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GoddessDustyGold -> RE: How do you know if its the right Mistress (3/30/2006 11:25:24 AM)
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ORIGINAL: tgrss
I have read a lot about proper manners for a sub.. but what about proper manners for a Dominant.. I am a Dominant and would never consider shutting out a sub completely without at least letting he/she know what it is that was done wrong... how else do We expect the sub to grow and learn? Just because We are Dominant does not mean We should forget how to be respectful People (unless that is the desire of B/both). Submissive does not mean sub-human.
I absolutely agree. I am not like that, and it's not My style to be a domineering bitch. I am more of a "Classy Bitch" *W*
I posed questions to the OP to try to determine if this was his chosen Lady's style, or if he was aware of this and enough communicaton had been done before jumping in.
I still stand by the fact that I, and many I know, do not hold with the part time D/s and part time vanilla. The D/s or M/s is always there, even when necessary vanilla interaction in day to day life is happening.
He may not appreciate her style...I'm sure I wouldn't appreciate her style...if that was the case that equals a positive answer...Yes, she was not the right one. But I don't just turn the Dominant off, and I wouldn't want My boy to just turn the submissive off. There are ways to communicate with each other while leaving the dynamic intact.
Just a word to the OP about making sure he understands what it is he needs and expects from a D/s relationship, so he can make a better match the next time.
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