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RE: Do your fantasies match your real interests and tur... - 3/20/2010 1:48:02 PM

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Unique, I guess that it would depend on if it's something you'd actually like to do with someone else, or if you were just brainstorming for/with him. There are lots of things that I hadn't previously thought about, until someone wrote or discussed them in a way that sounded hot. For example, I'd initially had the impression that canes always hurt far more than I could possibly take, until someone described a sensual scene with them. I didn't want to play with *her*, but it did make me more inclined to try them at the next possible opportunity.

LP, I'm also not attracted to random strangers, I need to interact with them to know whether or not we have any chemistry.

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RE: Do your fantasies match your real interests and tur... - 3/21/2010 4:59:39 AM

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Is there anyone else who *doesn't* fantasise about things that *do* turn you when you actually do them?

I only have fantasies about "the possible". No weird things.( well..normal in my little world...lol)
I fullfilled them all..gladly :P
But the mind keeps comming up with endless combinations...but I guess I don't will be old enough to try them all.
The first time is best ofcourse..later the "special" feeling gets a little less.

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RE: Do your fantasies match your real interests and tur... - 3/21/2010 10:38:02 AM

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For me, I think it's more that submission is so linked to the specific person, and combined with such a sense of *not* being in control, that it's hard for me to re-create that mindset in fantasy where I am in control of what is happening.

i'm like this as well. the kink that turned me on in RL is tied to that guy, and i don't fantasize about that in general. it was sexy with him but i think that mostly owed to him. i was talking to my ex last night actually, and he said, "we did such and so that one time" but it wasn't hot with him, lol.

i wonder if there is a difference here between those who fantasize to accompany self pleasure and those who fantasize for contemplation? in my fantasies, i push my easy turn-on buttons because i'm trying to get off, and the fantasy is usually something as simple as imagining whose fingers i would prefer to my own, immediate and functional fantasies. i rarely ever fantasize about my lover and what i do with him.

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RE: Do your fantasies match your real interests and tur... - 3/21/2010 10:44:45 AM

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I have this one fantasy about being a spy and making posts on BDSM forums. Anything else is a task on my to do list.

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RE: Do your fantasies match your real interests and tur... - 3/21/2010 10:52:49 AM

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~Fast Reply~
i mostly fantasize about things that could happen in real life with Someone known to me (strangers don't "do it" for me), things that totally get me off big-time. Well, except there is this one way hot fanstasy that's in the realm of science fiction...... ~blushing~

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