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RE: Live in slave - 3/14/2010 12:52:33 PM   
DarkSteven


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I think most of us probably start out as do-me subs. We have these elaborate fantasies and when we find out that there are actually women out there that have similar feelings, we think these unrealistic fantasies are going to come true.


Hmmmm, interesting point.  I remember when I was first discovering what delicious things women could be.  At that point I was basically a hormone on two legs and something of a do-me vanilla.  I've had some maturing (and Domifying) since.

The "coming to realize what one is" is pretty much tied to Internet access to porn and may occur later in life than puberty,  So there may be a bunch of do-me subs that simply need some time to mature.

Thanks for your perspective.


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RE: Live in slave - 3/14/2010 12:58:12 PM   
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Hmmmm, interesting point.  I remember when I was first discovering what delicious things women could be.  At that point I was basically a hormone on two legs and something of a do-me vanilla.  I've had some maturing (and Domifying) since.


I thought all Doms were do-me men ;-)

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RE: Live in slave - 3/14/2010 1:49:22 PM   
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I thought all Doms were do-me men ;-)

- LA


Steven is, most of the time. Although he rolls over like a fluffy puppy for a cookie


edited to correct layout cock-up

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RE: Live in slave - 3/14/2010 2:17:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		To start with the original question, yes.  Some folks do keep live  in slaves.  They have various sleeping arrangements.  Everything from sharing a bed together, to the slave sleeping on the floor, to being chained to the bed, caged, or any other thing that the M in the dynamic decides. 

Is it My personal style?  No.  Not that clip has never seen the inside of a cage or been bound to something or another so that he couldn't 'get away' but I really am more of the 'at Her feet' variety.  That happens to be My preference and someone else may like something entirely different.

As for the rest, nobody said anything against you, yet you flew off the handle when someone made a joke.  If this is how you interact with others away from the computer, its not a surprise to Me that you have difficulty finding someone to date.  Women, any women, kinky or not, appreciate a little social grace.  The original question was fine, but as soon as someone didn't answer the way you wanted them to, you reacted badly.  That's called making a bad first impression and it means that some folks are going to be less likely to be open to conversing with you.

Since you wanted to know who would be first, I'll kindly step up to the plate.  This is a written forum and yes, spelling counts.  If you've been around long enough to read some of these boards, you should already know that poor spelling is often seen as a sign of laziness.  I know I'm not everyone, but I don't want a lazy slave or someone who doesn't care how they present themselves.  I want someone who knows they are a reflection of Me at all times and that means he had better put his best foot forward.

One last thing that I want to address specifically:

(I read other replies to men who posted the same ad as me. And found many rude people on here. He and I posted to learn what to do or find someone out here. Not to be picked on.) I have read some post here and just said what I have seen .The rest is up to you.

I'm going to tell you the same thing that I told someone else earlier in the week.  Your education about BDSM, how to find a partner, or any other thing isn't up to us.  It's up to you.  We aren't here to cater to your wishes or to bow down to you and only tell you the things that you want to hear.  The folks who frequent these boards aren't here specifically to please you.  We're here for our own purposes, but if you treat us that we exist on these forums to make you happy, you're going to have people tell you that we aren't going to cease our personal forms of expression just to suit you.


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RE: Live in slave - 3/14/2010 2:53:56 PM   
mlooking2


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Status: offline 		His comments regarding being picked on would have made more sense if he had actually been picked on "before" the rant
just saying

I said this because I went through the postings looking for answers to my question before I post here. I could cut and post all the rude comments but don't want to fill the page up . I wouldn't have said such a thing without seeing it happen so many times on your site. indenturedslave is right in saying ( I just believe very strongly that no one should ever be ridiculed for asking questions. This causes many people to clam up and stay ignorant for fear of being embarrassed.) I was not embarrassed or ignorant, I was upset at how people can be so rude .Someone had to say something. Even if I didn't RANT !! One of you would have said something rude .I understand now thats what this place is all about. Gee all I did was ask a question ,I didn't mean to start a war. But I won't make this mistake again.

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RE: Live in slave - 3/14/2010 5:09:39 PM   
thishereboi


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I have to agree with the OP. While I personally have never been subjected to such treatment, I've seen it many times on this and other boards. Posters chided for their spelling or for asking basic questions. It's beyond rude. It's tedious.


Well yes, but as a rule the OP waits until after he has been slammed before making his grand stand rant. The second post answered his question and the third was a joke. You know, sense of humor

Of course now that he has posted his little tantrum, this thread will head for P&RS land, but I have to say, he asked for it.


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RE: Live in slave - 3/14/2010 5:15:13 PM   
alhamdullilah


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Just a meeting over coffee would be nice for a start.


Yes it would. Gosh would it be so nice to get an email from a local man that says something like ----

Dear Lady Angelika,

I've read your profile and you sound like fascinating woman. Here is a little about me (writes a few lines about himself and no kink).

I would very much to like to learn what makes you tick. Ultimately, I'd love to be sitting across from you discussing over a cup of coffee, but of course, if and when you are ready.

----

A Domme can dream, can't she? Well that has happened and I have met the few local ones who've taken this approach.

- LA



Oh wow. I get those all the time. Should I be answering those???? Shoot. Mr. Right comes along and I miss him - just like I do with the bus. Figures!

Seriously, I'm worried now. I'm not sure I have a clue what I'm looking for, compared to the OP. At least he's really got it narrowed down, I guess.

Good luck, mlooking!

-llilah

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RE: Live in slave - 3/14/2010 5:29:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mlooking2

His comments regarding being picked on would have made more sense if he had actually been picked on "before" the rant
just saying

I said this because I went through the postings looking for answers to my question before I post here. I could cut and post all the rude comments but don't want to fill the page up . I wouldn't have said such a thing without seeing it happen so many times on your site. indenturedslave is right in saying ( I just believe very strongly that no one should ever be ridiculed for asking questions. This causes many people to clam up and stay ignorant for fear of being embarrassed.) I was not embarrassed or ignorant, I was upset at how people can be so rude .Someone had to say something. Even if I didn't RANT !! One of you would have said something rude .I understand now thats what this place is all about. Gee all I did was ask a question ,I didn't mean to start a war. But I won't make this mistake again.


So you said those things based on what you read on "other" threads?  And you came on "your" thread, which at that time had only two posts and thought it would be fair to blast "us" for what has happened on "other" threads?  Does that sound right to you?

As I said, when I saw your topic I thought it was a good one and was more than prepared to join in a conversation...YOU changed the subject of this thread, and yet all us terrible people you condemned us to being are still trying to answer your question, but you don't see those responses do you? 

If you had a problem with something you saw on other threads, then you should've started a NEW thread to complain about that, not jump on people that were actually trying to help you on this one.

You keep saying you just asked a question, but it was "you" who didn't give us a chance to answer it....it in fact was "you" that changed the subject of this thread with your rant.  And have you noticed that a lot of people have indeed answered your question?

Just goes back to what I said before, maybe if you with delicate sensiblities would only focus on the answers and not the flames, you wouldn't have so much trouble

oh, and by the way "I" personally don't have a site...this is a free site that belongs to everyone

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RE: Live in slave - 3/14/2010 5:44:24 PM   
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I have aways wanted to be a live in slave .But keep my job outside. I would like to be kept in a small crawl space or a small hidden room. Do many women out here have a live in slave ? I'm not talking just a kinky husband or lover.



mlooking2,
i am a male sub, and i understand your dilemma.  You want to take a fantasy that you have thought about and make it a reality.  Having the courage to step out and try to experience it in real-time is a great first step.  However, i see some problems that i hope you correct before you go much further.

Your desire is VERY specific.  So specific that you may actually be limiting yourself.  For example, what if you were able to find a Domme who was looking for a live-in sub, but she wanted him to stay in a nice guest bedroom that she had already prepared?  Would you be open to this situation, or must you be kept in a crawl space?  If the latter, then you are limiting yourself.

Remember, D/s relationships are about serving your Domme, not her serving you.  So focus on finding a Domme and doing what She wants, rather than coming to her with a list of very specific things that you want.  Otherwise, she will think you are a "do-me sub", and will probably reject you.

Hope that helps.


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RE: Live in slave - 3/14/2010 5:52:17 PM   
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Your desire is VERY specific.  So specific that you may actually be limiting yourself.  For example, what if you were able to find a Domme who was looking for a live-in sub, but she wanted him to stay in a nice guest bedroom that she had already prepared?  Would you be open to this situation, or must you be kept in a crawl space?  If the latter, then you are limiting yourself.




See, this is along the lines of what I wanted to say when I saw your OP.  I was going to ask if you were willing to compromise a few things to get your end result....that was MY only motive in originally responding to this thread...to help and discuss

If you had given us the benefit of the doubt or at least waited until you were flamed, which you still haven't by the way, then I think you would've gotten a lot of solid answers

But you changed the subject of the thread.  Have you noticed you are still getting solid answers, not flames?  It's just in response to your "second" subject and not the first.  You kind of glossed over that one.

Next time you want help...let us help

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RE: Live in slave - 3/14/2010 6:08:54 PM   
LadyAngelika


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I said this because I went through the postings looking for answers to my question before I post here. I could cut and post all the rude comments but don't want to fill the page up . I wouldn't have said such a thing without seeing it happen so many times on your site.


We all see what we want to see. I can fill up this page with all the time we responded in a productive manner to men who entered this forum with a respectful tone.

So far, you have had no rude comments as far as I can see. You got a few little jokes (Steven might be one of the male Doms that is the most respectful to male subs that I know of here) and some sound advice.

So just refocus on what you want to know. Notice that people are answering your OP. Engage them.

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RE: Live in slave - 3/14/2010 6:12:32 PM   
MissBeautiful2U


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Status: offline 		In response to OP:

I do not have a live-in slave, but would like one.  The thing is I am very picky about whom I would bring into my home to reside.  I want to know that compatibility is there on every level before taking that final step.  Personally I would not want to hide the slave away, but rather have a home where he had his own room.  I have given a lot of thought to these things.  Part of his service to me would be in taking care of my home.

In response to indentured slave: 

I have noticed the meanness in some of the responses on the boards as well.  It has prevented me from posting in the past.  I don't think the ones that do it even realize it or perhaps feel justified in doing so.  All I can say is ignore the people who are not nice, laugh with the ones who make jokes, and throw your two cents in on things.

All that said, I do think that OP was too quick to feel offended in this instance.

Have a good one.

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RE: Live in slave - 3/14/2010 6:12:46 PM   
LadyAngelika


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ORIGINAL: alhamdullilah


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

quote:

Just a meeting over coffee would be nice for a start.


Yes it would. Gosh would it be so nice to get an email from a local man that says something like ----

Dear Lady Angelika,

I've read your profile and you sound like fascinating woman. Here is a little about me (writes a few lines about himself and no kink).

I would very much to like to learn what makes you tick. Ultimately, I'd love to be sitting across from you discussing over a cup of coffee, but of course, if and when you are ready.

----

A Domme can dream, can't she? Well that has happened and I have met the few local ones who've taken this approach.

- LA



Oh wow. I get those all the time. Should I be answering those???? Shoot. Mr. Right comes along and I miss him - just like I do with the bus. Figures!

Seriously, I'm worried now. I'm not sure I have a clue what I'm looking for, compared to the OP. At least he's really got it narrowed down, I guess.

Good luck, mlooking!

-llilah


Well now that I posted this here, expect a bunch of wankers to use it a bait ;-) It goes further than just that email, but yeah, if it comes across as authentic, I tend to dig a little deeper.

- LA

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RE: Live in slave - 3/14/2010 6:38:20 PM   
QueenRah


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Remember, D/s relationships are about serving your Domme, not her serving you. 


Roch, dear, don't *shock* the poor boy!

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RE: Live in slave - 3/15/2010 3:15:14 AM   
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Seriously, I'm worried now. I'm not sure I have a clue what I'm looking for, compared to the OP. At least he's really got it narrowed down, I guess.


But that's something of an advantage-it leaves you open to possibilities! :-)


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RE: Live in slave - 3/15/2010 11:16:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mlooking2

His comments regarding being picked on would have made more sense if he had actually been picked on "before" the rant
just saying

I said this because I went through the postings looking for answers to my question before I post here. I could cut and post all the rude comments but don't want to fill the page up . I wouldn't have said such a thing without seeing it happen so many times on your site. indenturedslave is right in saying ( I just believe very strongly that no one should ever be ridiculed for asking questions. This causes many people to clam up and stay ignorant for fear of being embarrassed.) I was not embarrassed or ignorant, I was upset at how people can be so rude .Someone had to say something. Even if I didn't RANT !! One of you would have said something rude .I understand now thats what this place is all about. Gee all I did was ask a question ,I didn't mean to start a war. But I won't make this mistake again.


There is a simple way to solve this problem.  If you hate the forums and dislike the people who respond on these forums, then don't read in them.  Don't post on them.  I am not being rude here.  Just giving you way to handle your very negative attitude toward this place. 

For example.  I don't enjoy movies.  I find the vast majority very boring.  I hate it when someone tall sits in front of me and I can not see the screen without bending like a pretzel.  As a result I do not go to movie theaters.  I will, however, watch a movie at home where I can turn it off at will.  The last time I was at a movie theater was for my son's 13th birthday.  The movie was Rocky IV. 

I also dislike air shows.  I lived near military bases for years with all the jet noise.  I see no reason to subject myself to a noisy area crowded with people. 

As you can see, you have choice.  You can avoid the forums and thus avoid anyone writing something negative about your post.  If you do decide to post here, knowing that there is a chance your post could be ridculed, then it's your choice to take that chance. 

However, complaining about people writing negatively about your post even BEFORE they do so...well, that is just silly.  However, even that is YOUR choice.

Please have a very nice day.  Also, please keep safe.  Please see the good things in life. 

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RE: Live in slave - 3/15/2010 2:19:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mlooking2

I have aways wanted to be a live in slave .But keep my job outside. I would like to be kept in a small crawl space or a small hidden room. Do many women out here have a live in slave ? I'm not talking just a kinky husband or lover.
Thanks Mlooking2


How important to you is the small crawl space or hidden room part of the equation?

Akasha


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RE: Live in slave - 3/15/2010 4:51:29 PM   
Kaiel


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ORIGINAL: mlooking2

I have aways wanted to be a live in slave .But keep my job outside. I would like to be kept in a small crawl space or a small hidden room. Do many women out here have a live in slave ? I'm not talking just a kinky husband or lover.
Thanks Mlooking2


I use to have a live-in slave, he worked outside the house, but did not sleep in a hidden room (who the hell has hidden rooms anyway?) he slept where I told him to and that changed frequently.


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RE: Live in slave - 3/15/2010 7:24:44 PM   
Rochsub2009


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who the hell has hidden rooms anyway?



ROFLMAO!   


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RE: Live in slave - 3/16/2010 11:28:36 AM   
velt


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Status: offline 		There are more hidden rooms out there than you might think. Guess the best modern example would be the marijuana grow rooms. At other times and places such rooms have concealed Saddam Hussein, Jews, slaves, Christians, guns, books, alcohol, or other contraband... even bondage gear.

I too, desire to be in a live-in relationship. I would like a position which would provide me with a private luxury suite including a hot tub, walk in closet, big screen TV etc. so I can properly relax after a hard day of subbing without having to leave my personal space.

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