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mlooking2 -> Live in slave (3/14/2010 10:44:09 AM)

I have aways wanted to be a live in slave .But keep my job outside. I would like to be kept in a small crawl space or a small hidden room. Do many women out here have a live in slave ? I'm not talking just a kinky husband or lover.
Thanks Mlooking2



Domin8tingUrDrmz -> RE: Live in slave (3/14/2010 10:47:33 AM)

I'm seeking a live-in slave. One who maintains employment outside the home, but I won't be locking him away in a crawl space or hidden room.

Some women do keep live-in slaves, some don't. Some prefer submissives rather than slaves.

Edited to add: Please click on the link in my signature and read the Forum FAQ.



DarkSteven -> RE: Live in slave (3/14/2010 11:06:47 AM)

If you want to live in a small crawl space and only venture out to attend a school of wizardry, I know of a fiction series you will love.



mlooking2 -> RE: Live in slave (3/14/2010 11:19:13 AM)

Next comes all the Haters, People who pick on my spelling , Or don't have anything nice to say. I see this all the time when someone post. I didn't say I was in Massachusetts. I'm not into drugs or drinking I don't smoke . I was never into the B+D S+M I read other replies to men who posted the same ad as me. And found many rude people on here. He and I posted to learn what to do or find someone out here. Not to be picked on. OK who will be the first to say my name sucks or my spelling is bad ? Or from this posting I can tell your to rebellious to be a slave.. And why do all the women have to fit in the same mold , All have whips and ropes all like leather all talk down to there toys. I'm sure there aren't a set of rules that all have to conform to. I'm sure some women out here don't go to kinky clubs or hang with kinky people at all. I'm not homeless or rude .Never even got a parking ticket. Or had law troubles. And yes meeting a person over coffee is the best thing to do. I understand you will just being doing house work or car care while your Mistress is out with her lover.



mlooking2 -> RE: Live in slave (3/14/2010 11:22:22 AM)

See here is the first joker. Very funny . You must spend all your free time on this site looking for people to pick on. Try sleeping or taking a break..



RedMagic1 -> RE: Live in slave (3/14/2010 11:26:21 AM)

1. Have you read the Forum FAQ yet, as a dominant woman looking for a live-in slave just suggested?

2. Do you think women are attracted to men who rant and complain?



mlooking2 -> RE: Live in slave (3/14/2010 11:33:58 AM)

Domin8tingUrDrmz
Thanks for the nice reply. But I'm far from you. I'm not complain, Just stating a fact.



indenturedslave -> RE: Live in slave (3/14/2010 11:50:02 AM)

I have to agree with the OP. While I personally have never been subjected to such treatment, I've seen it many times on this and other boards. Posters chided for their spelling or for asking basic questions. It's beyond rude. It's tedious.



LadyAngelika -> RE: Live in slave (3/14/2010 11:52:29 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

1. Have you read the Forum FAQ yet, as a dominant woman looking for a live-in slave just suggested?

2. Do you think women are attracted to men who rant and complain?



Great advice. Showing a bad temper right away will alienate potential Dommes.

I'll also add mlooking2 that you are looking for a very particular and extreme situation which isn't going to appeal to many Dommes for a few reasons.

1) You have already outlined how the dynamics are going to work. You are essentially looking for a keeper.
2) What you suggest is high maintenance

It is not impossible that you find what you are looking for but it is highly unlikely. That said, if it is truly what you dream of, don't give up your dream.

- LA



LadyAngelika -> RE: Live in slave (3/14/2010 11:55:57 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: indenturedslave

I have to agree with the OP. While I personally have never been subjected to such treatment, I've seen it many times on this and other boards. Posters chided for their spelling or for asking basic questions. It's beyond rude. It's tedious.


It's all a question of perspective. The men that come here politely asking questions get polite answers back. The ones that come across as wankers don't. I try my best to be fair, but I do find myself at times getting annoyed with do-me subs. When I do, I remind myself that it's their problem and not mine and I focus on trying to be helpful or simply ignore them.

- LA



myotherself -> RE: Live in slave (3/14/2010 11:59:38 AM)

I'm somewhat confused here - where in this thread, or in any of the OPs other posts, has anyone mocked or chided him for his spelling or any of the other rather left-field stuff he brought up in his little rant earlier?

So far he's had excellent advice from various Dom/mes, and a little bit of gentle teasing from another for his somewhat niche fantasy.

It's important to be aware that there is every chance that a potential Domme would view his posts to determine if he is what she is looking for. I would suggest taking a step back, taking a few deep breaths and following Domin8tingUrDrmz's suggestion and read the FAQ link at the bottom of her post, and hopefully this will answer some questions.




mlooking2 -> RE: Live in slave (3/14/2010 12:09:17 PM)

What I said or want was not writen in stone. Just finding a women near me to date is hard. Now try finding one that wants a slave. Just a meeting over coffee would be nice for a start. Its not a single ad I have here it was a question. (I read other replies to men who posted the same ad as me. And found many rude people on here. He and I posted to learn what to do or find someone out here. Not to be picked on.) I have read some post here and just said what I have seen .The rest is up to you. And no one answered my question. LOL



DrkJourney -> RE: Live in slave (3/14/2010 12:12:15 PM)

I was going to reply, but after I see your tirade when no one has yet picked on you, well kind of afraid to answer now.  Personally I thought you had a good subject for discussion.  No one answered your question because you didn't give them a chance.  After only two posts, one being very helpful and the other just a little joke, he was far from flaming you....you had a meltdown and turned this post into another subject all together.  So if you are not getting the answers you originally wanted "you" are the one that turned this post into what it is now.

I will say one thing...you might notice from those threads you mentioned, when a person actually tries to help and give the OP advice, those posts are usually over looked and the OP focuses only on the posts that flame.  Maybe things could be changed if the OP's would do just the opposite and only focus on the post that are actually trying to help....just my opinion.

oh well...I suppose everyone has their own way, so I guess you have no problems finding what you are looking for with this approach, who am I to say anything

good luck to you



Lockit -> RE: Live in slave (3/14/2010 12:12:40 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mlooking2

Next comes all the Haters, People who pick on my spelling , Or don't have anything nice to say. I see this all the time when someone post. I didn't say I was in Massachusetts. I'm not into drugs or drinking I don't smoke . I was never into the B+D S+M I read other replies to men who posted the same ad as me. And found many rude people on here. He and I posted to learn what to do or find someone out here. Not to be picked on. OK who will be the first to say my name sucks or my spelling is bad ? Or from this posting I can tell your to rebellious to be a slave.. And why do all the women have to fit in the same mold , All have whips and ropes all like leather all talk down to there toys. I'm sure there aren't a set of rules that all have to conform to. I'm sure some women out here don't go to kinky clubs or hang with kinky people at all. I'm not homeless or rude .Never even got a parking ticket. Or had law troubles. And yes meeting a person over coffee is the best thing to do. I understand you will just being doing house work or car care while your Mistress is out with her lover.


Darlin, if you felt this way about us, why would you come to ask us a question? A question you know from all your reading about us, that we might have answers that you fully expected? And since you did expect some problems, what does that say?

You can't get anywhere with a lot of built up frustrations that result in a post such as this. You want answer's, you put yourself in a place where you don't trust the people answering and you think they most often wham blast people. So really, was it your motive to ask a question and get different answers than you think we all will give? What was your intention here? If you have read enough to accuse us of these things, then you have read enough to know what our answers to this type of question would be, because we get this question in similar form quite often. So why did you ask? So that you could lash out and put us all in our place?

To answer your question, personally I would never treat even a dog like that, much less a person. But besides my own reasons for doing so, I don't happen to want to highlighted on the evening news for holding a slave hostage. If I get on the news I want it to be for far different reasons than being a slave/human being abuser.



myotherself -> RE: Live in slave (3/14/2010 12:14:53 PM)

actually Domin8tingUrDrmz did answer your question - yes, people have live-in slaves. If you check the site thoroughly you'll find loads of Dommes with live-in slaves. As someone who is active in the local bdsm scene, I personally know of several Dommes who have live-in slaves.

I suspect what you really want to know is whether there are any Dommes who have live-in slaves in relationships that conform to your own particular fantasy. That, I suspect, would be more difficult to find.




LadyAngelika -> RE: Live in slave (3/14/2010 12:23:07 PM)

quote:

Just a meeting over coffee would be nice for a start.


Yes it would. Gosh would it be so nice to get an email from a local man that says something like ----

Dear Lady Angelika,

I've read your profile and you sound like fascinating woman. Here is a little about me (writes a few lines about himself and no kink).

I would very much to like to learn what makes you tick. Ultimately, I'd love to be sitting across from you discussing over a cup of coffee, but of course, if and when you are ready.

----

A Domme can dream, can't she? Well that has happened and I have met the few local ones who've taken this approach.

- LA



indenturedslave -> RE: Live in slave (3/14/2010 12:23:15 PM)


Very good point Lady Angelika. I just believe very strongly that no one should ever be ridiculed for asking questions. This causes many people to clam up and stay ignorant for fear of being embarrassed. That being said, I can certainly understand how a Mistress would can get frustrated.

I think most of us probably start out as do-me subs. We have these elaborate fantasies and when we find out that there are actually women out there that have similar feelings, we think these unrealistic fantasies are going to come true. Speaking for myself, it took some real time experience to understand how draining these things are for a Domme. To understand that it isn't really submission if the "slave" is expecting the Mistress to cater to his fantasies.

A suggestion for the OP. If you do find a Mistress who wants what you state, be careful you really want it so you don't waste her valuable time. You might try this exercise. Find a comfortable position to sit/lay in and then remain in that position for at least four hours. With the exception of an emergency you cannot move from that position under any circumstances and this includes going to the bathroom. See if you can really take it because what you describe will be far more extreme.



DrkJourney -> RE: Live in slave (3/14/2010 12:27:33 PM)

His comments regarding being picked on would have made more sense if he had actually been picked on "before" the rant

just saying



LadyAngelika -> RE: Live in slave (3/14/2010 12:38:32 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: indenturedslave
Very good point Lady Angelika. I just believe very strongly that no one should ever be ridiculed for asking questions. This causes many people to clam up and stay ignorant for fear of being embarrassed. That being said, I can certainly understand how a Mistress would can get frustrated.


But that's life, no? No one owes anyone anything here and we are more likely to treat those who are respectful with respect. Some people have more social skills than others. I used to do the gamut of networking events as a consultant and do a lot of training seminars. Trust me, individuals who impose themselves get negative reactions from the crowd in real life than on a message board. That said, the OP went a little overboard as that was not the case with him.

quote:

I think most of us probably start out as do-me subs. We have these elaborate fantasies and when we find out that there are actually women out there that have similar feelings, we think these unrealistic fantasies are going to come true. Speaking for myself, it took some real time experience to understand how draining these things are for a Domme. To understand that it isn't really submission if the "slave" is expecting the Mistress to cater to his fantasies.


Maybe. I can't quantify that it's "most", but certainly many. And many do not move beyond that first level of do-me after years and years.

quote:

A suggestion for the OP. If you do find a Mistress who wants what you state, be careful you really want it so you don't waste her valuable time. You might try this exercise. Find a comfortable position to sit/lay in and then remain in that position for at least four hours. With the exception of an emergency you cannot move from that position under any circumstances and this includes going to the bathroom. See if you can really take it because what you describe will be far more extreme.


Excellent suggestion to the OP. That said, sometimes fantasy doesn't translate so well into reality.

- LA



Lockit -> RE: Live in slave (3/14/2010 12:43:09 PM)

indenturedslave, you state that you believe that most submissive's are do-me when they start out. If this is so, then how is it that we dominant's should answer their questions in a way that doesn't ridicule, which just about anything could be taken as ridicule?

Shall we coddle them? Shall we patiently about ten to twenty times a day, at least, coddle, teach, prepare and on and on with someone who isn't in a realistic place, just because he presents himself?

You know how difficult this can be and you are understanding. I am not trying to challenge you. What I am trying to do is state that it isn't our place to teach all things and even when we do take it upon ourselves to try and show someone their error, they are not only do-me, but angry and defensive and unteachable. They typically want us to continue their fantasy and get upset when we don't.

It is difficult to see grown men so stuck in fantasy and sexual focus that they cannot see a woman as a person rather than a kink fest opportunity. One day, depending on presentation, I might teach, the next day I may slam dunk.

When I raised my adults (also known to others as children) I taught them that people will respond to their words and actions and they better learn how to function so that they don't get slam dunked. It isn't the other persons responsibility to respond the way they want them to when they were in error. For example: My teen goes up and hits someone. That someone could teach and say... no... no... we don't hit people or that person could hit them back or call the cops. In personal accountability my teen ought to think before they act and not place an expectation on a stranger to act a certain way that enables them to remain ignorant.



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