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ORIGINAL: Vendaval

What you are describing here, Rayne 58, is a phobia, not common fear. Do talk to your Dominant and find out if He is serious about trying to de-sensitize you. That is
a process best surpervised by a psychologist trained in phobias and panic attacks.
If your Dom was just playing His sadistic side, then you can relax, but keep
a can of bug spray stashed in a nearby cabinet.

Hope this helps,

-Vendaval-

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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

My phobia is answering my messages in voice mail. Not kidding.

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ORIGINAL: Rayne58

I have a terrible phobia about crawling insects and spiders. Ever since I can remember I have had this fear. Anything bigger than a fingernail sets me into a state of terror.

I react badly to the sight of cockroaches. These are not little tiny brown ones that I used to see in NZ, these are horrible big black ones. There was one in the kitchen last night and I could not bring myself to get within two metres of it let alone stomp on it I even feel sick if I have to sweep up a dead one, the fear is that bad.

Master has now said that it's my responsibility to get rid of any cockroaches, and also thinking of catching a few and confronting me with them. Now I'm not sure of He was joking or not but I did tell Him that it would probably make me hysterical with fear and that would not be a pretty sight. I even ended up having bad dreams last night about it. I've tried to explain the fear I feel but He just thinks I am over-reacting.....any thoughts please would be much appreciated

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ORIGINAL: Sirandlittle1
Im a behavioural therapist, and can vouch, that most phobias, (irrational fears) are easily treated in 10 sessions.
Firstly, i take a thorough history of the phobia. Clues can sometimes be found of core belief systems that defy logic and require challenging.
2. Ensure the client has been taught relaxation training
3. Draw up a hierarchy of difficult situations and number them one to ten. 10 being the most intensely feared situation.
4. Once the client has sufficient education and proof that they can control their panic, using the relaxation techniques learnt, start with number one on the heirarchy of difficult situations. This maybe as small as saying the word cockroach  for some. It is the clients heirarchy, NOT mine that i adhere to. We repeat the exposure over and over again, until its 'boring' for the client, then we move to step two.
5. You must watch out for phobic avoidance behaviour, and negative thoughts that reinforce these beliefs and be qualified to challenge these successfully as you go.

I do actually think this recipe could be tried at home folks, but if its goes wrong because your Dom lacks the cognitive behavioural training required to counteract the blocks the phobic will put up, both behavioural and cognitively, then the phobia is re-inforced, and often at a higher intensity than before. Doing more damage than good.

Personally, i think he's giving you his arrogant and ignorant idea of a head fuck? Which in this circumstance is very poor judgement shown on his part. So communicate together that this is a hard limit, and he should sod off and brake another toy of his, not you.
littleone