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Let her come to me or me go to her???? - 3/26/2010 3:07:04 PM

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We met at a BDSM event, she volunteered to help me hear the lecture by note taking. We chated later, she already has several play partners, she wants friendship and play, we both agreed no more than that. She works and goes to school, shes under 40, Only free time is weekends and they must me planned ahead. We exchanged cell numbers for text. I e-mailed her next day thanking her for helping. She responded back "You are very welcome Sir". She requested my friendship on another stie. I responded back thanking her again. She responded back, "she is very busy and e-mail is a great way to get to know her and she can squeeze it in here/there "

It's now been 5 days since I sent her an e-mail, I'm trying to figure out what to do....I don't want to push and I don't want to seem evasive..

What I would really like to say to her in my next email is plan ahead to meet for coffee and chat., We live same area or close.

Should I ask her this request or just wait it out for her to contact me? One Dom suggested "let her come to you and no more e-mails" It's only been 3 e-mails apiece = 6 short ones. Mon and Tuesday. No more from me since then.

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RE: Let her come to me or me go to her???? - 3/26/2010 3:47:37 PM

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...so she works and goes to school. not much free time.

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RE: Let her come to me or me go to her???? - 3/26/2010 4:44:21 PM

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i'm not speaking for any other subbies out there, but for me personally, i do not like to pursue. it is very "out of character" for me as the submissive. it is more in my nature to be the one captured. :)

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RE: Let her come to me or me go to her???? - 3/26/2010 4:52:39 PM

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SHE COULD BE OUT OF TOWN. OR MAYBE THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH HER EMAIL ACCOUNT.

GIVE HER A FEW MORE DAYS THAN CONTACT HER ONE LAST TIME. IF NO RESPONSE THEN WRITE THE BITCH OFF!!!

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RE: Let her come to me or me go to her???? - 3/26/2010 4:55:24 PM

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Its sounds like you both are in a rutt, each of you are putting or saying feelers but nothing concrete. If you want to meet her for coffe, then send her an email that says -- hey how about we meet up on such and such a day at such and such a place, know your schedule is crazy so let me know if you can/want to make it. This gives her somethig concrete to answer.

Or you can set the date for like 2 months away. That will probably catch her attention. I If you don't hear from her then you have your answer. But, she may also appreciate the 2 month leeway as if she is going to school you can give her a couple months as most college students right now are starting to gear up for up coming finals that usually happen in May. If she can't make it, or doesn't answer -- try again this summer.

You are the dominant i presume as she called you Sir, whether or not you are HER dominant, she may be waiting for you to take some kind of lead.

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RE: Let her come to me or me go to her???? - 3/26/2010 6:26:18 PM

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From my perspective, if you, as a Dominant, want to see her, tell her.

She says yes or no.

You go on in life as a Dominant, either way.

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RE: Let her come to me or me go to her???? - 3/26/2010 8:36:59 PM

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my 2 cents...she likes to spread her loving around hence what she said "she already has several play partners"

your like, what? the 8th? 9th? my advice, if it happens, def have protection between you two, don't expect anything deep....she doesn't want that. She may be one of those types of girls who would prefer to send you an email/text the day they are available and if not too bad for you! Those chicky babes annoy me and i never cater to them...she must be one hot lil' thang for you to put forth the effort...I bet she's counting her callers and enjoying the numbers more than giving them a thought or time of day.

Send an email, one where you let her know you dig her but won't be troubling her, you have a life too...if she wants some of you and the good times you offer, give her your digits & if she give you a heads up you will make an effort to fit her in your schedule.

ps like your pic

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RE: Let her come to me or me go to her???? - 3/26/2010 8:51:04 PM

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Ag8J2NMYmc

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RE: Let her come to me or me go to her???? - 3/27/2010 8:49:11 AM

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I was yelling cause he is hard of hearing.

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RE: Let her come to me or me go to her???? - 3/27/2010 11:40:13 AM

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Sent her an e-mail Fri night, saying realized that her schedule is crazy and for her to plan ahead and meet me at the same event to help/chat on another Saturday.

Ball is in her court...Thanks for all the feedback, now it's a wait and see when/if she will respond favorably.

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RE: Let her come to me or me go to her???? - 3/27/2010 11:45:44 AM

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Thanks for the update, I was going to chime in and say go ahead and write her so I'm glad you did. Hope it turns out well for you

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RE: Let her come to me or me go to her???? - 3/28/2010 9:53:05 PM

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The sub e-mailed me back, with an explanation that consisted of "need to wait till the schedule is less hectic" Find myself ok with that and ,thanks to all who responded to my call for advice..

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RE: Let her come to me or me go to her???? - 3/29/2010 4:50:34 AM

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edited because i responded to the op before reading the whole thread.

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