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Evanesce -> RE: How do you? (3/31/2006 11:25:54 PM)
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OK, here's my .02 from my dominant side:
First, even though others are telling you to put up a better pic of you, that should be at the low end of your priority list. It's kind of a cute pic; you look very young (and you are, so that's ok), and at least it's a real pic of the real you.
Secondly, I would recommend that you do a little more soul searching to find out exactly where you are in the BDSM spectrum. You'll be MUCH more attractive to dominants if you know who you are and what you seek and can convey that with confidence and style.
Third, I would say don't let yourself get so wrapped up in "what are you into" that you neglect one important fact - that no matter how kinky it is, or how deeply you delve into slavery, you're still building a relationship, and when the whips are put away and playtime is over, you should still have something in common with that other person. You want to enjoy their company as a person, too... not just as a Domme.
Finally... be true to yourself. Don't compromise your values and morals, and don't "settle" for something that isn't right for you just so you can say you're owned. There are dominants out there who are more than willing to take on newbies, so just be patient. Go out, meet folks and make friends. Attend munches and, if the over 40 crowd is a little too intimidating for you, find your local TNG group and start there. TNG is for new folks between the ages of 18 and 35. If you get out and meet people, and you're friendly and polite, someone will surely take an interest in you.
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