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Lashra -> RE: Is it my fault? (3/31/2006 8:38:04 AM)
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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl
I was involved in a switch relationship that recently ended because my partner developed his first pilonidal cyst following a session. He thinks spanking may have caused it and now claims he can no longer participate in the lifestyle because of his condition. We used to have so much fun together and though he says he doesn't blame me, he rarely talks to me. I feel so guilty. What should I do?
I had never heard of a pilonidal cyst and googled it here is what I found:
A pilonidal cyst is a blanket term for any type of skin infection near the tailbone. These are normally quite painful, generally occur in men, and normally happen in early adulthood. Although usually found near the tailbone, this painful condition can be found in several places, including the navel or the armpit. Development of the condition in a place other than the tailbone is exceedingly rare, however. It usually happens in young people, up to their thirties in age. Conditions in which it commonly occurs include obesity, body hair around the area in question, and a sedentary lifestyle. While a traumatic event is not believed to cause a pilonidal cyst, such an event has been known to inflame existing cysts.
I don't think it came from spanking though that could help to inflame it, most likely came from body hair on his ass. I would say if he's treating you this way that its probably best to find another switch to play with. Accidents do sometimes rarely occur in even the safest of play and if he can't handle it then he shouldn't be playing. Also there's alot more to BDSM then just spanking, sounds to me like he's looking for an out for whatever inner turmoil he is having.
~Lashra
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