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Sensual Service - 3/21/2010 6:04:50 PM   
Aileen1968


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Status: offline 		I've discovered in the past year that I really enjoy doing service things for him. His laundry, etc. Stuff that I've always hated to do.
I've noticed that we have naturally evolved the nature of the service into a sensual experience. This may have something to do with why I enjoy it.
Cleaning in a french maid uniform. Weekly full body massages from his personal masseuse to her favorite "client" dressed in heels and pencil skirts (or whatever outfit he requests). Dinner and a drink prepared when he walks through the door, once again dressed to his specifications. It adds an edge of sensuality and sexuality to the mundane.

Are there things you do within your dynamic that make the ordinary, everyday things a little more exciting?
Do you enjoy making tasks that aren't sexual, sexual?




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RE: Sensual Service - 3/21/2010 6:27:41 PM   
LadyAngelika


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Status: offline 		I look at things differently as a Domme. I don't want to have to sexualise or sensualise everything for him to want to do it. I want him to do it for me.

(Side note: I have a hard time finding a massage non-sensual as it is a sensual act.)

What might be his motivation to do it is the recognition and reward he gets for serving me so well. I will add also that if he dresses nice and smells good and acts chivalrous while he is doing things for me, there is a good chance he will arouse me and then, well, you know how that might all play itself out ;-)

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RE: Sensual Service - 3/21/2010 6:37:11 PM   
Aileen1968


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Status: offline 		These were things that I was happily doing for him anyway. It wasn't like I needed an incentive.
I had just realized that they had evolved into a more sensual aspect.



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RE: Sensual Service - 3/21/2010 6:46:34 PM   
beej


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Status: offline 		i had to make breakfast in just a corset, and yeah, there was something to it. i'm not domestic and wasn't converted by that, but part of why i was content with it was that i knew that he was going to come in and put it on me in the kitchen because of what i had on. the sensuality definitely kept the task from being a chore.

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RE: Sensual Service - 3/21/2010 6:55:10 PM   
catize


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One dominant in my life loves a good foot massage. Neither one of us has a foot fetish, but it relaxes him and I really get into serving him that way. There are a lot of ways to be 'suggestive' while giving a foot massage. One of my favorite ways is to lather my breasts with lotion and then massage the bottom of his feet using my hands only to keep his leg in a comfy position.
When serving a cold drink for any of them, I hold the cold glass against a bare nipple while carrying it, by the time I set it down my nipple is erect and that always gets a positive response!
Sexualizing the mundane doesn't necessarily mean we will 'do it' but I like letting them know I find them sexy and that I feel sexy in their presence!

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RE: Sensual Service - 3/21/2010 6:57:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

These were things that I was happily doing for him anyway. It wasn't like I needed an incentive.
I had just realized that they had evolved into a more sensual aspect.




Ok, I understand where you are coming from now. Yeah, I can see that happening in some cases with men as well.

I'm curious, were these things you came up with yourself or did he prompt you on any of it? Did you discuss it together or did he give you feedback on your ideas before or after you implemented them?

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RE: Sensual Service - 3/21/2010 7:10:53 PM   
Aileen1968


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Status: offline 		They are things that are done under his specific direction. He tells me how he wants me dressed. He tells me what he wants me to get done each day and how he wants me to do it. It works well in my brain. I hear or read his directions and my mind instantly becomes aroused above and beyond the normal arousal I have for him.
It's a win win situation. We both get something positive out of what would normally be a boring task.

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RE: Sensual Service - 3/21/2010 7:25:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

They are things that are done under his specific direction. He tells me how he wants me dressed. He tells me what he wants me to get done each day and how he wants me to do it. It works well in my brain. I hear or read his directions and my mind instantly becomes aroused above and beyond the normal arousal I have for him.
It's a win win situation. We both get something positive out of what would normally be a boring task.


Great! Thanks for sharing this experience :-)

Oh btw, have you updated him on your newly discovered definition of masochism yet? ;-)

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RE: Sensual Service - 3/21/2010 10:02:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have NEVER enjoyed doing laundry . . . but it turns out that doing his laundry offers many opportunities to smell his clothes, and that in turn makes me think of many sensual/sexual things. I suppose the way I make everyday things sensual or sexual is by the way I think about them. When I wash dishes, I think about his mouth on the fork or glass I'm washing; when I clean the bathroom, I think about him naked and shaving or showering. I'm not wearing a sexy pencil skirt when I do laundry or dishes, but my mind is certainly in the gutter.

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RE: Sensual Service - 3/22/2010 12:34:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		I never have any qualms about acknowledging that I am in service as Master to my house. My Masterisms can include my personal joy of cooking a meal for those in my charge that I care for.... especially a huge, elaborate and eloquent breakfast.

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RE: Sensual Service - 3/22/2010 4:37:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, these games are great, i like doing domestic chores with a sensual, sexual twist, it makes normal live so much more fun

wearing bondage under clothes while grocery shopping
or insertions is good too
Too much make up and pigtails while clothes shopping
or maybe even wearing a trench coat with only underwear underneat... very handy aswell.

Also normally i regularly shave Him, cut His hair, nails, massage His feet
sometimes specially dressed or naked i think it is very lovely spending time together like that.

Then again... a person can not alway be at it like this... there are periods of time that all the sexual sensual stuff is very much on the back burner and sometimes an effort seems necessary to sort of revive things again.

He has grown His hair and His beard all winter... i am a bit nervous at the prospect of wielding the razor again sometime soon, He wants a fresh look for spring.

I take His boots off everyday, sometimes i just take them off and that is all there is to it, but some times i feel so submissive unlacing, like i move into a strange bubble, like i need to kneel more than i am doing already, like He should hit me, or push me down and have me kiss His feet.... it is all depending moods
On occasion He will take of His own boots and i might not have noticed... or feel passed by.

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