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asking a Mistress... - 2/25/2010 2:50:26 AM

lovestocking

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Hello,
Why is it so diffcult to find a Mistress?i am respectful and real,however i never get repond back or they are seeking money.
is it me or it is just a joke on collarme?like to know.

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RE: asking a Mistress... - 2/25/2010 2:55:38 AM

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You know the 'About CollarMe' forum I am not-terribly-energetically propaganding for? (I know, I know, I'd make a terrible Communist...)

If it existed, due to the wonderful kindness of our gorgeous and ultra-sexily delicious mods, this thread could go in it.

*This is my hopeful face*

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RE: asking a Mistress... - 2/25/2010 2:57:37 AM

Domin8tingUrDrmz

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Please review the link in my signature.

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RE: asking a Mistress... - 2/25/2010 3:48:57 AM

Amanece

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Hello!
I have found several of my subs on collarme. Actually it has been through alt or collarme that I have found my subs. I must say though, that finding a Mistress, a sub, or a vanilla lover if that is the case, is extremely difficult. There are so many factors, especially there must be the right click or chemistry even if all the other things are working.
Right now I know a lot of wonderful men and women looking and having a difficult time. I think that lack of love is one of the mayor problems of our society. A lot of people, including me, obsessed with past lovers. Terrible.
But one must keep on trying, looking.
What has attracted me to subs are a good profile and the sub who has gone beyond the questions the web post by including a story, giving information that shows where he is standing, his position , his abilty ot express and live that what he says he wants. Sometimes you read a post of a sub and find them full of anger and spite...and then they say they are humble and want to submit...hmm.
good luck!

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RE: asking a Mistress... - 2/25/2010 4:43:12 AM

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Everything in life is hard. You can do it, though. It will take planning and effort. I have known many great Mistresses in my life. You can do the same thing.

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RE: asking a Mistress... - 2/25/2010 1:55:22 PM

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What Domin8tingUrDrmz said. Go to the FAQ link in her sig line, read and learn.

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< Message edited by dreamerdreaming -- 2/25/2010 1:56:20 PM >

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RE: asking a Mistress... - 2/25/2010 3:46:47 PM

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lovestocking, I have perved your profile and believe I can help you understand why you're not getting hits:

You have no picture - Women are visual creatures, too. You don't have to provide anything salacious nor show your face. Just provide a good and accurate presentation of you are.

There is nothing checked in your "interests" column - Ya gotta give a gal something to work with.

Your profile text is brief and relatively uninformative. Except for warning your intendeds that you are emotionally unavailable and, apparently, don't intend to spend any money on them, there's nothing there. Sure, you offer loyalty and service, but in what form? And by whose definition?

You have committed either a few typographical errors or outright spelling errors. For those who are capable, writing correctly counts. Je promis.

Your profile isn't doing you any favors. Even if you send better than the unloved one-liner introductory letter (see SylvereApLeanan's FAQ) when you contact Ladies, you haven't given a Gal anything to work with, once she checks you out. Sorry, kid. If you want any responses, make yourself worthy of those responses. Do the work to create a path to your intended - Don't make her do it all.

Do, please, read Sylvere's FAQ at the top of the Ask a Mistress forum. It may provide you a world of help.

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RE: asking a Mistress... - 2/26/2010 6:49:46 PM

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Hi.

Don't give up. The best way to find a Mistress who's your type is to be truthful and honest about yourself. That'll attract someone who shares your interest.

If a Mistress asks for money, like you said, it might be because you send her a list that sounds like a session of the fantasy you want done like your a client. If you act like a client and treat a Mistress like a prostitute, she'll charge you like any customer. There's lots of Mistresses who don't charge. We don't turn away a slave who's broke. Servitude and obedience is more important than money.

Hope this helps.

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