countrychick -> RE: Free Advice (3/20/2010 10:43:43 PM)
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2. Insist on a reciprocal relationship. One in which you get as much as you give. Mutual fulfillment, mutual pleasure, and mutual self-actualization, or self-realization, are the goals. 3. Love is not magic, love will not overcome, and love will not find a way, etc. Sometimes love means letting go. 4. You are the author of your own life. You are the controller of your own thoughts, feelings, and deeds. If you don't like how something in your life is going, or if your thoughts, feelings or actions are troubling you: change it up. Don't wait. Change it now. Make plans, set goals, and work toward them. Take action to control your thoughts and feelings, and deeds, instead of letting them control you. 5. Being submissive doesn't mean your brain fell out your ear. Use it. If you're acting like you have low self-esteem, then you probably do. See #4. 6. You never really know someone until you've spent a sigificant amount of time, over time, actually in their presence. Not just a few days, or weeks. And not just on one or two separate occassions. A significant amount of time, over a significant period of time. 7. For a long-term relationship, seek someone with whom you are compatible in and out of the bedroom. 8. Communicate, communicate, communicate. 9. Don't take yourself too seriously, and don't expect perfection from yourself or your partner. Forgive them their honest mistakes, and be forgiving of (and expect forgiveness for) yours. Don't worry about the things you can't change. Focus on what you can do, and don't spend too much time worrying over that, either. Relax! You only live once. Keep your sense of humor. Explore, and have FUN! All of the above applies to vanilla as well. That's all for now, thanks OP! Hey there a quick question, would I be able to post this in my journal/profile? Of course with proper reference to who wrote it? A couple of the things over time I've basically decided to live by but I'm never good at writing things down, numbers 2 and 4 specifically. If not thats cool! Thanks
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