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Can 'mixed' (vanilla and BDSM) relationships work?


Yes.
  8% (2)
Yes, if there's honesty.
  13% (3)
Only if it's kept secret.
  0% (0)
Sometimes.
  21% (5)
Not usually.
  8% (2)
No, unless there's some compromise.
  30% (7)
No. It never ends well.
  17% (4)


Total Votes : 23
(last vote on : 3/26/2010 11:59:45 AM)
(Poll ended: 4/1/2010 12:00:00 PM)
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Can 'mixed' (vanilla and BDSM) relationships work? - 3/24/2010 4:37:47 PM   
LdyWintershade


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RE: Can 'mixed' (vanilla and BDSM) relationships work? - 3/24/2010 8:35:30 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Can you clarify your question, please?  Are you asking in regard to a monogamous relationship where it is both kinky and non, but with the same person?  Are you talking about multiple relationships, where one is with a vanilla partner and the other is a kinky relationship with another party?

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RE: Can 'mixed' (vanilla and BDSM) relationships work? - 3/24/2010 9:00:54 PM   
LPslittleclip


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Status: offline 		in the relationship im in it does work my wife is vannila and im a collared slave to my Mistress who is also married to a Dominant. W/we are a poly relationship. also how kinky is the part your seeking?

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RE: Can 'mixed' (vanilla and BDSM) relationships work? - 3/24/2010 11:22:46 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Can you clarify your question, please?  Are you asking in regard to a monogamous relationship where it is both kinky and non, but with the same person?  Are you talking about multiple relationships, where one is with a vanilla partner and the other is a kinky relationship with another party?


This.

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RE: Can 'mixed' (vanilla and BDSM) relationships work? - 3/25/2010 2:53:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		To me it depends.  I am sort of submissive to my daughter's father and he is vanilla.  Meanwhile I am top with him (again depends on the mood) and he knows about my lifestyle.  I am aware of my daughter being the top with her relationship with her BF and he likes it that way.  Having a household with 3 dom personalities can be troublesome but I am the sane one that holds the relationshps together.  I just can't live with Bo permanently because of my treatment in NE TX (the father and daughter lives in Austin) and 3 Dom/mes in the same place can be nerve wrecking.

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RE: Can 'mixed' (vanilla and BDSM) relationships work? - 3/25/2010 6:32:03 AM   
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RE: Can 'mixed' (vanilla and BDSM) relationships work? - 3/25/2010 6:38:14 AM   
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RE: Can 'mixed' (vanilla and BDSM) relationships work? - 3/25/2010 7:00:23 AM   
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RE: Can 'mixed' (vanilla and BDSM) relationships work? - 3/25/2010 8:52:45 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Can you clarify your question, please?  Are you asking in regard to a monogamous relationship where it is both kinky and non, but with the same person?  Are you talking about multiple relationships, where one is with a vanilla partner and the other is a kinky relationship with another party?


This.


Yeahhhhh


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RE: Can 'mixed' (vanilla and BDSM) relationships work? - 3/25/2010 8:56:57 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Can you clarify your question, please?  Are you asking in regard to a monogamous relationship where it is both kinky and non, but with the same person?  Are you talking about multiple relationships, where one is with a vanilla partner and the other is a kinky relationship with another party?


Or even a relationship where the Dom/me sometimes...*gasp*....takes off the corset and thigh-highs, puts on some trackie bottoms and eats ice-cream straight out the tub whilst watching tv?

Does that ever even happen?


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RE: Can 'mixed' (vanilla and BDSM) relationships work? - 3/25/2010 10:29:32 AM   
sophiesback


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Status: offline 		I don't know if it will work, but I'm hoping so....as I'm now juggling my girlfriend (primary relationship) and a new M/s relationship!

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RE: Can 'mixed' (vanilla and BDSM) relationships work? - 3/25/2010 10:59:29 AM   
ShaharThorne


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RE: Can 'mixed' (vanilla and BDSM) relationships work? - 3/25/2010 2:51:28 PM   
DesFIP


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quote:

ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious


Or even a relationship where the Dom/me sometimes...*gasp*....takes off the corset and thigh-highs, puts on some trackie bottoms and eats ice-cream straight out the tub whilst watching tv?

Does that ever even happen?



Alas someone, who was not me, ate all the ice cream last night. No ice cream here. Sob.


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RE: Can 'mixed' (vanilla and BDSM) relationships work? - 3/26/2010 1:30:42 AM   
Justme696


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Status: offline 		I had a slave that wasn't so sure about the lifestyle anymore.
So we switched between vanilla and bdsm.
People that have bdsm in their blood will always come back....and it is part of them.
There will never be plain vanilla in that case.

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RE: Can 'mixed' (vanilla and BDSM) relationships work? - 3/26/2010 8:44:45 AM   
VaguelyCurious


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

quote:

ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious


Or even a relationship where the Dom/me sometimes...*gasp*....takes off the corset and thigh-highs, puts on some trackie bottoms and eats ice-cream straight out the tub whilst watching tv?

Does that ever even happen?



Alas someone, who was not me, ate all the ice cream last night. No ice cream here. Sob.



So in this case clearly a mixed relationship would not work-you'll just have to stick to the corset and leathers!


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RE: Can 'mixed' (vanilla and BDSM) relationships work? - 3/26/2010 8:53:44 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		And domme the teen who ate all the ice cream? Actually I'm happy he remembered to put both the empty carton and lid in the garbage. Usually I find them on the counter.

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RE: Can 'mixed' (vanilla and BDSM) relationships work? - 3/26/2010 9:05:14 AM   
VaguelyCurious


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

And domme the teen who ate all the ice cream? Actually I'm happy he remembered to put both the empty carton and lid in the garbage. Usually I find them on the counter.
LOL-maybe not.

Maybe you just need to buy more icecream and hide it inside a bag of frozen peas? Or something?


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RE: Can 'mixed' (vanilla and BDSM) relationships work? - 3/26/2010 12:02:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		I look at your question like this:

Can a tiger live on lettuce?
Can a rabbit live on steak?

You tell me how that can work under any circumstances?

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RE: Can 'mixed' (vanilla and BDSM) relationships work? - 3/26/2010 3:11:29 PM   
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