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antinomy -> RE: Dealing with distance (3/1/2010 7:57:57 AM)
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You actually have to deal with several different issues here. The first is the nature of the relationship, and the fact that your girl still has some growing up to do. Will she grow out of the lying? Impossible to know...
But, yes, distance IS a liar's friend. Believe me, I know. I put my life on hold for seven years waiting for a long distance relationship to become 24/7; only to find out that for the majority of that time I had been involved with someone that could not recognize the truth if it hit him over the head. He was very good at his game, though- and even though I was a mature adult, and should have KNOWN better, I kept giving him the benefit of the doubt. I WANTED his lies to be the truth, so I kept believing, even with the niggling feeling that one has when they know 'something' isn't right. It was my own fault, the red flags were there, I just chose to ignore them. I am no victim, I have nobody to blame but myself. I wasted 7 years of my life and who knows what I may have missed out on along the way? How much do you want to miss out on? How many months, or years, are you willing to invest in this? What are you hoping for in the way of a future with this girl? Tough questions, but better to ask them NOW than to wait, wonder, and eventually regret that you didn't ask them sooner.
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