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MissyRane -> Seeking..confusion (3/29/2006 3:47:30 AM)
I've been wondering, when I look at profiles n the Domme states it as Lesbian Female Dominant...why do they also put up that they're sometimes married to a man..or/and seeking sub fems sub males..etc..I think the lesbian part is confusing me[&:] can you folks help me out a bit?

MadamShy -> RE: Seeking..confusion (3/29/2006 3:52:42 AM)
least they are being honest I think they are just misguided and ment to say Bi-sexual

SoulfulSadism -> RE: Seeking..confusion (3/29/2006 4:09:50 AM)
real bad marriage maybe ?

Cloudz -> RE: Seeking..confusion (3/29/2006 5:20:35 AM)
Perhaps they did not find their true desire until after they were married?

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Seeking..confusion (3/29/2006 5:50:32 AM)
Sometimes people marry for reasons other than romantic idealism and attachment.

MHOO314 -> RE: Seeking..confusion (3/29/2006 6:36:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Sometimes people marry for reasons other than romantic idealism and attachment. This I am going to agree with, many many people today marry for convenience--i.e. their occupation expects "traditional" versus non--and people marry for better financial reasons

Jasmyn -> RE: Seeking..confusion (3/29/2006 6:36:39 AM)
Rane, those who are married wanting a dominant lesbian relationship with women might seem an oxymoron but they may be hardwired to dominate women with little to no interest in having a dominant or even kinky relationship with a man... and those who seek male subs as well as fem subs ...non-sexual service, gay boys, hets etc .. dominance doesn't always have to be about sexual orientation. I am in no way attracted to women, I can appreciate a sexy woman but don't have any burning desire to be with her, but I will play with women in scenes and have had women subs at my beck and call...so yeah if I can do it, then I can't see why a lesbian woman wouldn't be able to have a similar dynamic with male subs in her service. Nevertheless intriguing question ;)

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Seeking..confusion (3/29/2006 7:11:46 AM)
They probably mean that they only do BDSM with women. So, they're not saying they are a lesbian who is a Dominant, they are saying that they are Dominant who plays only with women. Maybe. Or, maybe they've discovered that they really are lesbian, but for whatever reasons, they don't want to leave their husbands. Fire

starymists -> RE: Seeking..confusion (3/29/2006 7:17:45 AM)
Being a bi-sexual female, I think I can add the following supposition. i have the only man I want or need already in my life, therefore, I seek women and women only. Not couples seeking a female, not a single guy...for a female in a marriage, she may have no lifestyle interest in men period. If you list yourself as bisexual, there are a ton of people who will write you, not having taken the time to read a profile that may state in other areas that she is not looking for a guy. To stream line the process, you simply can list yourself as lesbian which cuts down on all but the most obnoxious people who disregard what is written :)

MissyRane -> RE: Seeking..confusion (3/29/2006 7:44:12 AM)
Thank you all for giving me a better view on this matter[:)] Ohmy I'd never thought of it in relation to the "convenience" marriages... I certainly do hope Dommes don't state themselves as married-to-a-guy lesbians 'cause they forced themselves into marriage to "look" better...gosh I've got too much respect for the old fashioned marriage I think.... but I do agree..many end up in these advantage-marriages, and I think it's sad :( I do state myself as a bisexual but yet I'm kind of 99% lesbian but there is this 1 % missing[:D] so I don't complain about people reading my profile..plus I can't since my profile is um..unique? =P but I've been utterly (so I use my favorite word I'm hooked up on these days :P ) bored the last few days so I've been looking at different profiles and then I noticed this contradiction, if I can call it that, in some of the profiles; but I hope the reasons are the ones Jasmyn & Master Fire pointed out I can't imagine how much it's gotta suck staying in a marriage with a person you don't "mentally" want to be with[&:]

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