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myfastrs4 -> new dom (3/4/2010 5:58:00 PM)
I am new to this and i am looking from someone that has a female sub that is willing to show/teach me how to dom. I am looking for someone in the philly area for help thanks.

thishereboi -> RE: new dom (3/4/2010 6:19:57 PM)
Have you looked for local groups in your area?

myfastrs4 -> RE: new dom (3/4/2010 6:23:32 PM)
i have seached for local groups but i havent found any. Do you know of any?

thishereboi -> RE: new dom (3/4/2010 6:31:19 PM)
http://www.domsubfriends.com/cgi-local/wwwdir/db.cgi?db=org&uid=default&state=PENNSYLVANIA&view_records=View+Records&ww=on

Focus50 -> RE: new dom (3/5/2010 2:30:19 AM)
Well I'm curious.... Exactly what is your "need" here? To me, asking how to "dom" is akin to a vanilla asking how to be a hetero male (for eg). IE, you take your lead from your need and, presto, two rutting teenagers are figuring "it" out.... This isn't some thesis from a curious wowser perspective going on here...? Focus.

PrimalConsonance -> RE: new dom (3/5/2010 8:35:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: myfastrs4 i have seached for local groups but i havent found any. Do you know of any? There are a few groups including MaST of Philly, and the various munches such as "The Gate" munch. Check in on FetLife if you like and do a little search for all things Philly. If you don't mind traveling some, there's groups in Delaware, and if you don't mind falling on the other side of the river, Jersey have a LOT to offer not too far from where you're at. As to finding a dominant who is willing to share his toy(s) with someone to learn on, you may run into some trouble. Best to cultivate a nice relationship with the community, attend functions, learn a little from observation and working your way into the scene. By then, you may find a nice play partner to grow with of your own, armed with the combined knowledge of what you've gained from forging these new relationships and networking so. Good luck and welcome to the boards.

Madame4a -> RE: new dom (3/5/2010 9:21:18 AM)
As others have said, there are several options for you in terms of groups -- not to mention several events in and around your area. You just need to take a look and also search google. You'll find a lot, I'm sure. In addition, I wouldn't limit yourself to a dom with a sub -- there are so many people that you can learn a lot of things from... including exactly what you're looking for.

DesFIP -> RE: new dom (3/5/2010 5:57:50 PM)
Take workshops in the various things you are interested in. Because if you're interested in how to cane safely, then a bondage top couldn't teach you what you want to know. And you don't start by beating on someone else. You start by honing your skills on inanimate objects you can't damage.

jujubeeMB -> RE: new dom (3/6/2010 12:15:48 AM)
Why wouldn't you just be looking for a sub that can help show you the ropes? Why do you have to go through the Dom? It's not like subs only exist as something owned by Doms...

onlyfreelycaged -> RE: new dom (3/6/2010 7:46:18 AM)
But.. there are lots of hereto males who don't know how to treat women and date... I don't see why learning how to be a dom would be any different than learning how to date... quote: ORIGINAL: Focus50 Well I'm curious.... Exactly what is your "need" here? To me, asking how to "dom" is akin to a vanilla asking how to be a hetero male (for eg). IE, you take your lead from your need and, presto, two rutting teenagers are figuring "it" out.... This isn't some thesis from a curious wowser perspective going on here...? Focus. edited for clarity

MasterSlaveLA -> RE: new dom (3/6/2010 3:57:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: myfastrs4 i am looking from someone that has a female sub that is willing to show/teach me how to dom. Here you go ---> THIS DIRTY WHORE WILL WORK WITH YOU FOR HOURS!!! [:D]

Justme696 -> RE: new dom (3/7/2010 12:38:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: myfastrs4 I am new to this and i am looking from someone that has a female sub that is willing to show/teach me how to dom. I am looking for someone in the philly area for help thanks. Did you try things yourself? There is no guide to beeing a Dom. Just enjoy yourself.

Focus50 -> RE: new dom (3/7/2010 2:27:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: onlyfreelycaged But.. there are lots of hereto males who don't know how to treat women and date... I don't see why learning how to be a dom would be any different than learning how to date... quote: ORIGINAL: Focus50 Well I'm curious.... Exactly what is your "need" here? To me, asking how to "dom" is akin to a vanilla asking how to be a hetero male (for eg). IE, you take your lead from your need and, presto, two rutting teenagers are figuring "it" out.... This isn't some thesis from a curious wowser perspective going on here...? Focus. edited for clarity In whose opinion? I'm sure if you asked these hetero males they'd all say they were doing fine, even if they knew they weren't. But what they are doing is acting out on an inner need (even if you think they're doing it all wrong) and that's what I'm questioning of the OP's motives.... Focus.

onlyfreelycaged -> RE: new dom (3/7/2010 10:32:04 AM)
won't admit it?? to whom? most of my male friends whine about other girls to me.. they also ask me what to do when there gf does whaterver.. quote: ORIGINAL: Focus50 quote: ORIGINAL: onlyfreelycaged But.. there are lots of hereto males who don't know how to treat women and date... I don't see why learning how to be a dom would be any different than learning how to date... quote: ORIGINAL: Focus50 Well I'm curious.... Exactly what is your "need" here? To me, asking how to "dom" is akin to a vanilla asking how to be a hetero male (for eg). IE, you take your lead from your need and, presto, two rutting teenagers are figuring "it" out.... This isn't some thesis from a curious wowser perspective going on here...? Focus. edited for clarity In whose opinion? I'm sure if you asked these hetero males they'd all say they were doing fine, even if they knew they weren't. But what they are doing is acting out on an inner need (even if you think they're doing it all wrong) and that's what I'm questioning of the OP's motives.... Focus.

Focus50 -> RE: new dom (3/8/2010 3:05:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: onlyfreelycaged most of my male friends whine about other girls to me.. they also ask me what to do when there gf does whaterver.. Lol, you're kidding me? These are living, breathing adult males??? I guess I'm just so verrrrry old.... Focus.

osf -> RE: new dom (3/8/2010 5:10:37 AM)
No comment

DomBlade64 -> RE: new dom (3/15/2010 6:53:04 PM)
What I get from his post is "Should I just smack her now or what?" Type of thing. Its genetics to have sex, its personal to smack someone. I myself have a hard time getting over that barrier. quote: ORIGINAL: Focus50 Well I'm curious.... Exactly what is your "need" here? To me, asking how to "dom" is akin to a vanilla asking how to be a hetero male (for eg). IE, you take your lead from your need and, presto, two rutting teenagers are figuring "it" out.... This isn't some thesis from a curious wowser perspective going on here...? Focus.

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