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RE: Where does it end uh part 2 :) - 3/1/2010 8:03:58 AM

SimplyMichael

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I guess my question would be, at what point did you realize that he was going to define it for you though? ~s

For me, each relationship is the unique blend of myself and the person who I have chosen as a partner. They have been very very different and I don't plan on changing that. They share common characteristics, an enjoyment of lifes simple pleasures, honesty and clarity, mutual support and growth, but things like the amount and kinds of sex and bdsm have varied greatly.

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You know that moment when you realized that any preconceived ideas you had simply didn't matter/apply? Did that make sense?

I do bdsm to step outside the box not wrap one tighter around myself and so while I may have preconcieved ideas, I don't hold on to them if something else works better or seems worth exploring.

I don't have a "perfect relationship" image or concept in my head, not in the sense of what it will look like, hell she doesn't even have to be a brunette, we might live on a boat and have nothing to do with the bdsm scene or it could be we live over a dungeon we run, or perhaps we retire to the country and well, the things I want are a partner who brings joy and a vibrant sense of life to me and I do my best to bring that to her as well, along with warm bread, a gentle squeeze when I sense she needs one, and a smile to show her how much I love her. Oh, okay, she has to wear hot boots once in a while but a guy has to have some standards!

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RE: Where does it end uh part 2 :) - 3/1/2010 12:59:30 PM

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wandersalone.... omg dreaded slashy speak, really?!

That was cute. You sound positively jubilant about your relationship which is a wonderful place to be! It sounds like he gave you the room to get comfortable being around him, then roped ya in ;) Nice.

Lorenzo... I agree with you that for many people that scenario is what works for them. I would also agree that there are alot of women out there who aren't happy and don't know why. I think that women and society have done alot to emasculate men on the one hand, and then on the other complain about how there aren't any real men left. (Which I think is what you were getting at with the second post essentially) However (had to know that was coming) A lot of women know exactly what they want and sometimes it's that they want to be in charge, they find that, and it's all roses. Lots of times women know exactly what they want... A man in absolute control, they find that and it all comes out roses. I think the key is for people, men or women, to take the time to know what it is they want... not an exact picture for someone else to live up to, but to know themselves well enough to seek, find and keep what it is they need and want.

Andalusite... Master and I talked about those things alot also. Lol, well okay, he explained how it would be and I said... okay! :) The point is, it's good to know what you are signing up for!

SimplyMichael... Thank you for your thoughts on this. I would agree each relationship is different, they have to bend and sway with the needs of the two people in it. I think it's a mistake when people set up an ideal image of the perfect relationship... I think it leaves only room for disappointment. My approach was simple... I need to be Mastered... how, by who, etc was up in the air.

Thank you to everyone who contributed!
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RE: Where does it end uh part 2 :) - 3/1/2010 4:47:48 PM

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Not all women are submissive.

I have no opinion on the Dominant Women. The topic is about submission and slavery. I suppose a Mistress could enslave herself. It has been done before. and the girl vs Girl was a subtle hint.

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RE: Where does it end uh part 2 :) - 3/1/2010 4:59:56 PM

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A lot of women know exactly what they want and sometimes it's that they want to be in charge, they find that, and it's all roses.

The topic is about submissives and slaves. Are you suggesting a submissive and/or slave wants to be in control? That doesnt make sense to Me. And that she would find happiness in that control? Maybe the poor girl is a Mistress in disguise and has fantasies of collaring a Dominant.

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RE: Where does it end uh part 2 :) - 3/1/2010 7:17:33 PM

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A man can be a submissive, and a woman can be dominant, ya know.

I'm not into the weird capitalization thing. I assumed by "girl" you meant that the individual was female. For that matter, there are some rather dominant masochists out there, who *do* want to feel in control of how they get hurt, how they serve, and so forth. A lot of people feel that is negative, and refer to it as topping from the bottom, but if it works within a particular relationship, more power to them!

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