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LittleKitten1986 -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 7:20:28 AM)
Which must have deffinitly been a right, as You seem very comfortable and happy with who You are.

SpankMuhButt -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 7:32:23 AM)
Wow, This question takes me back and I just felt the need to respond, I remember back in 98 I got my first computer and I then started researching my feelings (thinking I was weird, not knowing others felt this way) Definatly didn't know there was a name for what I wanted. I did chatrooms, joined online lists, Met 2 woman online who took me under their wings they taught me things and showed me I wasn't "weird" I met a man online met him twice before I finally agreed to play with him. He was a great guy, But I was new to all of this, god I was scared but so excited............When we went to the hotel he had me get on my knees, he put a collar around my neck..............cuffed my hands behind my back and used a rope to pull my hands up higher in the back (the rope was looped into the collar The reason This stands out so much in my mind, is the fear that came over me that very moment.............all I could think of is if this man wanted to hurt me at this moment there wasnt a damn thing I could do................so i asked him to loosen the ropes a bit...and he did, till this day I remember thinking if he had made some excuse or told me I would be ok, i dont think I'd have ever played again, but since he immediatly loosened the ropes a bit that trust factor was taken care of and I realized he wasnt going to hurt me. I remeber all the sensations, the excitement the fact that I was having my first expierience, wow it was amazing, I think I played with him 2 more times but he was very much into bondage and ropes and knots, it was fun to an extent but it bored me, he spent so long tying me up that i realized I wanted more and my search continued, ut i will never forget him and how he made me feel my first times, I felt safe and he helped me realize i wanted this and more in my life. gina

LittleKitten1986 -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 7:38:18 AM)
gina, That is amazing, i love hearing about wonderful first experiences, the thoughts that over take us, allow our feelings to ta in as well, telling us when someone is safe. How are you fairing now in your search on this path?.. i do hope well. you seem like a smart young woman. i am very glad that you responded to this post!

masochistecstacy -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 7:45:25 AM)
Ooo, it sounds like you have an awesome first experience! It's great that you were able to find your way through that, and to work into the whole lifestyel!

LittleKitten1986 -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 7:46:33 AM)
what maso said! lol..mews

SpankMuhButt -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 7:47:25 AM)
Thank you kitten, I am doing well I met a Dom here in Feb. And we have seen each other atleast once a week. Considering I joined this site with no hopes, no expectations. I happened to be browsing profiles and thought he was extremely sexy. I added him to my favorites, never expecting anything and he contacted me a few days later asking me if I planned on introducing myself...........He made me work , he didn't ask for my number, just chatted here with me, he had me do online assignments but I wasn't sure he was totally interested, which made me want him more, He didn't fall all over me like some of my expieriences on here have been. Then after i asked him if he wanted my number, he spent a week text messaging me...........made me nuts how badly I wanted to hear his voice, Then finally the time came for a call whew I was shaking lol. Then after a week or so of that torture we met at a mall and sat in the food court talking for 4 hours...............I was hooked and have been since........LOL I hope I didn't ramble too much but you asked and I went on and on lol gina

LittleKitten1986 -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 7:51:53 AM)
gina, thats amazing! sounds like the perfect start!theres never an ending, always a start, you learn every day. And, the fact he kept you waiting, he knew it would make you work harder which allowed him to see if you were true. Oh gina, i love hearing thi, yours is one of my favorite stories so far!

Evanesce -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 7:53:13 AM)
quote: What was your first experience in BDSM? What were the thoughts that went through your mind? Did you hit subspace?..... I was 18 years old; it was 1977, and I was having sex for somewhere around the 5th or 6th time in my life. The guy I was with cuffed my wrists behind my back and threw me on the bed. I was terrified, and I freaked. No subspace. Just abject terror, as I was certain he was going to really hurt me, yet I was turned on by the fear.

LittleKitten1986 -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 7:55:11 AM)
Wow, so you like things to do with fear, i've only met one other that loves fea, it's amazing to see the different styles.

SpankMuhButt -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 8:02:53 AM)
Kitten, I also love the fear aspects, This last Dom I told you about told me where to meet him that first time, I called him while i was sitting there waiting for him, My legs were trembling, I honestly thought if i stood up I would fall. I called him I told him how nervous I was.....His response was "yeah so, want a pity party?" (now before anyone thinks he's some arrogant man,) i knew how to read him to some extent by now, he knew I knew he was half kidding the same way he knew I was when I told him i was shaking. But as nervous as I was that statemnt about wanting a pity party turned me on beyond belief, and till this day it's a running joke with us............. But the fear of the unexpected, or the butterflies of a first meeting, It is all so exciting and that is why this many years later I know I will always need this in my life. gina

masochistecstacy -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 8:02:56 AM)
That's great! Congrats on your find! It can be so hard to sift through all those out there to find a good Dom/Top/Master! PS.... My twin/sissy says congrats too!

SpankMuhButt -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 8:05:32 AM)
Thank you Masoc, You are so not kidding, Some of the people who have contacted me I swear I sat here looking over their messages to me wondering who would even respond to some of them, Or to have one who claims to be a "Dom" begging me to respond to his email.............lol sorry just not getting that!! gina

LittleKitten1986 -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 8:32:56 AM)
Now i live 2 hours and 20 minutes from my Protector, my first time meeting Her was back in February. that whole ride was uncomfortable, sitting in a skirt, wanting to look prim and proper. The butterflies were fluttering around me, my stomach tumbled honestly, because this was O/our first meeting and all i could think was "what if She does not like me, What if i mess up?" When the bus pulled into the station, i could barely stend, i was wobbeling on my new heels, as i stepped off the bus and had that breath of air, i sucked it in lightly, trying to calm myself, i made out of the NYC bus terminal, alittle lost, but i pulled out the address of where i was to meet Her, and told the cab driver, i had exactly 10 minutes to prepair myself! after doing this i stepped from the cab and went into the building which was huge, i made it to where i needed, i had to stand a moment and breathe in again before knocking. and honestly my protector was even more beautiful in person than i imagined. i immediatly relaxed in her presence. and the rest of the night was just spectacular. now every time i go to the city, i want to find an excuse to at least see Her and say hi LOL. falls on kitty pillow i have never had this feeling of complete submission, complete trust and safty like i feel when i talk to Her.

SpankMuhButt -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 8:36:16 AM)
Awww kitten that is such an awesome story as well. I love reading about all the great expieriences gina

LittleKitten1986 -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 8:38:12 AM)
it's great to read about good experiences. always a plus. and so many usually do not understand me, they usually think, "Oh, she's only 19, what does she know?" and it's like i actually know quite abit if one gets to know me.

Slipstreme -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 10:51:15 AM)
My first S&M scene, aside from playful tackle-pouncing and biting/ being bitten with a few furry friends of mine which doesn't really count, was my first flogging. We had discussed the scene beforehand at a furmeet in semi-private whispers amidst my attacking the poor boy (something he has grown to love). We set the date, discussed the details and such and planned it to be a lengthy session, although I expected to either chicken out, or give up after about fifteen minutes. The night of the flogging, I was bound upright on my bunkbed/ bondage rack (I was afriad of chickening out and moving out of the way last minute) and flogged with a 15 tailed suede flogger. Much to my surprise at the end of the session, stopped only because I had a test at 7.25am the next day and didn't know what to expect the day after, I found out we had been up there for an hour. Here is the creepy part: the day of the event, I had woken up after a dream feeling as if I had been flogged. The next day, the feeling was the same as I had felt after the dream. Now I'm addicted to floggings. I go a lot longer and harder than I did that first night. All of my sessions since the first one have been done without bondage. I did sort of hit subspace that first session, but not so far as I have been getting nowadays. It has become a quest for me to find out: how much I can take, how long I can go and if I can outlast my Top (something I take much pride in) as well as absolute pure ecstacy. I don't really watch movies or read fiction books often anymore. However, despite the above, I am not a submissive, but rather a sadomasochist with a penchant towards dominance. I am trying to get a hold of a few lifestyle books to help teach me about being a safe sadist and look into how the D/s dynamic works out (something I am sure would develop with the right person on its own if it is meant to be).

LittleKitten1986 -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 11:03:41 AM)
Wow, a very good thing indeed. my first time for a flogging, there was no bondage in the flogging, i was told present, (although i was not the best at it,) i have grown better in presenting. And, i feel myself grow with more knowledge every day.

masochistecstacy -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 1:11:52 PM)
Pfft! Never let ANYONE tell you you don't know what you're talking about jsut because you're 19. My first experience was when I was only 18, with a man who was in His forties... Now I'm twenty, with the love of my life, who's significantly older. Age doesn't matter!

LittleKitten1986 -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 1:44:47 PM)
your absolutly correct age does not matter, but then again with the government invading privcay the age differences between people will be the first they seek out, my Protector is nearly 20 years older than me, but to me it's about the safe feeling one recieves when with the One they are trusting.

Slipstreme -> RE: your first experience. (3/31/2006 2:08:09 PM)
I bottom to and mentor under someone who is 46. No biggie! So long as we both enjoy ourselves, what is the big deal? I do kindof wish he had more time to teach me things (dungeon safety things mostly), but both him and his submissive have conflicting schedules. I know what you mean about age being a big hurdle to get passed though. I'm planning on starting a TNG group here in G'Ville to reach out to the young adults entering the lifestyle who are finding it difficult. One that will also focus on the student as well as the BDSMer, as many of us are college and high school students where I am at. (ie: if you are having problems with classes, or problems handling life on your own, I want the group to be supportive of and helpful with that as well as the main focus) Glad you found yourself a welcoming Lady. Good luck, kitten. BTW: for the rest of you, don't let age keep you from doing what you plan on doing with your life. It isn't the end all for anyone.

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