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robertolapiedra -> RE: When reading a womans profile (3/25/2010 7:30:23 AM)

Hello osf. It would be a very hard choice indeed, especially when one knows that women always tell the truth in their profiles....RL.



osf -> RE: When reading a womans profile (3/25/2010 10:40:06 AM)


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ORIGINAL: robertolapiedra

Hello osf. It would be a very hard choice indeed, especially when one knows that women always tell the truth in their profiles....RL.


Of course they do, it's only men that lie



crazyml -> RE: When reading a womans profile (3/26/2010 1:28:26 AM)

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ORIGINAL: osf

you read "I'm feisty and need a strong man to handle me" or "I'm a slave that does what she's told", which is going to be your first choice?


In the spirit of your question - I have a strong preference for feisty, independent, successful people so my preference would be for the former.

But - I'd need a lot more info to make the choice - The sub who drescribes heself as "feisty" and in need of a "strong man" might be a needy pain in the ass who needs constant attention, while the slave that "does what she's told" might be a clever, strong, independent woman who will do what she's told only when she's found the right, handsome, educated, wealthy dom to partner (<- Just describing myself there laydeeez ;-) ) with.






DickSteel -> RE: When reading a womans profile (3/26/2010 12:11:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: osf

you read "I'm feisty and need a strong man to handle me" or "I'm a slave that does what she's told", which is going to be your first choice?

Like you, I'd pick the duck in your avatar.



Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: When reading a womans profile (3/26/2010 7:31:11 PM)

Which one is the better fuck?



osf -> RE: When reading a womans profile (3/27/2010 1:27:39 PM)


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ORIGINAL: DickSteel

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ORIGINAL: osf

you read "I'm feisty and need a strong man to handle me" or "I'm a slave that does what she's told", which is going to be your first choice?

Like you, I'd pick the duck in your avatar.




I chose the gosling



DWCskitten -> RE: When reading a womans profile (3/27/2010 1:59:01 PM)

~Fast Reply~
i'm not a Dominant, but i'll put in my [sm=2cents.gif] anyway. i would think it would all be relative. As in HOW feisty or obedient. Feisty can either be a bitch on wheels, or just feisty enough to keep You on Your toes and make life interesting. Doing as she's told could either be doing what You want with a pleasant attitude, or just be dead-ass boring and drone-like. Before Master Sir owned me & i had my former username, my profile said "just a little sassy, but in a good way," and, believe me, i never had a shortage of mail in my inbox.

~kitten~



dragon200070 -> RE: When reading a womans profile (3/27/2010 5:16:08 PM)

Hi,
When I'm looking, I'm looking for a help mate not someone to test my abilities. The idea of being feisty or a brat leaves me away from where I want to be. When I look for a slave or sub, I want someone prepared to be obedient.

Jeff



DWCskitten -> RE: When reading a womans profile (3/27/2010 9:26:50 PM)

~Fast Reply~
Just to add to my earlier post, a sub/slave can be very obedient and still have personality. [:D]



Huntertn -> RE: When reading a womans profile (3/27/2010 9:52:36 PM)

either one might catch my attention,but it doesn't mean I'm buying till I see the goods



reynardfox -> RE: When reading a womans profile (4/8/2010 3:21:04 PM)

From the moment she says "I'm a woman" she already has my attention.
When the fiesty sub informs me that she wants taming, and I open the bottle of absinthe to get into character, she has only herself to blame. I then don my breton striped sweatshirt and start the tango, complete with string of onions and flick knife.
The accordions and wild sizzling gypsy strings just add to it.
The slave who does as she is told has only to pour the earl grey before getting over the spanking stool, it's horses for courses really.



CaringandReal -> RE: When reading a womans profile (4/8/2010 3:56:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: lizi

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ORIGINAL: Fitznicely

Neither. She ain't my slave till I say so, and feisty is relative. I don't take well to being told how to judge a woman, especially by the woman herself.


Gosh...good point! Whenever I see where a woman has labeled herself as feisty or 'not a doormat' it always bugged me for some reason and that's it.....she's not letting her potential Dom decide for himself.



I think some women are trying to express a style of relating or role they enjoy with that statement, something like "I'm a brat" or "I'm a SAM," just not as extreme as those two. There are dominants who like that style of submissive, too, so I think it's useful to advertise as such if that's what you prefer. It helps the right dominants find you, and, as evidenced by the responses in this thread, encourages the wrong ones to ignore you. Win-win. :D

As for the "I'm a slave who does what she's told," if you don't get all hung up in the "slave" semantics, it's also often made by people trying to communicate information about a style of submission they enjoy or feel comfortable with: the "good girl" or "good boy" role. If you enjoy being quietly obedient without a lot of fireworks and want to be with someone who appreciates that type, why the hell not say so? It's clear, honest information, IMO, and once again, adds to the possibility that you'll attract someone who is right for you. I have a very strongly worded "good girl" profile on another website. I've recieved responses to it from the type of person I really hope to hear from. It's worked, in other words.

I personally appreciate extremes in profiles, even if I don't think the writer is a fit for me. "MOR" is quite boring...plus it's easier to get run over there. :p The edges are much more interesting. Along the edges there are trees and flowers and birds and berries and interesting trash and ditches with dirty water, and sometimes even wolves in the woods! A nice change from unending, dreary asphalt, IMO. Another thing about strictly in the middle profiles that bothers is that the writes of such often seem to be trying to please all audiences at once, covering all the bases. It makes you wonder who they really are...and not trust who they say they are.



sunshinemiss -> RE: When reading a womans profile (4/8/2010 4:00:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: lizi

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ORIGINAL: Fitznicely

Neither. She ain't my slave till I say so, and feisty is relative. I don't take well to being told how to judge a woman, especially by the woman herself.


Gosh...good point! Whenever I see where a woman has labeled herself as feisty or 'not a doormat' it always bugged me for some reason and that's it.....she's not letting her potential Dom decide for himself.


Well, I'm feisty! I'm not telling someone to not decide. I'm letting you know who I am. What is my personality. I have been in relationships where the person tried to take the sass (intellect, wit, charm, ability to argue) out of me, and nearly killed my spirit. Any man who would be with me needs to know that I am and will always be feisty. What's that got to do with not letting him decide? He can decide. Does he want a woman like me or not? And *I* decide if I want a man like him. I will never again be wtih someone who tries to anti-feist me. Not no, but hell no.


ETA: I saw this after I posted and wanted to respond too:

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someone who picks fiesty out of all the words they can use to describe themselves and here of all places is either fishing for a PD or theyre way too naive and should be gently escorted home.


The number one definition of feisy is: full of animation, energy, or courage; spirited; spunky; plucky: The champion is faced with a feisty challenger.

Why would saying I'm sprited, energetic, courageous, and animated be seen as negative or naive? Why would I deserve to be escorted home? It ts an accurate word describing my personality. I'm spunky. Honest.

I use the word because its is accurate. (what is PD?)



CaringandReal -> RE: When reading a womans profile (4/8/2010 4:05:34 PM)


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ORIGINAL: lally2

im never really sure with statements like that [I'm fiesty] if theyre intentionally put to attract a certain type or if its just a straight forward honest self appraisal.  but in the context of a BDSM dating site i have to go with the former rather than the latter.



Why can't it be both? The two goals are not at all mutally exclusive, at least not from my perspective.

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as for the 'i do as im told' - thats sweet [:)] but also naive - enter the SadoMachineMan complete with every known torture nipple twisting cerrated edged carbuncle known to man.  id probably have to rescue her from herself. 

wow im cynical! - when did that happen


Yeah, you are. :(

I suspect it's because you get out there and have a lot of experiences, and not all of them are good.

"Do as they're told" types are not always brainless. I expect many can smell a SadoMachine (rofl!--a big thanks for that image: I'm seeing the "Fel Reaver' from WoW strut down the road, fel-iron-tipped whip in hand, with the Eurythmics' "Missionary Man" playing in the background) from a few miles away, and that's plenty of time to run and hide. ;)



WiseCracknSadist -> RE: When reading a womans profile (4/8/2010 4:13:57 PM)

Bold statements one way or another, in my experience, generally come from attention seeking subs. They generally come with some picture they stole off of Google or god knows where else.

I'm sure there are a sprinkling of naïve newbies who end up hurt or used then they becaome the jaded "I'm not a doormat sub".

I avoid em.



DCWoody -> RE: When reading a womans profile (4/8/2010 5:42:29 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Musicmystery

Neither.


This.



dragon200070 -> RE: When reading a womans profile (4/27/2010 1:47:44 PM)

A simple sentance remains a sentance and is not in itself basis for a choice. I'm a very dominating personality and don't mind dealing with an agressive sub. In fact I've owned one for 11 years. Most people think she's a Domina untill they see us together. Be truthful.

Jeff



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