LafayetteLady
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Begin as in 'any' entirety of the topic.
"Any" and "entirety" are two different things. Like I said earlier and WyldHrt mentioned, learning about menstruation is gonna happen. It is no where near the same as teaching about birth control
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Your participation in this website would imply that you are less sexually inhibited. says who? There are no shy people here? or those with other lesser experience? Law prevails that when you sign up ..you MUST automatically be..experienced and uninhibited? is that in the TOS?
Again, know the difference between being "shy" and being sexually inhibited, and "experienced."
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That, is not something I am willing to discuss here. I am not the person named in the content of the OP's article. and frankly, that is not your business. The subject matter was taught without forethought of the local area giving notice. THAT is the topic at hand. Not my own lil ones. I mentioned it was taught in this province quote:
They begin at 3rd grade here, NO consent was sent, I was mortified. I didn't even expect to even ask in advance if it was on the cirriculum. at a certain timespan in the education system. I chose not to give further details.
You imply that we are less likely to be inhibited here, then want me to go into detail of a personal nature about my um? Knock it off, seriously. This isn't about my situation. I refuse to be less inhibited on the subject of my under-agers.
Yes, you did choose not to give further details. Which is likely because it was the very basics such as menstruation, nocturnal emissions and growing hair in funny places. I asked you what your school district taught, not what questions your kid came home asking you. To be perfectly honest with you, the fact that you say you work for the local board of education and was completely unaware is really amusing to me. I have known practically every little detail about my son's education throughout his whole life, and continue to be as well informed now that he is in high school. Perhaps you might want to consider actually paying a bit more attention to what your kid is doing.
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This is about a situation that is nation/world wide that needs further consideration into what is appropriate--by parents, not by the education/government systems.
Again, the whole reason that sex education started even being taught in schools was because people, apparently just like you, were failing to provide their children with the information needed. While it was only a story, I'm sure every female on CM remembers the scene in "Carrie" where Carrie got her first period and had absolutely no idea what was happening. Only a story, but things like that have happened.
You don't want your child to know what causes pregnancy? That's all fine and dandy, but don't be surprised if they come home one day not knowing how the hell they got pregnant. You want complete control over what your child learns in school? Home school them. Sex education in schools has never consisted of "inappropriate" material. It starts in elementary school and continues into high school, with more details being given along the way, as appropriate. Not every school system hands out birth control (I know the local high school here doesn't). I do know that even with the sex education that IS taught in the school systems, there is a whole lot of information that the kids still don't get. I know this, because of the number of kids who will talk to me about these things.
If you are inhibited about sex, if you don't talk to your child and provide them with age appropriate answers, they WILL get information on the playground and more often than not it will be wrong. If you are inhibited (or shy as you seem to prefer), then your kid won't feel like they can talk to you about it and again, will get information from their friends.
This concept that if the schools teach the kids, they are interfering with the parents and the values they want their children to have is nonsense. If you have done a good job instilling your values, then you shouldn't be afraid that someone else is going to change their mind. Hell, KKK members instill their warped racist views into their kids from birth. The school system teaches them that racism is bad, but that doesn't mean it will change their views. Thankfully, in that example, sometimes it will, but the point is that if your child is going to be led down the path of "depravity" to have premarital sex, you can't blame it on the school.
As for the mother in the article, the only thing the school did wrong was telling the students "not to tell their parents." Quite frankly, I think that there is a good chance that there are some very pertinent facts missing from that article and things are much different than what they seem.
As for you came4u, you might want to consider becoming a bit more involved in knowing what is going on with your kid's schooling so you don't get anymore "mortifying" surprises.
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