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WinsomeDefiance -> RE: No wonder there are so many wannabes ... (2/27/2010 10:14:12 AM)
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Hi Bob, I had a few thoughts regrding your original post and figured I'd share them.
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Tells me who was viewing my profile (not that it mattered if they didn't write),
I know that when I first signed up to this site, I would view profiles that interested me, but never wrote to anyone. Mostly, I thought it was disrespectful to innitiate conversations with a dominant. I've since changed my mind about that, but it was my belief at the time. It could be the same for others who viewed your profile and never wrote. There's also the possiblity that an old "men do the courting" mindset that still prevails in the corner of some minds, and so women are not always the first to write, even if they are interested. Maybe you aren't into courting a submissive, but if you were then I'd think it might be a good approach for you. Just a few thoughts for you to ponder. I just think it might not be a bad idea to just write a hello to someone who viewed your profile.
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let's me re-check all those profiles where the woman wrote nothing in her profile,
So few actually read profiles, that I can understand why a submissive might find it a waste of time to have much in her profile. For example: All my profile says is that I am not looking to meet anyone and not interested in replying to unsolicited email from anyone. I still get mail from men telling me how much they LOVED what I wrote in my profile and how amazing I am and how they know what I'm looking for.[:@] What have you lost, but time, if you took a few minutes to write and say hello to a few of those who viewed your prfile?
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... so many whose primary focus is sex.
I understand that you don't want casual sex. That's sort of been discussed. But, you know, sex itself isn't a bad thing. If you have a sexual disfunction, I can understand why you might not want someone with a high sex drive, but there are other ways of incorporating pleasure that can satisfy a woman with a high sex drive, that need not involve you being hard and functional. I know this is a touchy subject, and I'm likely to get a scathing response from you, but I promise I am not trying to get any snarky digs or insults in at you.
And finally, lest my post become too long winded:
Why must there be so firm a line drawn between sex and true love? Why can't the two go together? I don't understand where the disconnect is, in your mind, between a healthy sexual drive and the ability and desire to find a loving and fulfilling WHOLE relationship. Honestly, I don't see your location as the problem because I've looked at your pictures and it seems like a place that has the potential for being a beatiful home filled with love. Its sad that you could have so much to offer someone, and yet you can't seem to get past the negativity you see everywhere you look.
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