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Reilithion -> RE: 24/7 + communication (3/30/2006 2:35:59 AM)
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I've always found that picking the right medium can help a lot. I write very well (or, so I'm told), and I'm a fast typer, so I often choose to blog my feelings, or Instant Message, or even just type them out into a regular electronic document (OpenOffice.org rules!). You should choose the medium you're most comfortable with, and in which you're the most open. If you feel comfortable just talking straight to your partner (and zie hasn't imposed any speech restrictions on you ^_^), then by all means, just start talking. If, on the other hand, you are like so many other young women I'm familiar with, and direct communication can be intimidating to you, then try recording your message somehow. Podcasts come to mind, or just simple audio files (these apply if you have a microphone, or even just a regular cassette recorder). Writing a letter can be helpful.
Beyond the medium you choose, you should also consider how the message will be received. In your case, you should probably address your fears that he'll think he'll scar you for life, etc. If it were me, I would try the direct and brutally honest approach with something like, "Before, what my ex did really scared me. But I feel safe with you, and I find that my fantasies are reaching back for some of those things. Thinking about some of them really turns me on now!" I'd probably also add a bit on how my partner could be sure that everything was okay: "Don't worry. I promise I'll use the safeword if anything starts to scare me." This can be very reassuring to a Top.
Once you've gotten your message the way you like it, it's time to deliver. This is where you must be direct. Give zer your letter. Direct zer to your blog. Say what you mean to say. Make sure zie understands. Don't walk off. Be there to make sure zie reads the whole thing. Be there to answer questions. Communication is key.
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