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Madame4a -> RE: I Need a Slave to Love (2/27/2010 1:32:18 PM)

of course you will...



Dante17677 -> RE: I Need a Slave to Love (2/27/2010 1:32:35 PM)

I never found porn to be that interesting. In most instances I was actually disgusted by it. Of course I'm also unusual in that I'm more tactile than visual, which is why I tend to like curvy, healthy women. Particularly if they have soft skin. 



Jeffff -> RE: I Need a Slave to Love (2/27/2010 1:34:07 PM)

RedMagic is about as far from HNG as you can get.

You are only making yourself look foolish.

The beginning of wisdom is realizing you don't know it all.


Jeff



VaguelyCurious -> RE: I Need a Slave to Love (2/27/2010 1:35:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Dante17677

I'll probably get what I deserve, but it won't be quite what you're hoping for. I'm also fortunate that people in my family age VERY gracefully. I'll still look like I'm in my 20's when I'm 40. And when I'm 70, I'll look 35 or so.


Well enjoy looking 35 and everything, but I get the feeling that if you don't alter your attitude before then you will be a very lonely 70-year-old.

BTW, I'm kinda young, compared to the rest of these guys. I'm also in demand. People that know me generally want to be with me. And I think you haven't got a hope in hell at the moment, if you are this confrontational in all environments.

You know that anyone browsing your profile can go straight to a list of all your forum posts, right? Do you think they show you in a good light? Do you think you come across as someone in control of themselves? Someone with good communication skills?

Someone that anyone else would want to be with? Not just the wonder-women you picked out; anyone at all?



RedMagic1 -> RE: I Need a Slave to Love (2/27/2010 1:38:48 PM)

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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven
Slight hijack here, but excellent article about what online porn does to young men:

http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2003/nov/08/gender.weekend7

Thanks, Raven.  That looks superb.  Do you mind if I add it to my Porn Statistics thread in Off Topic?

I've only skimmed it, but the effect on men seems anecdotal, not statistically analyzed.  10,000 porn films made in California each year versus 400 Hollywood movies each year was quite a number though.

Meanwhile, Dante, I know a few women who have done porn.  As in, know in real life, went to art galleries and talked about pottery techniques with them.  That kind of thing.  It demystified the industry a lot.  Women -- even porno women -- are just people.



Jeffff -> RE: I Need a Slave to Love (2/27/2010 1:41:58 PM)

You're so CUTE!


VC is a perfect example. When she joined, as I recall, she cane on a bit strong. Ron called her Vag... she didn't like it...:)

She settled in just fine.

If she was older and closer, I'd bang her!



UniqueRaven -> RE: I Need a Slave to Love (2/27/2010 1:45:50 PM)


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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

quote:

ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven
Slight hijack here, but excellent article about what online porn does to young men:

http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2003/nov/08/gender.weekend7

Thanks, Raven.  That looks superb.  Do you mind if I add it to my Porn Statistics thread in Off Topic?

I've only skimmed it, but the effect on men seems anecdotal, not statistically analyzed.  10,000 porn films made in California each year versus 400 Hollywood movies each year was quite a number though.

Meanwhile, Dante, I know a few women who have done porn.  As in, know in real life, went to art galleries and talked about pottery techniques with them.  That kind of thing.  It demystified the industry a lot.  Women -- even porno women -- are just people.



Absolutely, feel free to use it however you want. [:)]



VaguelyCurious -> RE: I Need a Slave to Love (2/27/2010 1:46:58 PM)

Dear Jeffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffff,

If you keep stalking me through threads in order to call me cute, I will find out where you live and post barbed wire to your house every day until you stop.

Love and hugs (but no banging because I'm too young and far away and you're too male)

VC
:-P



wandersalone -> RE: I Need a Slave to Love (2/27/2010 1:52:15 PM)

Dante firstly welcome to the forums and I hope you find what you are looking for [:)]

.......... now for the rest of my thoughts based upon your profile and your comments that I have seen here.  I know that I am not alone in being someone that clicks on the button under a profile to see any forum posts that a person has made.  Think about the posts you have made on this thread and think about your perfect angel reading those and these being her first introduction to you..... what image does this portray?

And yes of course you can say "but they started it" though I confess to not having seen any trollish behaviour nor many people old enough to be your grandparents in fact given that you are 31 (unless your mum had you at 6 maybe [:D]).  My feeling is that there was a lot of helpful and well-meaning advice given to you however you reacted with hostility and yes, immature name calling.  You say you are a dominant... is this how a dominant is? (ask your mentor for advice on what would have been a more mature and a more positive way to respond to people here [:)])

Does it suck that people are all coming here and suggesting that your bdsm vision needs a bit of tweaking? I am sure it does but think about why they are suggesting it and think about the experience many of these people have had in bdsm, real life, not simply by having a mentor.  They know from experience what happens when someone's dream is so rigid that it will mean they miss out on a lot of other opportunities.

As others have touched upon there is much in your profile that would set the red lights flashing, most notably it seems that you don't actually like being around people.  What are the things about yourself that a slave will be attracted to besides your ability to play video games?  My first thought at reading your profile was that life has maybe been difficult for you and my second thought was that I hope that you truly are ready and available (emotionally) for a M/s relationship as they can be incredibly intense.

Restricting yourself to finding someone just through the internet means that it may take longer for you to find your dream woman so maybe in the meantime you can focus and reflect on the image you portray, they type of dominant and master you want to be and the man that you are now.

I hope you don't see my comments as well as being trollish though yes, I guess based upon your previous comments to posters of a similar age to me I fall into the grandparent category (note to self.... I must stop going to those infernal rock music things with all the young kids and start acting my age [:D] )

I wish you all the best







rulemylife -> RE: I Need a Slave to Love (2/27/2010 2:20:51 PM)

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ORIGINAL: UniqueRaven

quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

I wonder how much internet porn -- especially how easy and available it is -- has changed virginal men's understanding of women?



Slight hijack here, but excellent article about what online porn does to young men:

http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2003/nov/08/gender.weekend7




Or maybe some people (women included) just like to watch other people getting off.

No..........that can't be it.

There must be some deeper psychological meaning.  [:o]



rulemylife -> RE: I Need a Slave to Love (2/27/2010 2:38:42 PM)

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

I wonder how much internet porn -- especially how easy and available it is -- has changed virginal men's understanding of women?



I think you would be the prime candidate to answer that, despite your pompous tales of being the ultimate ladies man.

How's that pottery thing working out?

I see nothing has changed here on the touchy-feely side of the boards.






JohnWarren -> RE: I Need a Slave to Love (2/27/2010 2:53:43 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Dante17677

I wonder if this happens on all the forums. Someone posts what they desire, and suddenly trolls appear. I find that if trolls appear it's best to humor them or ignore them depending on the circumstances. Some trolls are funny, but these ones are just...ignorant.


I suppose you'll classify me as "ignorant" too, but I've been watching and for the most part I've been seeing people, more or less gently, trying to advise a newcomer that his attitudes and reactions are hardly likely to endear him to the members of the audience he claims to be seeking.

About the only praise I can offer you is that you win the "Truth in Advertising" award.



GreedyTop -> RE: I Need a Slave to Love (2/27/2010 2:57:49 PM)

*waves hi and sends warmest regards to John and Libby*

OP.. since you're new, I'm going to assume that you are unaware of who John is.

John is a VERY HIGHLY REGARDED person, nationally, and (dare I say it?) internationally, within the BDSM circles.  HE has written books (Loving DOminant, to name one) that are considered to be (by many) a sort of bible.. the number of times it is recommended to newbies (and to not-so-newbies) is astounding.

If you won't listen to anyone else, perhaps taking a cue from John's words would be a nice idea....



JohnWarren -> RE: I Need a Slave to Love (2/27/2010 4:07:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

*waves hi and sends warmest regards to John and Libby*

OP.. since you're new, I'm going to assume that you are unaware of who John is.

John is a VERY HIGHLY REGARDED person, nationally, and (dare I say it?) internationally, within the BDSM circles.  HE has written books (Loving DOminant, to name one) that are considered to be (by many) a sort of bible.. the number of times it is recommended to newbies (and to not-so-newbies) is astounding.

If you won't listen to anyone else, perhaps taking a cue from John's words would be a nice idea....


Blush!



GreedyTop -> RE: I Need a Slave to Love (2/27/2010 4:22:19 PM)

just stating the truth, John :)



WyldHrt -> RE: I Need a Slave to Love (2/27/2010 4:43:52 PM)

Greedy is bang on about John, OP. If you don't want to listen to the others who have posted, I hope you will listen to someone well known in the 'lifestyle' as an authority on WIITWD.

As for people being rude to you, they weren't. They were simply being honest and straightforward, as this forum is not a place where people sugarcoat their opinions. You are, of course, welcome to look for whatever you like in a partner. The point that many were making is that in order to attract the kind of person you want, you need to be someone who will catch their eye and interest. For the vast majority of those who identify as submissives seeking a Dominant, things like confidence, common sense, maturity, and self control aren't options, they are requirements.

If you wish a submissive to follow your lead, the key is to be someone that shows himself capable of leading. Watching how someone who identifies as Dominant interacts with others is a big clue for many submissives here as to whether said person is someone they can trust with their safety and their life. Think about what getting upset over some rather light criticism from people who are genuinely trying to help you says to those subs (perhaps even your angel) who are reading this thread.

~$.02 from another elderly forum regular
*Edited because I'm having a "word salad" posting day [>:]



DarkSteven -> RE: I Need a Slave to Love (2/27/2010 4:54:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

Dear Jeffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffffff,

If you keep stalking me through threads in order to call me cute, I will find out where you live and post barbed wire to your house every day until you stop.

Love and hugs (but no banging because I'm too young and far away and you're too male)

VC
:-P



VC, I agree 100% with what you say about Jeffff.  I find it absolutely horrible that he should stalk and pester you like this.

I'd like to find a quiet place where we could discuss him and his cad ways in more detail.  Could I get you a drink there?



RedMagic1 -> RE: I Need a Slave to Love (2/27/2010 5:09:47 PM)

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ORIGINAL: rulemylife
I think you would be the prime candidate to answer that, despite your pompous tales of being the ultimate ladies man.

How's that pottery thing working out?

I have no idea where that came from, but I don't do pottery myself.  Two friends of mine do, and they get into juried shows.  Their studio is walking distance from where I live, so I go there sometimes to watch the kiln being opened, to see if their latest firing is beautiful, or a big mess.  Yeah, it's dorky, even for an artsy type.

I've been rejected by lots of women, including one who moved in with me in December 2009, and moved out later in December 2009.  Perhaps you think I lie about my life because I don't post about the fights she and I had, and I don't post negative things about my friends and sexual partners on the boards.  I post negative things about myself sometimes, or about how I interpret the posts of others.  So maybe my life sounds "too perfect" to you, and you think it can't possibly be real.  It's far from perfect, though.  I had a good friend get home from the hospital last night, I received disappointing financial news earlier in the week, and I was supposed to have a first meet in a Starbuck's in Des Moines today, and the woman canceled on me this morning because she had to take her own mother to the hospital.

I don't consider it appropriate to complain in public about people who trust me, or who used to trust me.  I also consider it immature to rant about my problems in public.  It doesn't mean those problems don't exist, though.  You know what they say: just because you can't see it, doesn't mean it's not there.

And PS: I love watching porn!  Don't you?



GreedyTop -> RE: I Need a Slave to Love (2/27/2010 5:14:19 PM)

*adores Red beyond words because he is HUMAN,  doesnt place unrealistic expectations upon people, and recognizes his own human frailties*



RedMagic1 -> RE: I Need a Slave to Love (2/27/2010 5:17:19 PM)

Well, that's very nice of you to say, considering I've been a lameass and not called you back.



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