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My first mistress - 3/16/2010 12:57:50 PM

shaven767

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Hi, what best advise can you give to me who has never really ventured into this lifestyle accept roll play!!

What got me really going was orgasm denial and then a long chat with a friend on the another site about bondage and milking!

I live in the UK Plymouth and want to find a mistress who will be able to explain, advise and show me what I desire.

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RE: My first mistress - 3/16/2010 1:02:22 PM

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Since you are new to the forums, I will advise you to read the Ask A Mistress Forum FAQ so you may familiarize yourself with some of the things we enjoy and some of the things we dislike.

The link to that FAQ is in my signature. Welcome and I hope you find what you are seeking.

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RE: My first mistress - 3/16/2010 1:13:46 PM

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Better yet, use the computer in front of you to look up local groups and events. Then, shut it off and walk outside of your door.

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RE: My first mistress - 3/16/2010 1:15:46 PM

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Thanks Dom8drmz, I have read the FAQ. but just wanted a bit more on the bones!!
So if you are talking to a Dominatrix you may have to pay (not what i am looking for) but if she is a mistress then she is more likely to be a friend who will show you the way!!!

but reading a post in the ask a switch, how am I to know if i am Sub, Dom ect until i have actually been with a mistress to discover where my start point is!!

PS i have come from a swinging back ground so I have had a little fun along the way but not any real life style fun!!!!

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RE: My first mistress - 3/16/2010 1:28:19 PM

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I suppose being with a Mistress could help clarify if you had questions about submission. But you really should sit down and think about what's inside you to know if you're dominant or submissive or a combo of both. A Mistress can't answer that question for you only you can.

And just a wee bit of a heads up. For experiementation, you will probably have to go to a pro, mainly because they do what they do without much attachment. Especially since you stated that you were looking for "lifestyle fun". To become buds with a Mistress in hopes of getting play for free, might not be a realistic goal. We tend to be leery of new "buds" that try and steer us into "helping" With the right person it can be fun, at times, but a lot, like myself take this very seriously, and like to have an attachment, so casual play is ususally left to the pros.

This has just been in my experience any way.

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RE: My first mistress - 3/16/2010 1:30:29 PM

shaven767

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Lady Pact,
At first i thought your were bloody insane!!LOL

Just looked on face book BDSM me!! there is a local group meeting in a local pub

Thanks

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RE: My first mistress - 3/16/2010 2:09:41 PM

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meet new people and be a super friend! going to munches and events are good things =]

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RE: My first mistress - 3/20/2010 8:42:43 PM

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Hi.

Orgasm denial, orgasm control, and chastity are really popular with some slaves and roleplayers. The best advice I can give right now is to ask the Mistress what she wants too. I guess you could say it's like any relationship in that way. There's two people in it so both have to be considered. Other than that have fun. BDSM should be fun. I learned tons of advice and help from GoddessClub.com so you might find lots there too.

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