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Damned Disappointing - 3/30/2006 6:09:06 PM   
fergus


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Status: offline 		*sigh* I think yet another Domme has disappeared off the face of the earth when we were getting close to meeting.

A "wow, I don't think this is such a good idea after all" would've been MUCH better than no word.  Heck, even a "go away you assh*le" would've been better!

lol, anyway, I have been staying away from the site and BDSM for awhile .... hard enough to find a Domme in the FIRST place, but this can get damned discouraging!

fergus

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RE: Damned Disappointing - 3/30/2006 6:21:35 PM   
Merritt27


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Status: offline 		i am sorry that this has happened to you.....seems like it has happened to most of  us at some point.  It is hard not to let things like this get you down.....so let me thow a few of those annoying sayings that i heard most often at ya:

--Good things come to those who wait.
--You're better off anyway.
--Nothing worth having was easily obtained.
--You'll find what you are looking for when you least expect it. 

There, dont you feel better already???  i truly do hope that you are feeling better about things soon....



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RE: Damned Disappointing - 3/30/2006 6:24:46 PM   
dedicated2her


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Status: offline 		I understand your troubles, however you cant really get that down on the search.  It's funny, because my first D/s relationship started from a purely vanilla meeting.  The Domme your looking for is out there, it's just hard to meet someone that a) you get along with and b)  shares the same BDSM interests that you do.

I hate to see when someone is discouraged by their search.  Dont feel that way.  I'm sure you have great qualities that someone hasnt taken the time to get to know yet.  I also have a hard time getting a Domme on here to even respond to an email, or even keep a discussion going, but that doesnt mean your not valuable.

Mostly i think it's the stupid guys out there just looking for a kinky get together that spoils the emails from people like us that are very much interested in this as a lifestyle.  You just have to do the best job possible to stand out.

Best of luck on your search....

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RE: Damned Disappointing - 3/30/2006 6:26:55 PM   
fergus


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Status: offline 		Thanks!

honestly, I am not down on myself ;)  I am a hell of a guy :)

Just disappointed that this has happened again!

fergus

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RE: Damned Disappointing - 3/30/2006 6:31:16 PM   
MontaukDaisies


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Status: offline 		It's the not knowing WHY that kills me, fergus. I have been where you are now (more than once or twice) and though our experiences are different (aren't everyone's?) the pain you feel is hard to explain.. and it evolves into other emotions.. until finally *whenever that is* - you let it go and try again.

It's been years since I really trusted a Dominant. And he left me and my kids. (soft chuckle) His leaving wasn't a reflection on ME. This person that disappeared and disappointed you so much isn't a reflection of your goodness.. in fact, quite the opposite!

Plow on through..
Many hugs~
Montauk Daisies

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RE: Damned Disappointing - 3/30/2006 6:37:49 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		To the OP..I am sorry to hear that this has happened to you fergus.Disappointment sometimes creates a lot of discouragement.This is the time that you need to focus on yourself your interests and friends..in other words..go and give yourself a wee bit of a spoil..do something that is utterly decadent and relaxing for you..Now if you were a woman 9 times out of 10 that would be a trip to the spa for the royal pedicure/manicure/back rub..but I am sure you know what it would be..be well...take heart..hey spring is just beginning!!!....hug/Tempting

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RE: Damned Disappointing - 3/30/2006 6:38:14 PM   
Vancouver_cinful


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Status: offline 		It sucks. No better way to describe it. We've all been there. It's like having to pull off the road to get gas in the vehicle, just when you thought you were close to your destination.

Hang in there...

Cin

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RE: Damned Disappointing - 3/30/2006 6:39:12 PM   
fergus


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Status: offline 		Well, if nothing else ...

THis is my "four handcuff" post ... so I got THAT goin' for me ... which is nice.

fergus

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RE: Damned Disappointing - 3/30/2006 6:49:20 PM   
champagnewishes


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Status: offline 		Ahhh fergus----{{{hugs}}}.  No two ways about it, it just sucks.  And it really sucks when it happens to such a good person as yourself. 

Makes me want to track Her down, hang Her by Her heels and tell Her exactly what she missed out on.  (wow, where did THAT come from? )  



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RE: Damned Disappointing - 3/30/2006 6:58:10 PM   
Shayna


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Status: offline 		Sorry to hear that fergus! Been there, experienced that. VERY frustrating.
Grats on the 4th handcuff - imagine the possibilities :)


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RE: Damned Disappointing - 3/30/2006 6:58:26 PM   
SimplyV


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quote:

ORIGINAL: fergus

Well, if nothing else ...

THis is my "four handcuff" post ... so I got THAT goin' for me ... which is nice.

fergus


*laughs* Always could trust you to see the bright spot of everything.

Sorry to hear you've been disappointed.  Sucks that people just dont have courtesy.. but such is life I guess.



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RE: Damned Disappointing - 3/30/2006 7:05:41 PM   
fergus


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Status: offline 		lol, a fourth handcuff isn't any possibility ;)

A person would need someone to USE them with!

but I will keep pitchin' ;)

fergus

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RE: Damned Disappointing - 3/30/2006 7:14:08 PM   
acissej


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Status: offline 		Argh.  I’m sorry, Fergus.  I wish things had gone differently with this one.  You deserve so much better.

-Jessica

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RE: Damned Disappointing - 3/30/2006 7:29:10 PM   
Contesaluv


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Status: offline 		Sweet Fergus,

I can't believe that a Domme has let You down!  I think you're wonderful myself (and no, I'm not saying this to stroke your ego or make you feel better, although I hope it does ).  What a process and it is a process.  THE right one for you will come along!  She will of course need to be A Hell of a Domme  in order to match you at being a Hell of a Guy!  The way I see it she didn't have it in her to take on a guy like you and that doesn't mean she's bad just means she didn't have it.  That she didn't communicate this to you means there's a level of maturity that may be missing.  It may also mean that she wouldn't have been able to keep up with you as you are quite the eloquent speaker when need be.  So, here's a toast to you...

May your days be brighter,
your loads be lighter
and all that you do
guide you to
the one and only one for you!

Look what you did.  You made me a poet!

Ciao papi lindo!



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RE: Damned Disappointing - 3/30/2006 7:36:14 PM   
fergus


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Status: offline 		Awwwww Gawrsh  *turns red with all the love*

You lot are okay in my book :)

fergus

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RE: Damned Disappointing - 3/30/2006 7:41:02 PM   
fastlane


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quote:

ORIGINAL: fergus

Awwwww Gawrsh  *turns red with all the love*

You lot are okay in my book :)
Love?   Lord above..now your trying to trick us in Love?
All right now...Fergus

fergus


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RE: Damned Disappointing - 3/30/2006 7:44:59 PM   
cloudboy


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The whole world seems to be falling apart, Sir Kenin on another thread just OUTED Jessica.

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RE: Damned Disappointing - 3/30/2006 7:45:33 PM   
fergus


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Status: offline 		Let's move before they raise the parking rate.

fergus

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RE: Damned Disappointing - 3/30/2006 7:58:51 PM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		fergus, you are one good guy, so it's not you--must have met up with the jessydrones---chin up---She will find you someday.

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RE: Damned Disappointing - 3/30/2006 8:01:03 PM   
Contesaluv


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Status: offline 		Now see all the fun you'd be missing if you left the boards and Collarme and the BDSM world.  Fergus, I think instead of putting it down for awhile I think you should come go to a local munch.  There's one coming up on the 5th right here in the good old Garden State.  Oh my, did I just ask you out on a date...lol...nah just think you should get out and make new friends....like Me!  No hidden agenda there...hmmm?

Just joshing you!  Or not!

I gots nothing but love for ya babeeeee!

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