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serveatherpleasu -> In search of Mistres and direction (3/3/2010 1:35:58 PM)

Hello, it has taken me a long time to decide that this is what I need to do and then to decide where to try to find some direction. I am a 50 yr old male  6 ft 220 lbs a little overweight and in need of some help. after 20 years I lost my job my marriage fell apart, and in retrospect it all comes down to my failings. I believe that I need someone to tear me down and build me up into a better person.
That is how I got here, it will be a long journey, I hope a productive one.



DarkSteven -> RE: In search of Mistres and direction (3/3/2010 5:20:07 PM)

Welcome.

I hate to say this, but the Dominas I've known tend to want men that aren't projects.  Providing a little direction and discipline is okay, but being the provider of all the direction for you... See how much you can strengthen yourself first.



Kaiel -> RE: In search of Mistres and direction (3/4/2010 5:41:34 AM)

hello and Good luck! 



serveatherpleasu -> RE: In search of Mistres and direction (3/4/2010 6:58:55 AM)

Thank you. Ma'am



serveatherpleasu -> RE: In search of Mistres and direction (3/4/2010 7:01:02 AM)

Thank you for the advice. Sir



choccywoc -> RE: In search of Mistres and direction (3/4/2010 8:23:16 AM)

Welcome to CM but don't rush in to what might lead you to disaster.



serveatherpleasu -> RE: In search of Mistres and direction (3/4/2010 2:53:46 PM)

Thanks I plan to take things slowly.



serveatherpleasu -> RE: In search of Mistres and direction (3/4/2010 2:54:48 PM)

Thanks I plan to take things slowly.



CarrieO -> RE: In search of Mistres and direction (3/4/2010 3:57:21 PM)

Welcome.

DarkSteven is right....you talk of needing your character rebuilt in your journal entry, this would be a huge red flag for me.  Work on that yourself, your ethical strength and integrity, that which is your character...why would anyone want to take on such a project of rebuilding a person from the inside out?

I'm not saying this to be hurtful, I'm saying it as a reality check.  Good luck.



wandersalone -> RE: In search of Mistres and direction (3/5/2010 12:30:01 AM)

welcome to the forums, read the threads in the Ask a Mistress section and note the posts from some of the male submissives there and learn from them. [:)]

This part in your profile worries me i will become a part of something greater than myself, i will belong to someone, and will know that should i have problems, doubts, or need help that i can turn to her for the guidance that i will continually need.  You sound like you will be a LOT of work for someone and I do not know how many people would want that.

As Steven and CarrieO have said a lot of the things you are wanting do come from within and in my mind submitting is about showing a a Dominant that you are choosing to submit to them because you are strong, not because you are weak and want to be fixed.

I wish you all the best in your life, it sounds like you have had a rough few years [:)]



MsMillgrove -> RE: In search of Mistres and direction (3/5/2010 3:53:58 AM)

(in reply to OP)

As a domme who gets off on ownership, I wasn't detered by the analogy of the painter creating a masterpiece. However, the list of your character traits that were said to be missing or recessed included both honesty and trust. The cornerstone of a d/s relationship is trust. If you cannot bring with you the quality of being trustworthy--and you're missing honesty, I don't see how you can expect any Mistress to consider you.

A minor mistake: the repetition of the word "tenant" mildly bugged me. Would like to see you fix that error.

A warm welcome to CM and best of luck.
MsM



sirsholly -> RE: In search of Mistres and direction (3/5/2010 5:13:34 AM)

quote:

I believe that I need someone to tear me down and build me up into a better person.
Dear one...put the effort into healing yourself now. You are worth it.



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