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Advice? bisexuality & monogamy with benefits - 3/27/2010 1:17:46 PM

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I actually didn't think this would come up ever, let alone this soon but strangely enough it has. Master and I are both bi, though the type of woman I find attractive is so rare, I don't think about it much and identify mostly as hetero. Master is the same way, neither of us want a primary relationship with a same sex partner.

Recently, I met a beautiful girl through my modeling stuff. She is also an owned and collared slave. She told me she had a crush on me, and I told Master. Master gave me permission to spend time with her, and anything that happened was ok. Through the alt/fetish modeling we've "played" together a bit on camera, and a little off camera as well.

This is all REALLY new to me. Everyone seems happy with the way things are, I think it's great actually! But I'm looking for advice from anyone who has been there done this. I love my Master and my primary goal is to take full care of that relationship, but of course I do care about her as well. BTW if it makes any difference I have met her Master and he is fine with everything.

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RE: Advice? bisexuality & monogamy with benefits - 3/27/2010 1:46:47 PM

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My Master and I are "monogamous with room for play." Like you, I'm heteroflexible - generally much more attracted to and drawn to men than women, but there's the occasional one who is hot or fun to play with.

I have a female submissive playpartner who plays with both me and my Master at times, but he usually prefers to watch us, and we often play without him there. She is married to a mostly vanilla but open-minded man, and all of us got together and discussed things before we played for the first time. She and I aren't really into overt sexual play, more service, bondage, and S/M - I do get turned on a bit sometimes, it isn't our primary focus. I think she's a wonderful person, and enjoy hanging out and doing vanilla stuff together, either just the two of us, or along with my Master and/or her husband. It's been very drama-free, and we're on the same page with what we want to get out of it Here are a couple of threads about our adventures so far: http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=2846681 http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=2852355 and one we're planning: http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3011995

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RE: Advice? bisexuality & monogamy with benefits - 3/27/2010 2:00:43 PM

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interesting, I'm reading all of them now :) I don't think we're going in the direction of playing with either Master, it might remain a girls only party. Although since we do the modeling, Master gets to see the pics. He said girl on girl stuff wasn't much of a turn on for Him, but was surprised at a rather intense reaction He had to a pic of her and I naked and kissing. Maybe it's different knowing it's His slave...

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RE: Advice? bisexuality & monogamy with benefits - 3/27/2010 5:38:33 PM

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Sorry, I don't think I can adequately provide insightful input without high-quality vids of the act in question.

Please post forthwith.

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RE: Advice? bisexuality & monogamy with benefits - 3/27/2010 6:04:18 PM

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I am currently in a closed monogamous foursome, both he and I are straight, they are married in a M/s relationship, me, and another woman. Both women submit to me and we have had various combinations of the four of us. I am still looking for THAT one woman who would be my primary partner and if or how she might fit in would be something we would have to decide later.

While I identify as a monogamous person, I have done poly a number of times and made it work well. However, this one has been interesting and at times rather eye opening. I am used to being the center/primary in the mix and here I am not the primary of either one and it has caused me to have to deal with some surprising issues but we talk pretty well most of the time.

You make it work by being honest about the things that are hard and difficult and allowing your partners to bring the things to you that are hard and difficult.

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RE: Advice? bisexuality & monogamy with benefits - 3/27/2010 9:53:50 PM

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Animus there are pics on my modeling page, more on my deviant art page too.
http://www.modelmayhem.com/northernsiren

Video is being currently discussed, LOL I'll keep you posted.

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RE: Advice? bisexuality & monogamy with benefits - 3/27/2010 9:55:13 PM

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I agree SimplyMichael, the communication is the most important part. I want to be sure to check in with everyone regularly, and I hope very much they will do the same. I know my Master will, He's always so good about that, He found such joy in me telling Him that I met this woman...

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RE: Advice? bisexuality & monogamy with benefits - 3/28/2010 3:51:41 AM

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I am bi, Sir is straight. I have a vanilla female play partner who is also married, but we don't play with them as a couple. She and I play together by ourselves, and have done once or twice a month for the past 3 years.

Sir and I have also had a few threesomes with other women, but neither of us is interested in having a guy there.

I am fairly new to bringing others in to a relationship. Sir has much more experience than I do. He wants me to feel comfortable and safe and to know that if I ever become upset or insecure then we will talk about it, and if necessary cease all other interactions. I am taking baby steps with this, and we are completely upfront with our limits which right now include that His cock is off limits. This is His decision - eventually if we meet someone we are very comfortable with things may change but for now that is it.

Our relationship comes first, and everything else is just bonus

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RE: Advice? bisexuality & monogamy with benefits - 3/28/2010 8:15:33 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Rayne58

I am bi, Sir is straight. I have a vanilla female play partner who is also married, but we don't play with them as a couple. She and I play together by ourselves, and have done once or twice a month for the past 3 years.

Sir and I have also had a few threesomes with other women, but neither of us is interested in having a guy there.

I am fairly new to bringing others in to a relationship. Sir has much more experience than I do. He wants me to feel comfortable and safe and to know that if I ever become upset or insecure then we will talk about it, and if necessary cease all other interactions. I am taking baby steps with this, and we are completely upfront with our limits which right now include that His cock is off limits. This is His decision - eventually if we meet someone we are very comfortable with things may change but for now that is it.

Our relationship comes first, and everything else is just bonus

Bingo!

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RE: Advice? bisexuality & monogamy with benefits - 3/28/2010 8:58:49 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: HisSweetElysium

I actually didn't think this would come up ever, let alone this soon but strangely enough it has. Master and I are both bi, though the type of woman I find attractive is so rare, I don't think about it much and identify mostly as hetero. Master is the same way, neither of us want a primary relationship with a same sex partner.

Recently, I met a beautiful girl through my modeling stuff. She is also an owned and collared slave. She told me she had a crush on me, and I told Master. Master gave me permission to spend time with her, and anything that happened was ok. Through the alt/fetish modeling we've "played" together a bit on camera, and a little off camera as well.

This is all REALLY new to me. Everyone seems happy with the way things are, I think it's great actually! But I'm looking for advice from anyone who has been there done this. I love my Master and my primary goal is to take full care of that relationship, but of course I do care about her as well. BTW if it makes any difference I have met her Master and he is fine with everything.

your priorities are in order and your focus is on your Master. Everyone is honest and you all have good communication. I have found the best poly relationships had those qualities. Enjoy!

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RE: Advice? bisexuality & monogamy with benefits - 3/28/2010 7:09:29 PM

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You have trumped my snark with your own forthrightness....

Well played, Madam, well played!

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RE: Advice? bisexuality & monogamy with benefits - 3/29/2010 6:29:08 AM

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Rex is b-a-c-k!!! We want to hear all about the wedding- the dress, the cake, the honeymoon ( OK, not everything about the honeymoon, lol). And where are the pics??

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RE: Advice? bisexuality & monogamy with benefits - 3/30/2010 7:17:12 PM

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