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mastersslut69 -> My first punishment spanking (3/13/2010 3:51:49 AM)

Hi. Yesterday I had my first real punishment spanking from master. Up until now discipline wasn't really physical but just lately to be honest I've been a real pain in the arse. He made me buy a crop and even then I never thought he'd use it. I was wrong. Yesterday I was made to bend over the bed and he bare bottom spanked me so hard with his hand and it hurt but I was thinking 'i knew you wouldn't use the crop' and then to my surprise he stopped and I was thinking it was all over but istead he made
me get the crop and caned my arse. Today it's red and sore. I'm wondering about how other people feel after a punishment - I feel humiliated being my age with a red bruised arse but I do know I deserved it. It's made me really think twice about my behaviour. Master rub cream
in and kissed my bottom and I
know now I've paid for my crimes. And now I respect him
even more. Did other people feel the same
after their first punishment?



chamberqueen -> RE: My first punishment spanking (3/13/2010 8:59:27 AM)

Yes, very much so.  I am not a masochist and there had been some playful spankings up until that time, but my first punishment spanking was nothing at all like the play.  I was ashamed of what I had done to bring about the punishment, the spanking itself hurt incredibly, and even though I knew that once the punishment was over the slate would be wiped clean it still took me about a week before I could truly forgive myself. 

Punishments are meant to leave a lasting impression.  I am fortunate; in almost two and a half years I have earned only two punishments and one "correction" - LOL - the correction hurt worse than either punishment.  The first two I truly deserved.  The one considered a correction was not termed a punishment because someone had given me some incorrect information that I passed on to my Master and it was to make me remember to check all facts before sharing something of importance with him.  In contrast I have a sister slave who averages a punishment about every three weeks.  For me the physical pain is not the hardest to bear, even though I hate it, but the knowledge that I let my Master down.  For my sister slave it is just a fact of life; she excuses herself for any mistakes that she makes and so just expects frequent punishments.  Each person looks at it a little differently, but I have been in shoes similar to yours.  Hopefully you found it to be an experience that will make the two of you closer than ever.



FetishRose -> RE: My first punishment spanking (3/13/2010 4:27:46 PM)

Yes, I did, and I am something of a masochist. I've only been punished once by my sir, and although it was no harder than we do in play, I did not enjoy it at all, because I felt so guilty and sorrowful. But certainly after, all I wanted to do was curl up with him, because I felt extremely close to him in that moment, in a very submissive way.



DesFIP -> RE: My first punishment spanking (3/13/2010 6:40:11 PM)

I was given a pro forma spanking in the beginning to relieve guilt but it wasn't punishment nor was it to teach me anything or change my behavior. We had already solved the problem by discovering it was caused by miscommunication. I've mentioned before that frequently my mood would go bad after several hours together. Upon reflection we discovered it was because he would skip meals and my blood sugar plummets if I go a long time between meals. No amount of corporal punishment will cure that.

Do you know why you did what you did? Have you two worked out a plan to avoid those triggers in the future? Because otherwise you aren't solving the problem.



came4U -> RE: My first punishment spanking (3/13/2010 7:53:52 PM)

quote:

Did other people feel the same
after their first punishment?


You should feel as you felt. No matter what your age. No one person will feel the same.

quote:

I feel humiliated being my age
That is the point.



fadedshadow -> RE: My first punishment spanking (3/14/2010 3:32:29 AM)

Hopefully your punishment has taught you to behave better =]

and yes, it is humiliating because when i'm punished it's because i let her down and that's something i never wanna do



lucylucy -> RE: My first punishment spanking (3/14/2010 7:40:48 AM)

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ORIGINAL: mastersslut69
I'm wondering about how other people feel after a punishment - I feel humiliated being my age with a red bruised arse but I do know I deserved it. It's made me really think twice about my behaviour. Master rub cream in and kissed my bottom and I know now I've paid for my crimes. And now I respect him even more. Did other people feel the same after their first punishment?


Yes. I would think that to feel otherwise would indicate that the punishment was ineffective.





osf -> RE: My first punishment spanking (3/14/2010 7:44:56 AM)

My fingers get nipped when I'm slow releasing a grape



littleone35 -> RE: My first punishment spanking (3/15/2010 9:44:53 AM)

Well i always respected Master.. At our first play i asked for a spanking first just to get the first one out of the way and so i knew if needed he would do it. My only punishment (in over 4 years) was earned and i knew it was coming it was early in our relationship. The spanking hurt but knowing i displeased him hurt just as much. I have not repeated the action thta caused the punishment.

Matt's littleone



afkarr -> RE: My first punishment spanking (3/15/2010 5:18:29 PM)

quote:

Did other people feel the same
after their first punishment


It's never has, and never will be, a part of any relationship I'm in. If someone doesn't like something, they can discuss it with me like an adult. "Punishment" is just not my kink I guess.



DomBlade64 -> RE: My first punishment spanking (3/15/2010 7:33:04 PM)

LMAO Naughtttyy

quote:

ORIGINAL: osf

My fingers get nipped when I'm slow releasing a grape



DarlingSavage -> RE: My first punishment spanking (3/15/2010 9:57:12 PM)

Since when is a spanking punishment?

Oh, yeah, ok, I forgot when I was a kid, it wasn't that much fun then.



Zechriel -> RE: My first punishment spanking (3/20/2010 5:28:58 AM)

Good morning!
I have to agree with Savage. for us, we never use spanking as a punishment but i do remember my first punishment that really stuck. Two weeks with no soda or chips. Talk about hell. One year later I still have never repeated the behavior that started the punishment. Our punishments are a list we made in the beginning-  cleaning the bathtub, wearing pants, no calling for a set time, etc etc. Although I never felt humiliated afterwards, whenever I get the urge to start acting out that behavior, I just remember that 2 weeks could turn into 4 weeks the next time. Keeps my big mouth and fanny in line! lol Good luck!
Love,
Zechriel [sm=couple.gif]



ranja -> RE: My first punishment spanking (3/22/2010 5:18:25 AM)

FR

yes, i felt humiliated, He used a wooden spoon,
and what was most important about the whole episode was that it was totally clear that He is the boss



lally2 -> RE: My first punishment spanking (3/29/2010 1:12:46 AM)

the thing is mastersslut69 - are we really going to have to empathise and sympathise with you each and every single time you and youre Dominant hit the punishment theme.  this will be youre second 'punishment spanking' in a month -

this whole punishment spanking thing - if theres a 'punishment spanking' then there must be other sorts of spanking going on too - are you really asking us to believe that his methods are working on you -

there is such a thing as funishment - its playing on the punishment theme only its actually working for both people on different levels.  you feel chastised without feeling gutted about it and he gets his jollies wopping youre bum.

its the whole melodrama and poor little me that just doesnt ring true with any of this.

you have another post on punishment too as a response to someone else - you seem drawn to punishment and fine, if thats youre kink, just accept its youre kink and stop dressing it up as something else.




dreamerdreaming -> RE: My first punishment spanking (3/29/2010 1:26:46 AM)

Why do we bother, Lally? [8|]


When I was slave, I don't remember ever being punished. I was a huge pain slut, so there was no need to trump up any excuse for very painful torture. I just asked for it, or waited for it. God, it was sweet. [:)]

I was a good, obedient girl, so real punishment just wasn't necessary.



lally2 -> RE: My first punishment spanking (3/29/2010 2:11:04 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming

Why do we bother, Lally? [8|]


When I was slave, I don't remember ever being punished. I was a huge pain slut, so there was no need to trump up any excuse for very painful torture. I just asked for it, or waited for it. God, it was sweet. [:)]

I was a good, obedient girl, so real punishment just wasn't necessary.


laughing - i really dont know -

in the ten years or so ive been active in this lifestyle i can only remember 3 major, big push punishments -

there are just so many pointers here - like theyve been together for two years but only now, in the past 6 months has she suddenly developed a penchant for losing things - only now he blows his stack  ???
she doesnt want her bum black and blue in another six months, but here we are barely four weeks later building up to another session.
just recently apparently she's become a real pain in the ass - cant imagine why that might be[8|]

its not that i dont recognise her enthusiasm for all of this - but she maybe doesnt understand that punishment isnt something that happens all that much, unless youre in a punishment dynamic - and if you are, cool, just dont dress it up as 'woe is me'

the trouble is that punishment dynamics just revolve around the same old same old, in the end the negativity of - playing up for a punishment, being punished - starts to get old - the Dominant is turned into some sort of whipping boy and she gets 'done' as often as the urge takes her.  fine too.  ill maybe steer clear of her threads from now on though. 



dreamerdreaming -> RE: My first punishment spanking (3/29/2010 2:22:16 AM)

Its tempting to start a joke thread about it, but that's probably against TOS. Darn. [8|]


[sm=meh.gif]  Hey wait, I could start one about myself, right?

dreamerdreaming to be punished...
 
This just in: I have accidentally on purpose been a vewy, vewy bad girl! Daddy will be home to punish me on Thursday, and its likely to hurt quite a bit! Plus, then I'll probably be sore for days. OH...MY...GOD.... Its just awful! Oh, the humanity! I'm sure I'll cry!!! I can't wait, -uh- I mean I'm dreading it...



lally2 -> RE: My first punishment spanking (3/29/2010 4:01:36 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming

Its tempting to start a joke thread about it, but that's probably against TOS. Darn. [8|]


[sm=meh.gif]  Hey wait, I could start one about myself, right?

dreamerdreaming to be punished...
 
This just in: I have accidentally on purpose been a vewy, vewy bad girl! Daddy will be home to punish me on Thursday, and its likely to hurt quite a bit! Plus, then I'll probably be sore for days. OH...MY...GOD.... Its just awful! Oh, the humanity! I'm sure I'll cry!!! I can't wait, -uh- I mean I'm dreading it...


well hun, you be sure and come to us and tell us aaalll about it, how sore you botty is, how you cant sit down and how he spanked you sooooo hard with his hand OTK so that you cried and cried and begged and begged for him to stop. 

we'll be here with tea and sympathy - poor dreamer, such a mean hard Master [8D]

sorry OP but this is what it is.

coming on here and telling a load of pervy lifestylers about how much you dread punishment when you keep earning it, keep talking about it and keep giving us aaalll the details is just a transparant dressing up of something you want and need on some level or another.   you cant pretend to subs who know all the angles, know all about the psychology and in dreamers case was once a slave and is now a Dominant and knows all about both sides of how this works.  using us as 'extras' in youre drama is wholly dishonest and manipulative.

stop it.

if you want to share the joy of being with a man who likes to take you through pain and explore how that makes you feel then fine.  just drop the whole 'hes so mean and im so dreading it' - we're just not buying it.



eyesopened -> RE: My first punishment spanking (3/29/2010 4:26:26 AM)

My Master has never punished me.  He hurts me often because He likes to but never as punishment.   I cannot imgaine the horror of doing anything that would disappoint Him.



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