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hopelesslyInvo -> RE: CFNM - Is it "woman in hot clothes, naked man" ? (3/26/2010 2:40:35 PM)
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like any other application of garments, changing the clothing worn can easily change the feeling of the scenario itself.
wearing lingerie could strike a romantic or at least sexual tone; i could see feeling like she's enjoying her time with me despite unequal stances.
wear bdsm attire and it could turn more into a power/control/stature feeling; it would likely give a feeling of insecurity/vulnerability.
put on a suit and it could end up feeling detached; this would lend itself to me feeling like i'm a service to her and little more, a used feeling might come into play as though i were on the same level as a fax machine. (it's nothing personal, it's just business)
casual clothing would either feel personal to me or at the very least invoke some kind of girl next door vibe; i'd get a feeling of trust or comfort such as when women get to the point they can stand to let you see them without cosmetics. it might not feel exactly intimate to me, but it would feel personal. others might see this to be impersonal, as though we weren't worth the effort to make yourself look flattering, but to me it would be more akin to being part of things men rarely get access to; as though i were able to be a part of something like "girls night out".
such things are all consistent with fashion in general. i see fashion as an extension of oneself and value it for this reason, so regardless of what category clothes might be put into there are great differences among even something as simple as jeans; one pair might strike a good chord with me where another pair might irk me to no end. one set of lingerie might make you look angelic, while another seductive, and both will impact the dynamic differently.
the interest in this dynamic to me is that my being naked is expected and inconsequential, but her nakedness is like a privilege that in the foreseeable future will not be given, i like the unfair quality of it that i can neither hide myself nor see her, while she can cover what she wants and see anything.
it sort of stacks in the sense that clothing and nudity does not have the same meaning for each other; the skin you see of her is a gift, while the clothing is a form of denial and stature, but the nudity of the man is leaving him exposed, and if she chooses to cover him it could be either from adornment to suit her tastes, or shunning something she doesn't care to look at.
for people not comfortable in their skin, it could feel far worse to be wearing a hood to cover your face or anything else she deems unsightly at the time (if that were the reason for it being worn).
you could push or pull such things in a million directions, the only thing i suppose i'd really admit on a common level is that it always matters to me what she is wearing, even outside of any concerns with CFNM, but when the dynamic is centered around the fact that she is the only one clothed, what she is wearing specifically has a great impact.
also, as i mentioned with fashion above, what i'm wearing is going to be very important as well, and while typically the woman is clothed and the male nude, even something as rudimentary as a possible collar falls under this aspect and if you wear one, you are no longer completely nude. this is why i don't really look at it in the end as "she's clothed and i'm naked thus she's _____ and i'm _____", it just goes back to the basic idea of d/s with her having control.
she controls both what she wears, and what i do or don't. what's important for me it a mix between how much is worn, the look and feel, and then the quality of it. if fashion is an extension of yourself, she's extending herself onto me as well with her choices.
how could it not be "hot" to wonder and find out what those choices will be for the both of you?
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