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RE: Can love get in the way? - 1/18/2005 5:43:01 PM

proudsub

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Last night Hubby was a little rougher than normal and spanked harder (yipeeee), but He kept asking "are you ok, you sure you're ok?" I told him i was loving it and would use my safeword if i needed to. He still has trouble understanding that i like it like that.

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RE: Can love get in the way? - 1/18/2005 6:57:13 PM

nimbus2004

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

A protective person has a hard time hurting the object of their desire.

I beleive that is a gross generalization, LadyAngelika.

I think I am as protective as they come. I nurture, love and care for my slave, but when it comes to my pleasure I have no issue with whipping her ass black and blue, and to be honest quite enjoy doing so. Like smilezz said, I do not wish any harm to my sub, but pain is quite a different story.

Would it ever occure to anybody to say they refused to put habaneros into a stew cause they do not want it to be to hot for you, knowing that you are hooked on spice. Pain as the reaction from hot food is very simillar in that it is sujective. One may suffer from the same stimulus, while another purrs in delight.

I do, however, think doing something you do not enjoy, in the sexual context, is not a likely success. Be it a person trying to please a Dom by submitting, or vice versa, it goes against the grain. I say so on bases of observation with others as well as the fact my wife and me both got into the scene but both like domming much more then subbing (or topping / bottoming). Even trying to switch was never the real magic it is with our subs.

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