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crazydaisy01 -> Is it just me... (3/7/2010 5:54:46 PM)

or does anyone else feel like its very difficult to meet a partner? There are so many sites just like collarme and we are all on a lot of them; and have been for a while.
I know it happens but what are the chances that you will? There seems to be more married men on here and if they arent married they are fakes and phonies.
I guess i am am just feeling a little discouraged.



maplepole -> RE: Is it just me... (3/7/2010 5:59:55 PM)

Don't give up.  Even on a site like this where you are trying to maximize your probability of finding a compatible partner, there are still issues of geography, chemistry and attraction.

It's hard, and takes time to get it right.  But it is worth it to get right.  Keep the faith.



ModeratorSeven -> RE: Is it just me... (3/7/2010 6:00:18 PM)

It's not just you. We get 2-3 threads a week here with the same question. We move them here to this category with the polls. Yeah, the polls, that's it. [sm=lol.gif]



purepleasure -> RE: Is it just me... (3/7/2010 6:01:52 PM)

It's not necessarily you, but your criteria.

If you're looking for local only, your search may be somewhat limited. If you're open to relocation(yours or theirs), you have alot more opportunities to meet the perfect partner for you.



ResidentSadist -> RE: Is it just me... (3/7/2010 6:14:55 PM)

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We have seen a lot of these threads lately. I don't even read the OP's profile anymore. I just shake up the magic 8 ball and peer into the little window for the magic answer:

a - Yes, its just you. The rest of us are doing just fine.
b - Poor thing, come over my house and I'll make it all better.
c - You are an undiscovered treasure, just hang in there and your prince will eventually find you.
e - Oh noes... not another needy brat whining about not getting their cock/pussy served up on a silver platter.
f - You have been a member of CollarMe for 5 hours, WTF are you complaining about? This aint' a pizza delivery in 30 minutes or less fool.



Phoenixpower -> RE: Is it just me... (3/7/2010 6:22:43 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ModeratorSeven

It's not just you. We get 2-3 threads a week here with the same question. We move them here to this category with the polls. Yeah, the polls, that's it. [sm=lol.gif]


Yeah and many of us thank you sooooooooooooooo much for dumping it into here every single time [8|] Sorry Mod7 but it would really be helpful to open a new section for such stuff such as "and here we go again..." or whatever...

to the OP...actually it is not that difficult...so IMO it is YOU.

I met 6 guys on here in person from which 4 were genuinly looking and one is currently in progress to become potentially my Master (not 100% sure yet, but he might)...but quite frankly...you have to go off the desk chair for that and decide to meeeeeeeeeeeeeeet ... they won't knock on your door like a postman [8|]



lovingpet -> RE: Is it just me... (3/7/2010 6:23:17 PM)

OP:

No, it's not just you.  However, if you plan to search online, then one site isn't really going to be much better than another.  Finding quality people in life is hard.  Being a quality person can be hard too.  It takes time and a whole lot more than just a month.  Patience.  Oh and put a lovely picture up.  I hear it helps.  If you choose not to be patient or think the grass is greener somewhere else, I doubt it is going to help matters.  Also, please tell the people more in your profile... I don't mean about kink either.  You are currently faceless and a submissive mass of female flesh.  Make yourself a little more real and show some personality and it will go a long way.

I didn't happen to have much trouble, but then again, I know I was lucky as hell.  Good luck. 

lovingpet



DesFIP -> RE: Is it just me... (3/7/2010 6:32:49 PM)

If your profile here is pretty typical of your profile elsewhere, I can understand why. You don't say anything about what kind of person you are, what kind of things you enjoy. You talk about having fun and that line will attract all those only interested in quick sex.



domiguy -> RE: Is it just me... (3/7/2010 6:51:39 PM)

You have been a member since 2/02/10. Is that enough time to find the Dom of your dreams? Probably.

You are 5'4" 120 lb. You are a horrid abomination and should never place yourself on display.

I hate you.



UniqueRaven -> RE: Is it just me... (3/7/2010 7:01:13 PM)

From reading your profile, i don't see anything *that* specific other than the "Local to Indy" thing that should make the search particularly hard.

Compatibility is important in D/s, yes - you're kind of adding another "layer" onto the more "mainstream" attractions to another person. But unless your needs are very specific, or you have a narrow target audience, you should be able to meet someone, at least date, and have some fun.

Pics do help. i don't know if your profession is such where you're nervous about posting pics, but guys will take you a bit more seriously.

i guess the best advice i can give is be able to figure out your needs vs. your wants - and then try to get your needs met while you have more leeway in the wants.

Good luck to you,
julie



stella41b -> RE: Is it just me... (3/7/2010 10:34:07 PM)

Of course it's very difficult to meet a partner.

I mean it's not like paying bills or doing your grocery shopping online, booking a flight, buying stuff off e-Bay where you see what you are looking for, click on a mouse and you have it.

This is CollarMe, an adult kinky dating and networking website, not TrolleyMe, the Sex and Kink Superstore.

Relationships happen between people who know each other to some degree and when an opportunity presents itself. How you get to that point and who with depends on your own efforts, communication and luck.

This was how it was before the Internet, this is still how it is with the Internet.

The Internet might have changed the way in which we live, but it hasn't changed people. People are still pretty much the same as they always have been.

I'd focus on meeting a person, and then when you've found said person you can work out whether you want them to be your partner or not.

It's not rocket science.



sirsholly -> RE: Is it just me... (3/8/2010 4:03:39 AM)

quote:

I guess i am am just feeling a little discouraged.
you are so new here. Hang out on the forums and have fun, if nothing else.

So many have met on this site and had or are having long term relationships, developed strong friendships, casual play partners, etc.
Don't give up.



sunshinemiss -> RE: Is it just me... (3/8/2010 5:07:03 AM)

quote:

TrolleyMe, the Sex and Kink Superstore.


I think we ought to open that store... right next to Sluts R Us!

To the OP:

Be the kind of person that the person you want to attract would be attracted to.  That is all.



crazydaisy01 -> RE: Is it just me... (3/8/2010 8:11:44 AM)

Thank you all for your advice. I am new to this site as I just discovered it but have been on others for quite some time. I will update my profile as some suggested and see if that helps.



pahunkboy -> RE: Is it just me... (3/8/2010 8:24:34 AM)

It is just you.   Everyone on here has a life- and can barely post-   not in the least.  hehe



lizi -> RE: Is it just me... (3/8/2010 8:37:54 AM)

I compare looking for a partner to looking for a job. You can take the first one you find offered, but as you noticed with the married ones and the phonies, you might not get what you want. It takes time to find what  you want and it takes effort. Work on your profile so someone of quality might be attracted to what you have to say about yourself there and then actively search for what you want. Look at profiles and write emails.

I found my partner here and I met a lot of men from here when I was looking. I didn't notice a shortage of guys in general. Finding the one that's right for you is always a bit of a trick but it can be done. Lots of people on here have had success...



Nslavu -> RE: Is it just me... (3/8/2010 11:52:34 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: crazydaisy01

or does anyone else feel like its very difficult to meet a partner? There are so many sites just like collarme and we are all on a lot of them; and have been for a while.
I know it happens but what are the chances that you will? There seems to be more married men on here and if they arent married they are fakes and phonies.
I guess i am am just feeling a little discouraged.



Well now we know where 'alittlediscouraged' went to. That poly-amorous bitch.



DarlingSavage -> RE: Is it just me... (3/8/2010 11:53:35 AM)

It's just you.



sappatoti -> RE: Is it just me... (3/8/2010 12:51:27 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: crazydaisy01
There seems to be more married men on here and if they arent married they are fakes and phonies.


Rather an over-generalized statement, don't you think? I am neither married nor am I fake or phony. I happen to not be looking for a hookup but I do enjoy lurking about or contributing to these discussions.

If I were looking, you needn't worry about receiving an inquiry from me. I have no interest in people who make such sweeping generalizations.



FukinTroll -> RE: Is it just me... (3/8/2010 1:33:26 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: crazydaisy01

or does anyone else feel like its very difficult to meet a partner? There are so many sites just like collarme and we are all on a lot of them; and have been for a while.
I know it happens but what are the chances that you will? There seems to be more married men on here and if they arent married they are fakes and phonies.
I guess i am am just feeling a little discouraged.



*Cracks muh knuckles an smiles*

Fuck it... it's too easy... i'll tha noobies eat this one.



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