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CarrieO -> RE: No wonder there are so many wannabes ... (2/27/2010 7:52:25 AM)
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ORIGINAL: BLoved
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ORIGINAL: Fitznicely
I wouldn't dismiss the good old fashioned methods, though. Worked fine for me, and many millions of others [:D]
Worked fine for me too, providing I was in or near an urban centre.
Not the same when you live on a gravel road where there are more cows than people.
Even for some of those who aren't on the gravel roads surrounded by cows but instead are just on the outskirts.
I can't answer you question on " Why do so many Canadian female submissives set their standards so low? " I
wonder why so many people in general set their standards so low. I have girlfriends who will break it off with one
man because they say "he's an ass and treats me like crap" then turn around a week or month later and be with the
same type of guy. Their reasoning is that it's better than being alone and besides "He'll get better in time." So you
see, it's not just kink folks that have low or high standards...it's people in general.
OP, I only know you from your recent posts here on CM and what I see is that you have very high standards and
expectations in regards to people and relationships. That's neither good or bad...it just is. It does become a
problem, though, when you try to push these attitudes on others. I'd like to suggest you try to remain open-minded
but I don't think that would work for you.
I do know I have a very good friend who has similar views as yours in
regards to relationships and bdsm and after a failed marriage, because I believe he tried to push his kink on
someone who wasn't interested or ready, he has found woman...his slave. Ironically, he knew her for a long time
and didn't meet on a kink site but in a very vanilla setting. Neither lowered their high standards.
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ORIGINAL: BLoved
As for vanilla women ... I've no reason to think they'd be interested in the relationship I seek.
It is interesting that when people think of "love" they think "vanilla", and when they think of "sex" they think "bdsm".
Says a lot about the stereotypes, as if a loving bdsm relationship is a contradiction in terms.
I must say, this quoted portion above from one of your posts is confusing. You talk about a perceived stereotype
you see in bdsm relationships and then go on to stereotype people for their opinions. It reminds me of the televangilist
who damns people to hell for extramarital affairs and a list of other sins and then gets caught doing those exact
same things.
Best of luck with your search.
*edited for lack of caffeine
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