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AAkasha -> The male sub in bed -- sexual intercourse (3/31/2006 2:25:38 PM)

Let's talk about fucking.
Male subs, how do you describe your style in bed when it comes to sexual intercourse? What role are you most comfortable in?

** on the bottom only, letting the lady take charge
** prefer no intercourse at all, would rather be servicing her
** "tell me what to do" -- a service-man in bed, waiting for orders
** aggressive feels awkward, penetration is odd and too controlling
** I like to fuck like a rabbit, on top and thrusting hard
** "what's sexual intercourse?"

So subs -- where do you fit in?

Akasha



dedicated2her -> RE: The male sub in bed -- sexual intercourse (3/31/2006 2:46:36 PM)

  Well i think it's a litlle bit of everything.  If im always taking orders, then that probably means that im not learning anything.  If you know what gets a girl going..then you shouldnt need directions.
But there are other times i dont even need sex...it is good enough that im servicing her..that's it, that's all
However, having experiences in vanilla dating, most girls are more submissive in bed.  So you have to develop some agressive streaks to make them happy.
Perhaps there's another catagory you can make to fit me in! hehe




dave1212 -> RE: The male sub in bed -- sexual intercourse (3/31/2006 4:09:18 PM)

Well my first question AAkasha would have to be What is Sexual intercourse ??  [:)] Aaaahhhhh "those were the day's Mmm"

I would have to say "on the bottom" of course with the "Lady" in charge but i have no problem with just "servicing" said "Lady" as it is about attending to "her" need's before "mine"
Mmmm i suppose that does sound a bit slavey (yes i know it's a made up word)  [:D]..

To add a bit of personality to the answer, I have never really had a problem with being on the bottom as i am equally as happy servicing a Lady with no intercourse involved as i am being on the "bottom" ,and letting the Lady take control of her own orgasm and indeed mine, It certainly doesn't feel awkward to me and does not make me feel any less of a man ....
But on the brighter side when on the "bottom" you certainly can see a lot more of what is going on *wink* [:)]    

Having said that i do actually prefer the penetration to be controlled as it is such a turn on !! 



DelightMachine -> RE: The male sub in bed -- sexual intercourse (3/31/2006 4:23:34 PM)

All of the above and more at various times, and of course it depends on what she wants. But my preferences? Active and passive, fast or slow -- I hate routine and I like it all.

The constants? No matter what, I want her to be pleased. I really want her to orgasm. Preferably multiple times and in different ways. And so far, there's always been passion involved, no matter who she is.

I think surprising a partner is often going to delight her. One thing I like to do with smaller partners -- although it's really not submissive at all, so I've never come across an occasion when I thought it was a good idea to do with a domme -- is surprise her when I'm on the bottom by sitting up, with me still in her, then moving toward the side of the bed ... then putting my feet on the floor ... then standing up and walking around with her, with me still in her ... and sometimes putting her up against a door or wall. All the while, still copulating. The women I've tried it with all seemed to like it.



dedicated2her -> RE: The male sub in bed -- sexual intercourse (3/31/2006 6:23:14 PM)

Im starting to see a theme.  Delight said it best...there are guys out there that just want to make you orgasm no matter what the cost.  I cant even discribe the feeling when you see and feel that your doing a good job. 

For all the submissives out there though...if you want to please your Domme read  "The lowdown on going down" by Marcy Michaels.  It's less than 10 dollars on amazon and it's a keeper...fun and informative!



Moloch -> RE: The male sub in bed -- sexual intercourse (3/31/2006 9:21:16 PM)

*scratches his head*   Well I take part A  and put it in part  B, repeat as necessary.    [:D][:D][:D]



trissy -> RE: The male sub in bed -- sexual intercourse (4/1/2006 1:08:30 PM)

In 'male' penetrative sexual intercourse, i am most comfortable in a very submissive role. i love to be on the bottom - mounted and fucked hard. i especially like the role-reversal 'missionary ' position with my legs spread or wrapped around Her legs- YUMM! It makes me feel so submissive, especially if i am wearing a sexy little nightie or 'girlie' lingerie.But i also respond very well orders!

trissy
PS- i love Your website, AAkasha- You are amazing!



mantis65 -> RE: The male sub in bed -- sexual intercourse (4/1/2006 1:14:07 PM)

tell me what to do" -- a service-man in bed, waiting for orders  but will fuck like a rabbit if told too



luckyslaveboync -> RE: The male sub in bed -- sexual intercourse (4/1/2006 2:44:08 PM)

lucky prefers "prefer no intercourse at all, would rather be servicing her." However, lucky's owner has options not mentioned in Your choices. These include being used as a human dildo, on bottom and not allowed to move, which lucky finds is a test in frustration and not cumming oneself. The last time was being told lucky could suck Her toe as Her boyfriend fucked her, but again, lucky would not prefer cuckolding on this sub's own. So in general, some Dommes may prefer options which put the enjoyment and control even more in their hands, leaving denial and being controlled to the sub.



texguy98 -> RE: The male sub in bed -- sexual intercourse (4/1/2006 11:30:55 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

Let's talk about fucking.
Male subs, how do you describe your style in bed when it comes to sexual intercourse? What role are you most comfortable in?

** on the bottom only, letting the lady take charge
** prefer no intercourse at all, would rather be servicing her
** "tell me what to do" -- a service-man in bed, waiting for orders
** aggressive feels awkward, penetration is odd and too controlling
** I like to fuck like a rabbit, on top and thrusting hard
** "what's sexual intercourse?"

So subs -- where do you fit in?

Akasha



This is a variable for me :) The first time I served a Domme (who became my Domme for 2 years), I wasn't quite sure how to act while in bed. I made the mistake of not asking for direction or communicating so I was as submissive as possible and as stiff as a board for fear of offending or doing something wrong. After about 2 times of that, my Domme sat me down one day and said, "Do you like girls?". As it turns out, she just thought I wasn't interested in her because the sex didn't seem to be there. After talking with her, I learned what she liked and everything was outstanding (to this day, some of the best sex I've had :) )

With every Domme I've served since, I tend to try and learn what is expected of me before "doing the deed". As for what I like, I like being on top, being on bottom, being sideways, being aggressive, being submissive, being told what to do, violent hard sex, soft loving sex, etc. :) That being said, I don't necessarily have a sexual relationship with everyone I play with. As a matter of fact, there are very few people I have a sexual relationship with.

Great post :)

Tex  



UtopianRanger -> RE: The male sub in bed -- sexual intercourse (4/2/2006 11:45:15 AM)

quote:

Let's talk about fucking.
Male subs, how do you describe your style in bed when it comes to sexual intercourse? What role are you most comfortable in?


Far-n-away my favorite two methods are me standing up with her pinned against a wall and her legs wrapped around my mid torso{tight} It's a position that makes for ''hella'' good penetration.

Now the downside to this, for most women, especially if they are on the ''thick'' side, is that they seem to be much less experienced/confident making love this way, because they are worried about their weight, but I always tell em' that I don't spend two days of my 6-7 days a week in the gym doing squats and lunges for nothing. So, don't worry and let me do the work ; }

Now my other favorite method is with a nice ''roomy'' leather office chair, with her on top straddling me - She gets to make all the moves here. *wink*

Being that I'm an Aries,with Leo resting in the planet Mars, what can I say?


 - R
 


 



littlesarbonn -> RE: The male sub in bed -- sexual intercourse (4/2/2006 12:11:51 PM)

The choices of answers in this thread are inadequate, so I don't really have a choice here. I don't think about sex that much, even in a relationship. The closest answer is "what is intercourse" but that sets up a false response because I'm very cognizant of sex and a sexual/sensual relationship. It's just not that important to me unless it's important to her.

For the most part, I'm overjoyed if she can intellectually stimulate me. Don't get me wrong; I still fall into the usual male trappings of being attracted to attractive women, and that doesn't mean there's no sexual drive at all. But it such a great feeling to be in the presence of a woman who truly enjoys intellectual stimulation, both given and received.



UtopianRanger -> RE: The male sub in bed -- sexual intercourse (4/2/2006 12:57:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: UtopianRanger






tantalized -> RE: The male sub in bed -- sexual intercourse (4/2/2006 2:34:33 PM)

Frankly, it really differs from time to time. If I sense she wants me to be hard and thrusting, I can do that. If she wants soft and reassuring, I can do that as well. But those are vanilla times.

In play time -- well, just servicing her is thrilling, as is penetrating without permission to cum. One of the things I love most is when she allows only the tip of my penis inside her -- pleasuring her -- and having me just outside, close and far all at once.

Interestingly, whether I'm on top or on bottom doesn't really matter. What matters is whether we're in vanilla or play head space. That's what determines what kind of fucking we have.



tsk1964 -> RE: The male sub in bed -- sexual intercourse (4/3/2006 8:23:46 PM)

Probably somewhere between "prefer no intercourse at all, would rather be servicing her" and "tell me what to do" -- a service-man in bed, waiting for orders. i do believe that as a sub pleasing the Domme is the primary concern. To me that means putting Her first but also being willing to accept direction when needed. If that does not include intercourse i'm more than fine with that.



APhacetoSit -> RE: The male sub in bed -- sexual intercourse (4/3/2006 10:59:46 PM)

are we limited to only one of these responses?  i generally tease and please a Mistress until She takes my by the ears and commands or whispers "I want you in Me." 



Cloudz -> RE: The male sub in bed -- sexual intercourse (4/4/2006 6:16:01 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: APhacetoSit

are we limited to only one of these responses?  i generally tease and please a Mistress until She takes my by the ears and commands or whispers "I want you in Me." 


Gooooooooooooooooooooood Answer <smiles>




WyrdRich -> RE: The male sub in bed -- sexual intercourse (4/4/2006 7:09:26 AM)

    Spread out and restrained on my back while she exercises absolute control is my personal favorite but if She wants to be taken hard from behind I'll happily comply

    A Heretic as usual
    Rich



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