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RE: Work - 3/23/2010 5:56:55 AM

GraciousLady

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I was wondering.

Do you think its harder for a Dom or a Slave to hold a normal job.

As for myself I hate doing what other people tell me to do, and thats why I cant hold a normal job long.

I long to open another buisness for myself.....

So, all of you subs/slaves out there. Are you happy with your day job? Is your Dom with theirs?

What are your feelings?

-Daddy Blade

Listen, saying you can't hold a job because you don't like being told what to do sounds like your a hot head or an immture brat. You also have no clue what your talking about. As a business owner I can tell you having your own business will not in any way stop you form having to take instruction from others. I listen to and do what my clients say. They hire me to do a job to their specifications. If I want to get paid I better listen to what they want and do it. Did you think by being a business owner you would just knock on doors and tell people to pay you for doing whatever you wanted?

Now let me answer your question: Yes, I am happy with my job. I do it well and make lots of money.

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RE: Work - 3/23/2010 6:09:32 AM

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Paying my mortgage, car payment, and all the other bills way trumps any "orientations" I might have. It's called being an adult.

Exactly, thank you!

I'm a cog in the machine. I LOVE my career! Its absolutely fabulous.

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RE: Work - 3/23/2010 6:18:54 AM

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I once called the electric company. I told the to stop sending me their silly fucking bills and to serve me electricity with a smile! "Listen you whores, I will determine the worth of your service!"

They turned off My service.

Talk about topping from the bottom!

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RE: Work - 3/23/2010 7:26:38 AM

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I long to open another buisness for myself.....

For this business you hope to have, will you have customers? Will these customers tell you what they want? Customer service is the same whether you own the business or you are working for someone. You have to figure out what the customers requires and then figure out a way to provide that good or service. If you can not do that while working for someone else, what makes you think that owning the business will make it any easier?

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RE: Work - 3/23/2010 7:37:39 AM

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Most Doms I know are assertive enough to choose a career they actually like, and to change careers when they find themselves in a job they don't like.

In fact, most submissives I know are assertive enough to do that too.

Owning your own business does not imply that you get to do whatever the fuck you want, not if you want to keep your clients at least.

My Master owns his own business, and I am often around when he makes business calls with his clients.
I'm always is awe (and have told him this several time and he seems to think nothing of it) at how he manages to talk to clients in such a polite, respectful, attentive way, making them feel valued in their thoughts and opinions (kissing ass in a sense, some would call it) while at the same time, he never loses himself, or his dominant personality when he talks to them.

The duality in how he can very clearly be "serving" his client's needs, while at the same time remaining himself is awesome to watch for me, and I imagine that if he would be employed by a boss, he would have no trouble remaining that same attitude towards his superiors.

In fact, he's served in the military for a long time, and I can absolutely imagine him taking orders from a superior officer, as was expected of him, without ever feeling he was submissive or have trouble with his dominant personality.

A dominant personality doesn't give you a free license to consider everybody else as your subordinates. You will always have to deal with situations where another person is in charge of you and makes the decisions. Taking orders from somebody else doesn’t imply that you have to give up your own personal assertiveness; in fact, it is those times where you have to deal with the leadership of other people that dominant character traits should be an asset instead of an inhibitor.

I wish you well,

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RE: Work - 3/23/2010 9:47:13 AM

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I don't have a problem keeping a job. I don't like my work, but its kinda essential for paying bills. I continue to work on my goals so that I can find a better situation. I don't see how D/s has anything to do with it. If having an income has any importance to you, then one would think that the priority of that would overtake the dislike of following directions.

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RE: Work - 3/23/2010 10:15:48 AM

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I'm very Dominant,but I work a job more to do with customer service than anything else. I do it with pride and competence-since a percentage of every sale I make comes back to me.

It has nothing to do with submitting to anyone. It has everything to do with meeting goals-and I am studying to find better employment in the future. I'm just glad to HAVE a steady income in tough times like these.

And to have the self discipline to make things happen in my life.

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RE: Work - 3/23/2010 11:52:02 AM

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I was wondering.
Okay.

Do you think its harder for a Dom or a Slave to hold a normal job.
i don't know, but i would say it's an inividual thing rather than a D/s orientation thing.

As for myself I hate doing what other people tell me to do, and thats why I cant hold a normal job long.
That sounds like a personality/attitude problem or a maturity issue, since holding down a job is part of being a responsible adult. Bosses don't like problem employees. Think of it like this....You may be following orders, but who's getting the paycheck? The bottom line is, You win.

I long to open another business for myself.....
That's cool. But if You don't have the drive to be good at Your job, how do you think You will do at creating an entire business?

So, all of you subs/slaves out there. Are you happy with your day job? Is your Dom with theirs?
When i am working, i am a nurse and i love it. At the same time i answer to a supervisor, i also supervise others (nursing assistants). my Master is retired now but, yes, He loved His job.

What are your feelings?
Those are my feelings.

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RE: Work - 3/23/2010 12:31:13 PM

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This will sound harsh, and I mean it to sound harsh: using your D/s orientation as an excuse for not being able to hold down a job is lame. No, it's pathetic. It's childish. As several others have said, being a mature, responsible adult means you hold down a job.

As Smutmonger said, it comes down to self-discipline. Whether you're submissive or Dominant or poly or switch or whatever, you can still muster the self-discipline to do what needs to be done. You don't get a free pass to be a lazy ass because you're Dominant.

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RE: Work - 3/23/2010 1:56:24 PM

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I can't think of any jobs where you don't get orders from SOMEONE! Except maybe God - and even then MRS. God probably has something to say about that.
Sorry, being dominant is not the same as not liking to take orders. being dominant is being self disciplined enough to do what is needed to exist. And if you can't take care of yourself, how can you take care of someone else?

You don't get a pass from a job by being a dominant.

Edited to add:- do you actually know dominants that are unemployed, and if so, how does that work for them?

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RE: Work - 3/23/2010 8:22:56 PM

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No relationship. As for your poor impulse control, I would suggest you be evaluated for ADHD and if so diagnosed, take the medication.

Ah Thanks

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RE: Work - 3/24/2010 5:15:39 AM

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I am another who is a submissive in a senior management position. I don't believe my orientation has anything to do with my career. I have been the most junior employee and I have been the most senior and I have excelled in all of my jobs because I am a hard worker who takes pride in what I do, not because I am a dom or a sub

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RE: Work - 3/24/2010 7:20:53 AM

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Do you think its harder for a Dom or a Slave to hold a normal job.

like every other question posed regarding "a" Dom or "a" slave...it depends on the individual in question.

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Are you happy with your day job?

deleriously...this slave's "day job" is making sure she has pleased Him.

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Is your Dom with theirs?

no..He'd much rather have inherited millions and not have to go to a "day job".

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RE: Work - 3/24/2010 9:48:52 AM

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deleriously...this slave's "day job" is making sure she has pleased Him.

<pokes a little fun at Beth> NO NO NO! Didn't anyone ever tell you that you need to be serious, not delirious? Sheesh, you get consistently excellent evaluations from your BOSS and you are happy with your job? Stop smiling, dammit!

Commenting on the OP: It seems that you haven't figured it out that in order to survive and/or thrive in life we all must answer to some body or some entity. No one controls the entire universe, and you are not 'special' just because you call yourself dominant.

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