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WestMIBDSMCouple -> RE: Earning Points for Orgasms (3/9/2010 6:43:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 1. Check out this book list, together. Decide to buy a book, together. Then read that book, together. http://www.collarchat.com/m_1726118/mpage_1/tm.htm Believe it or not, books are far more useful than google or internet anywhere, to learn this stuff. In person conversation, demonstration, and practice are, of course, better still. 2. Learn how to do this until you are great at it. No orgasms until you totally rock. http://www.whitelotuseast.com/YoniMassage.htm 3. Let her choose one "small" thing you do that annoys her, like leaving your socks on the floor. You don't get to do that anymore, ever. If you do, no orgasm tonight. The Yoni massage sounds absolutely fantastic. It seems far more erotic than our normal foray into pleasuring her. And, you're right, books probably are the way to go. The Internet is a great and wonderful tool, but weeding through porn to find actual information is incredibly difficult, at best. Thank you. [:)]

wittynamehere -> RE: Earning Points for Orgasms (3/9/2010 6:45:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WestMIBDSMCouple quote: I have no desire or obligation to provide that to you or anyone else. That's fine. I at no point forced anyone into responding to my thread. Never once were you or anyone else required to click on my thread and post a response. Yet, I've gotten a glutton of negative responses. That's my issue. If people don't want to be helpful, that's their right, but I just don't understand why their negativity gets directed at me. Hey man, just wanted to post on behalf of humanity and say sorry for the ridiculous crap you've already endured from these petty bitches. Wouldn't it be amazing if a person could go to a BDSM website and talk about BDSM? Novel idea. It's one reason this site is losing traffic to fet and others (not that I use other sites). But if the moderators continue to allow people like those who have replied to you in this thread to troll and attack newbies, the trend will continue. Sometimes it works if you ignore them completely and just try to stay on topic. Eventually a real person will come along and actually answer your question, which is why you bothered asking it in the first place. Good luck.

WestMIBDSMCouple -> RE: Earning Points for Orgasms (3/9/2010 6:46:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming quote: ORIGINAL: WestMIBDSMCouple quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit So you have two women interested in your orgasms... two women who can't come up with idea's of what you can do or wish for you to be creative and you ask us? I'm not that interested in your orgasm, so I say... lol... tough it out buddy. That list would have you O'less for a long, long time. While I understand that I'm posing the question to a group of dominant women, I just don't understand the sheer bitchiness and unwillingness to be helpful in any way. I spent hours Googling and came up with very little. So I simply made a post asking for assistance. If you don't want to help, that's fine, there's nothing that requires you to help, but do you really need to post a useless attack on my thread? I just don't understand. Lockit's calling bullshit on you, and so am I. I don't believe you have two women over you who can't come up with plenty of ideas of their own. Or that their idea of you coming up with your own ideas would be for you to come here and ask us. Its fairly obvious that you're a lone troll, seeking wank fodder. Okay, well, you're wrong. But that doesn't even come close to responding to what I posted. If you think I'm making shit up, move on. Please don't flood my thread with your insults and bitchiness. You have your beliefs about me, and I know that I'm not going to change your opinion. That's fine, I can accept that, but please just move on.

KITTYLECTRO -> RE: Earning Points for Orgasms (3/9/2010 6:49:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WestMIBDSMCouple I just don't understand why their negativity gets directed at me. quote: Wear Panties... Wear Lipstick... Wear Eye Makeup...

WestMIBDSMCouple -> RE: Earning Points for Orgasms (3/9/2010 6:49:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wittynamehere quote: ORIGINAL: WestMIBDSMCouple quote: I have no desire or obligation to provide that to you or anyone else. That's fine. I at no point forced anyone into responding to my thread. Never once were you or anyone else required to click on my thread and post a response. Yet, I've gotten a glutton of negative responses. That's my issue. If people don't want to be helpful, that's their right, but I just don't understand why their negativity gets directed at me. Hey man, just wanted to post on behalf of humanity and say sorry for the ridiculous crap you've already endured from these petty bitches. Wouldn't it be amazing if a person could go to a BDSM website and talk about BDSM? Novel idea. It's one reason this site is losing traffic to fet and others (not that I use other sites). But if the moderators continue to allow people like those who have replied to you in this thread to troll and attack newbies, the trend will continue. Sometimes it works if you ignore them completely and just try to stay on topic. Eventually a real person will come along and actually answer your question, which is why you bothered asking it in the first place. Good luck. Well said, and thank you. While I can understand that they're suspect of anyone who comes along, I just don't see outright attacking me as productive in any way. Again, thank you.

wittynamehere -> RE: Earning Points for Orgasms (3/9/2010 6:50:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KITTYLECTRO quote: ORIGINAL: WestMIBDSMCouple I just don't understand why their negativity gets directed at me. quote: Wear Panties... Wear Lipstick... Wear Eye Makeup... At least he doesn't wear kitty ears, you freak.

wittynamehere -> RE: Earning Points for Orgasms (3/9/2010 6:53:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WestMIBDSMCouple While I can understand that they're suspect of anyone who comes along.. You're more understanding than most, then. Anyone who comes to this website to ask sexual questions should be answered, not ridiculed. People ask questions for answers, not to be annoying, or get on people's nerves, etc. If asking sexual questions on a sex website is "suspect", somehow, it should be added to the site rules. "NO ASKING QUESTIONS ABOUT SEXUAL THINGS, BDSM, PLEASURE, KINK, RELATIONSHIPS, OR FUN. YOU WILL BE BANNED."

wittynamehere -> RE: Earning Points for Orgasms (3/9/2010 6:54:23 PM)
Anyway, outta here and not coming back, so any replies to me will essentially be spam, and reported to the authorities so the poster can be banned. ;) Good luck.

RedMagic1 -> RE: Earning Points for Orgasms (3/9/2010 6:56:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wittynamehere At least he doesn't wear kitty ears, you freak. Unless you were being "jokingly sarcastic," you just won the "Biggest Asshole of the Thread Award." It kinda takes the wind out of your sails when you try to complain about what anybody else does. You're not exactly impressing me here.

KITTYLECTRO -> RE: Earning Points for Orgasms (3/9/2010 6:59:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wittynamehere It's one reason this site is losing traffic to fet and others (not that I use other sites). But if the moderators continue to allow people like those who have replied to you in this thread to troll and attack newbies, the trend will continue. Well said. quote: ORIGINAL: wittynamehere At least he doesn't wear kitty ears, you freak. Thank you for the compliment!

TheLadyIsADomme -> RE: Earning Points for Orgasms (3/9/2010 7:03:54 PM)
While I haven't posted in a while, this is something that came up recently in a discussion I was having with someone, so I thought I would chime in. The discussion compared orgasm control with dog training and the whole concept of rewards for good behavior. You might want to do some research on operant conditioning and intermittent positive reinforcment, which are behavioral methods that might provide you with some insights. Warmly, LD

Elisabella -> RE: Earning Points for Orgasms (3/9/2010 7:15:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wittynamehere "NO ASKING QUESTIONS ABOUT SEXUAL THINGS, BDSM, PLEASURE, KINK, RELATIONSHIPS, OR FUN. YOU WILL BE BANNED." I lol'd.

Lockit -> RE: Earning Points for Orgasms (3/9/2010 7:15:53 PM)
I find it funny when a witty dom comes to call us bitches and say this is why CM is losing people to another site. This wasn't a simple sexual question. It was a young man with two women, one a long distance dominant, that are basically catering to his kink or orgasm and can't figure out what to do with him. A situation that is a questionable to many of us. We aren't just questioning him. Between three people, they don't know enough about one another to be able to figure out some things that he can do to earn some cum time? Almost all the things he came up with may be pushing a limit for him... as his story evolved in the thread... but all are centered mostly around himself. Do one of the dominant's come and ask? No. He does. So he is calling the shots on how all this is done and basically monitoring himself after being given an assignment that nobody knows how to do! Let's put the cart before the horse.

LadyPact -> RE: Earning Points for Orgasms (3/9/2010 7:19:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wittynamehere Anyway, outta here and not coming back, so any replies to me will essentially be spam, and reported to the authorities so the poster can be banned. ;) Good luck. No issue there. The thread will be here for those with genuine interest. It matters about as little as there being less traffic on this site. There a hundred people who sign up here a day. Only a relative few will turn out to be posters of any worth.

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Earning Points for Orgasms (3/9/2010 7:26:12 PM)
~FR~ First, let me give you a small bit of advice. Go here and read our FAQ: http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057130/tm.htm This is an excerpt from the Posting Etiquette section, which is particularly relevant to your thread: quote: Remember, no one is here to cater to your fantasies and fetishes. We are here to have intelligent discussions regarding a variety of interests. Please try to word your question in a way that shows you are interested in promoting discussion and not trolling for masturbation material. Often, your questions can be answered by doing a search of the archives. Please check the date of a thread and try to avoid commenting on anything more than 6 months old. Your post is poorly worded and comes across as though you're looking for free porn. I'm feeling generous, so I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and answer your question as though you're sincere, if a bit oblivious. Ask your girlfriend/mistress to visit this site and take the quiz: http://www.afo.net/hftw-lovetest.asp This test is based on the book Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman. In a nutshell, it will help you zero in on the things that make your girlfriend feel loved and appreciated. For some women, it's gifts, for others it's touch, and others prefer service (e.g. doing chores). Knowing what your girlfriend likes will help you come up with things you can do to earn points. Next, pick up a copy of The Miss Abernathy Omnibus by Christina Abernathy. Use the self-assessment questionnaires in the section called Training With Miss Abernathy to determine where your interests lie. For example, if you take the tests and discover you are primarily a sexually oriented slave, then learn how to give erotic massage. If you are oriented toward personal valet service, then learn to give facials and manicures. There are a number of suggestions in the book for things you can do to improve yourself and be of greater service to a dominant. Any of these suggestions can be assigned a point value. Ask your mistress which *she* wants you to do. Finally, as LadyPact pointed out, avoid doing kinky things in front of the unconsenting public. You can wear women's panties under your clothes where no one can see, but wearing make up is outwardly visible. You should avoid doing kinky things in any environment where non-kinky people will be exposed to them, especially one where children might be present. You may not see anything wrong with it, but you are inflicting your kink on others who have not consented to the activity.

AlexandraLynch -> RE: Earning Points for Orgasms (3/9/2010 7:29:57 PM)
What do my sub boys do to get an orgasm? They make me happy. When I am happy, I am inclined to want the rest of the world to be happy. Specifically? Well, the one who is coming Thursday is going to move furniture and scrub the edge of the baseboards with an old toothbrush. The one I'm seeing Saturday is going to massage my trigger points and get them to subside, and the one I'm seeing tomorrow is going to get the privilege of being the first to experience my new cane.

Madame4a -> RE: Earning Points for Orgasms (3/9/2010 7:37:30 PM)
by helpful you mean do your homework for you? in truth... you should be asking the people you're involved with.. we don't know a thing about them... and I'd suggest the whole game would be a lot more meaningful if it were based on what they wanted... not what a bunch of random bitchy strangers suggested... to me, it sounds like a game.. and its not my cup of tea... my boy gets an orgasm not for feats of ridiculousness ... but because I love watching her have it... or giving it to her.. or both quote: ORIGINAL: WestMIBDSMCouple quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit So you have two women interested in your orgasms... two women who can't come up with idea's of what you can do or wish for you to be creative and you ask us? I'm not that interested in your orgasm, so I say... lol... tough it out buddy. That list would have you O'less for a long, long time. While I understand that I'm posing the question to a group of dominant women, I just don't understand the sheer bitchiness and unwillingness to be helpful in any way. I spent hours Googling and came up with very little. So I simply made a post asking for assistance. If you don't want to help, that's fine, there's nothing that requires you to help, but do you really need to post a useless attack on my thread? I just don't understand.

SweetDommes -> RE: Earning Points for Orgasms (3/9/2010 8:21:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WestMIBDSMCouple quote: I have no desire or obligation to provide that to you or anyone else. That's fine. I at no point forced anyone into responding to my thread. Never once were you or anyone else required to click on my thread and post a response. Yet, I've gotten a glutton of negative responses. That's my issue. If people don't want to be helpful, that's their right, but I just don't understand why their negativity gets directed at me. I explained why that negativity got directed towards you. You come on here, sounding like a troll ... and well ... guess what, you're going to get treated like a troll. It's really quite simple.

WestMIBDSMCouple -> RE: Earning Points for Orgasms (3/9/2010 8:42:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SweetDommes quote: ORIGINAL: WestMIBDSMCouple quote: I have no desire or obligation to provide that to you or anyone else. That's fine. I at no point forced anyone into responding to my thread. Never once were you or anyone else required to click on my thread and post a response. Yet, I've gotten a glutton of negative responses. That's my issue. If people don't want to be helpful, that's their right, but I just don't understand why their negativity gets directed at me. I explained why that negativity got directed towards you. You come on here, sounding like a troll ... and well ... guess what, you're going to get treated like a troll. It's really quite simple. You apparently were never taught that if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all. Regardless, I thank the people who provided positive responses. It really upsets me that I came to what I thought was a community that might provide some guidance on the subject, only to see negative response after negative response. Those of you who, rather than refrain from keeping your negativity to yourself, instead choose to unleash it on me, should be ashamed of yourself. Even if I was just a troll, there's absolutely no benefit to you posting negative comments about it. If I am a troll, then getting a rise out of you probably would be my goal, and thus you'd be feeding right into it. Anyway, I've received a number of helpful replies, and they've given me some good ideas, going forward.

SweetDommes -> RE: Earning Points for Orgasms (3/9/2010 9:02:50 PM)
Actually, we generally enjoy toying with trolls. It amuses us. Your reactions to the slightly negative responses just spurred things on. I typically do just pass these types of threads by, but then again, by allowing it to go un-remarked, it gives others the idea that it's ok to troll for wanking material. It's not, so I do sometimes comment. It's really not a case of not being taught "if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anythingat all" it's more along the lines of "if no one says anything about unacceptable behavior, then it will continue"

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