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Mercnbeth -> RE: jealousy, insecurity, "neediness," etc. (3/30/2006 9:17:01 AM)
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ORIGINAL: fullofgrace
has anyone else struggled with this in the past or currently? i know i am dealing much better with it, but i'm not quite sure how to shake this uneasiness at the replaceability factor, nor not let my neediness and insecurity get the best of me in that regard. how do you all handle these emotions when they come up?
if you do a search here, you will find that there have been many threads started to discuss these types of issues seperately and together. books have been written, theses submitted, entire counseling practices revolving around and billions of dollars made by the pharmeceutical industry from people who struggle with these issues well into "adult"-hood, and there is still no "one true" answer to your question.
personally, the only way this slave has been able to eliminate negative emotions is by feasting on them, wallowing in them until she just can't stand it anymore.this slave used to have a BIG problem with jealousy... in junior high school. By the time high school rolled around, this slave was sick of the way it made her feel. this slave was not jealous of other's belongings or their looks, but the "relationships" they had, the friendships...the steady boyfriends, all boiled down to this slave wished she had what they had, so much it made her frustrated and angry and eventually she would cry over it and ruin her make-up(hey, it was the eighties AND high school). THAT got really, really tiresome. At age 14 it was high time to do something about it. envy and jealousy are not "qualities" or "emotions" that this slave wants to spend any time with.
this slave was always proud of herself for being smart, so this slave decided to combat the jealous thoughts and feelings with logic and reason each and every time. every time she would feel that pang of jealousy she would immediately begin the reasoning process building up her own self-image in the process---it took practice, years of practice, at the same time this slave worked on her own self-esteem and also on being patient--that too, took lots of practice. it wasn't easy, but something this slave really wanted to get rid of, as she sees jealousy as ugly and repulsive.
14 years later, this slave isn't jealous of anyone, (even that hot girl Master scened with at the party the other night~this slave hoped they both had a fantastic time!!!!) this slave turned jealousy over other's relationships into a "positive affirmation of self" exercise and eventually this slave replaced jealousy and envy with love and joy that those folks have something wonderful----it is, indeed, possible to be happy for others, especially someone you love dearly, without feeling jealousy, even if that's how you "used to" feel.
Some spiritual folk believe that emotions are the physical representation of spiritual entities and we can accept and feed them energy or banish them. You reap what your emotions sow. You also reap what your behaviors that are triggered by those emotions sow. Certain emotions are not only specifically designed to trigger behavior but also show up in a measurable physiological response—expressed verbally, physically, otherwise or not expressed consciously at all. Some folks pick up on it without you having to utter a sound or behave in a certain manner and certain animals definitely do, within range of course.
The pharmaceutical industry has made BILLIONS hedging the bet you’ll take ANY risk not to FEEL a particular emotion. No work on your part involved, all you need is a glass of water and a participating physician. For some, it works, for others temporarily, and for still others, it doesn’t. This slave has had permanent success doing it sans pharmaceutical help—natural & holistic remedies, repetitive desensitizing experiences, reprogramming exercises, hypnosis, meditation, spiritual journeys and focus.
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