LadyNTrainer -> RE: Poll From A Troll (2/19/2010 9:54:38 PM)
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ORIGINAL: OralCuckGurl Interested in seeing any questions that have been asked by any purportedly submissive males to any dommes in which the response was something other than fulmination, sarcasm, negativity, hyper-ventilation, abuse, or condescension. Um, lots. The only ones that I see really getting slammed are the creepy ones, the socially clueless ones, and the ones that begin with assumptions that are fundamentally annoying or disrespectful - whether the posters fully understand this or not. If you're upset because some of your posts have gotten a negative response, it may seriously be worth looking at them and asking honestly what you might have done wrong. Getting a friendly domme's perspective may help, and you can generally get that if you ask in a nice, polite and neighborly way, human being to human being. Everybody but the really delusional weirdos with Top's Disease will generally respond well to simple friendliness minus any games, roleplaying, propositions, etc. And you don't need to hear from those folks anyhow; it won't be helpful. Dommes tend to be pretty sensitive to some specific buttons that are much too easy to push, because there are so many rude/ugly/unpleasant assumptions made about us by "submissive" men that simply aren't true. We're real people, human beings like everyone else, and when "submissives" talk to us like we're not, it tends to make us grumpy. Even introducing elements of submission inappropriately into a casual, friendly communication can push some "eek, inappropriate, what a creepy sleaze" buttons for dommes, so please be careful with getting consent before "oozing submission" onto anybody. If you do that, you increase your chances of getting a negative response. quote:
Verification of the actual question and your actual response would is necessary to validate this poll. I'll point out that this would be an excellent example of coming across as demanding or arrogant. I don't mind trying to be helpful by sharing my perspective, but it's not really reasonable to expect anyone to do research homework to hunt for citations because you consider it "necessary" for your validation.
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