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lovingpet -> RE: One strike and out (3/29/2010 9:05:28 PM)
I agree. If my partner had ever put it in these exact words, I would have been too scared to even consider getting involved because my insecurity and fears of abandonment would have been in overdrive. He never said that I had "one strike and then you're out". We understand together, however, that a power exchange relationship carries with it a need for there to be obedience. If something impedes that, then the relationship is in trouble. It may not be outright over, but there is definitely something that needs tending to. There are some transgressions, differing with the person, that cannot be recovered. These are the things that it only takes once to do deep and irreparable harm. Those are where "one strike" comes into play. lovingpet

dreamerdreaming -> RE: One strike and out (3/29/2010 9:45:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lovingpet I have to pretty well agree with you RavenMuse. There are some things that we can work on. There are some things, though, that should be solid and never, ever messed with. Those things are different in various relationships (actionwise, though the root issue may still be the same). Bedrocks to relationships are trust, respect, communication, and the like. If these go to the wayside, the whole thing is going to crumble. That said, it really is a matter of personal limit. Some people can withstand and mend these areas when they are shaken and even shattered. Others simply can't or won't. It is within a person's disposition mostly. If things can never be the same or better after such an event, then it is best to escape the rubble. If one has that ability to bring things back to that baseline and build again, then it may not be time to part. Everyone has different tolerences. There will ALWAYS be a limit though. I love this. Thank you, Lovingpet! And yes, OP- we are in complete agreement. I absolutely have hard limits that are one strike. Without trust, we have nothing. So dishonesty is one. LadyPact alluded to an example that should be a one-strike, iron clad hard limit for all parents. That was an outstanding post as well. Thanks for the great, thought-provoking thread! [:)]

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