of us new in the lifestyle what should on... - 2/19/2010 7:05:52 AM   
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RE: For those of us new in the lifestyle what should on... - 2/19/2010 7:14:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		Avoid the same "types of people" as you would in "real life."

There are no magic keys to success in this lifestyle.  At least, none different than those in RL.

Looking for such filters is going to get you in more trouble than not having them at all. LOL!  What I mean is; that by concentrating on such a filter, you'll blind yourself to the fact that RL and "this" lifestyle are no different than RL with one exception; that being that the folks here are kinky.

So, looking for such filters tells me that you think there are some....... when there are not.  Concenetrate on YOUR gut when dealing with YOUR set of kinky peeps. 

"All generalizations are false, including this one," are wise words to live by.

edited for teeny spelling errors

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RE: For those of us new in the lifestyle what should on... - 2/19/2010 3:50:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		You avoid the same types you would avoid anywhere. Bdsm doesn't change that. If you've made it to the age you are you must have some kind of clue what types of people to avoid.

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RE: For those of us new in the lifestyle what should on... - 2/19/2010 4:56:34 PM   
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RE: For those of us new in the lifestyle what should on... - 2/19/2010 8:13:11 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LanceHughes

Avoid the same "types of people" as you would in "real life."

There are no magic keys to success in this lifestyle.  At least, none different than those in RL.

Looking for such filters is going to get you in more trouble than not having them at all. LOL!  What I mean is; that by concentrating on such a filter, you'll blind yourself to the fact that RL and "this" lifestyle are no different than RL with one exception; that being that the folks here are kinky.

So, looking for such filters tells me that you think there are some....... when there are not.  Concenetrate on YOUR gut when dealing with YOUR set of kinky peeps. 

"All generalizations are false, including this one," are wise words to live by.

edited for teeny spelling errors


This.
Quoted for truth.

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RE: For those of us new in the lifestyle what should on... - 2/19/2010 8:23:06 PM   
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And the ones who smell like goat cheese.

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RE: For those of us new in the lifestyle what should on... - 2/19/2010 11:45:31 PM   
Justme696


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Status: offline 		It is best to avoid people...in general first...( meeting wise).
First learn and watch. Take time.
On here people ( online) can "act" any person they want to be.

Take time.

Just remember..nice people can hurt feelings too.

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RE: For those of us new in the lifestyle what should on... - 2/20/2010 9:00:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		Listen to your gut. If they claim to know what they are doing, but it really seems like they don't....STAY AWAY.

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