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beej -> Greedy Fantasies (3/27/2010 7:25:42 PM)
so, since my first relationship in the lifestyle (in which i was mostly submissive with one inspired switch to dominance), i have gone forth as a submissive because that's where i have the most hands on experience. however, overlapping the end of that relationship and continuing on, my fantasies have been choreographed by the dominant in me. yesterday, i wrote an involved fantasy in which a switch-Domme artfully rigged chains to her ceiling like a fancy bed canopy from Mad Max Beyond Thunderdome, and she suspended her sub to them, and then she carved her initials across his groin with a sterile scalpel to mark his dick as her personal possession not to be touched by others. lmao, and i haven't even done anything that extreme yet, but the shit was hot as hell. partially this was motivated by the fact that my ex-dom had such a chain set-up for me that i didn't get to use it, but i didn't imagine myself strapped up, did i? so i'm wondering: a) do others intentionally fantasize about the part of their nature that they are not engaging at present, and b) do you think that your intentional and repetitive fantasies are indicative of what you need, or are they just a greedy exploration of what you want?

CarrieO -> RE: Greedy Fantasies (3/29/2010 9:04:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: beej so i'm wondering: a) do others intentionally fantasize about the part of their nature that they are not engaging at present, and b) do you think that your intentional and repetitive fantasies are indicative of what you need, or are they just a greedy exploration of what you want? My fantasies are all over the place. [;)] When I'm feeling strong and powerful and in top form (no pun intended) in my daily life, generally my fantasies reflect that through my top/dominant fantasies.. My bottom fantasies usually happen when I feel highly sexual or in need of a physical or emotional release through some sort of sensation/impact play. Submission for me is non-sexual and I don't often fantasize about that because I'm able to find an outlet for it in my daily life. If I have a repetitive fantasy or desire, it usually means I'm wanting to explore it in RL, not because I feel a need to identify with the label that could be attached to the action/position I'm fantasizing about. Great question and great fantasy!

switch2please -> RE: Greedy Fantasies (3/29/2010 11:39:55 AM)
If I'm craving a certain food, it's because my body wants the nutrients. If I want an apple and I don't manage to get to the store, I'll survive...but if I do get that apple I get double benefits: my mind is happy and stops its petulant whining for something crunchy and sweet, and my body is happy because I got a snack and whatever nutritional composition of that snack that it wanted. For me switching is a similar thing. If I'm daydreaming about submitting, I don't absolutely need to but I'm happier if I do. If I'm fantasizing about dominating, I won't explode if I can't at least top someone - but I do get grumpy.

allthatjaz -> RE: Greedy Fantasies (3/30/2010 3:02:43 AM)
I fantasize a lot and mostly its dominant stuff. I fantasize about dominant stuff when I'm alone, when we are just making out and occasionally when he is getting rough with me [:)] but I won't be telling him that!!!

beej -> RE: Greedy Fantasies (3/30/2010 11:16:55 AM)
quote: CarrieO: My bottom fantasies usually happen when I feel highly sexual or in need of a physical or emotional release through some sort of sensation/impact play. Submission for me is non-sexual and I don't often fantasize about that because I'm able to find an outlet for it in my daily life. very interesting. i'm the same in that my bottom fantasies are strongest when i want release. but i'm connected to submission in the same way; unlike you, my sub side pushes my physical sexual buttons and cravings. submission has no outlet in my regular life, lol, almost doesn't seem to have a place there. it's almost introspective and interior, something done to me that engages certain things, but i rarely fantasize or even think much about myself acting from my submission. whenever i imagine submission, i hold still, i yield, i react. whereas my dominant fantasies are shared and couple oriented and also my action point, i'm starting to understand. though highly arousing, they have not pushed my physical buttons so much but have been about connecting with the sub, crawling around in his tender places both interior and exterior and leaving a loving mark. quote: switchtoplease: If I'm craving a certain food, it's because my body wants the nutrients. that's kind of what i suspected is going on with me. it's been an onslaught of Dominant fantasies lately, and simultaneously, i've been reforming my ideas of what i want in a relationship. i think there may be a connection. @ allthatjaz: do you connect to your dominance as your main persona, and is submission just a function of your switch relationship?

CarrieO -> RE: Greedy Fantasies (3/30/2010 11:47:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: beej quote: CarrieO: My bottom fantasies usually happen when I feel highly sexual or in need of a physical or emotional release through some sort of sensation/impact play. Submission for me is non-sexual and I don't often fantasize about that because I'm able to find an outlet for it in my daily life. very interesting. i'm the same in that my bottom fantasies are strongest when i want release. but i'm connected to submission in the same way; unlike you, my sub side pushes my physical sexual buttons and cravings. submission has no outlet in my regular life, lol, almost doesn't seem to have a place there. it's almost introspective and interior, something done to me that engages certain things, but i rarely fantasize or even think much about myself acting from my submission. whenever i imagine submission, i hold still, i yield, i react. whereas my dominant fantasies are shared and couple oriented and also my action point, i'm starting to understand. though highly arousing, they have not pushed my physical buttons so much but have been about connecting with the sub, crawling around in his tender places both interior and exterior and leaving a loving mark. In reply to the bolded portions above.... My submissive side is not sexual in nature, strictly service. It took me a awhile, and lots of frustrating topping from below, to accept that I don't get sexually turned on by submission. I like to be on the recieving end of sensations which is why I now readily admit I'm not sub/slave material in a long-term relationship. quote: ...crawling around in his tender places both interior and exterior and leaving a loving mark. I love that description! My dominant side and the fantasies that come with it is much more pronounced. It's through those dominant fantasies that I've learned to accept and enjoy feelings and activites I wouldn't have even considered when I first started exploring WIITWD.

OrpheusAgonistes -> RE: Greedy Fantasies (3/30/2010 5:51:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: beej so, since my first relationship in the lifestyle (in which i was mostly submissive with one inspired switch to dominance), i have gone forth as a submissive because that's where i have the most hands on experience. however, overlapping the end of that relationship and continuing on, my fantasies have been choreographed by the dominant in me. yesterday, i wrote an involved fantasy in which a switch-Domme artfully rigged chains to her ceiling like a fancy bed canopy from Mad Max Beyond Thunderdome, and she suspended her sub to them, and then she carved her initials across his groin with a sterile scalpel to mark his dick as her personal possession not to be touched by others. lmao, and i haven't even done anything that extreme yet, but the shit was hot as hell. partially this was motivated by the fact that my ex-dom had such a chain set-up for me that i didn't get to use it, but i didn't imagine myself strapped up, did i? so i'm wondering: a) do others intentionally fantasize about the part of their nature that they are not engaging at present, and b) do you think that your intentional and repetitive fantasies are indicative of what you need, or are they just a greedy exploration of what you want? I don't bother calling myself a switch, because my inclinations are generally masochistic (if not submissive) so the vast majority of the time I prefer to be beaten, bound, confined, &c. But I've played both sides, and when I fantasize or envision scenarios, I absolutely play out both parts in my mind. Sometimes I find myself reverse engineering fantasy scenes, in fact. Instead of thinking "This is a predicament that would really jazz me" I think of the kind of sadist who gets me hot and bothered and think "What would be a predicament in which this kind of sadist would like to put somebody?"

allthatjaz -> RE: Greedy Fantasies (3/31/2010 2:46:13 AM)
allthatjaz: do you connect to your dominance as your main persona, and is submission just a function of your switch relationship? As far as the world of BDSM I am very connected to my dominant persona. Dominance to me is highly sexual, being driven into sexual submission is also highly sexual. I'm a gal that when given an inch I take a mile when it comes to what goes on in the bedroom. I am seldom given that inch but if it all starts with my fantasy leaning towards being dominant and then not being allowed to go down that route, I do have a tendency to go through those dominant thoughts in my head even though I may on the outside be submitting!! I know this perhaps sounds crazy and even a lie but its only a white lie! Our sex life is rough but its fun and I'm sure if he found out he would laugh about it before beating the hell out of me [:)]

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Greedy Fantasies (3/31/2010 4:44:00 PM)
I fantasize a lot about domination and topping others yes, mostly women, ok well not a lot but frequently, And I'm not exactly sure honestly weather it's an honest need or just being greedy. I AM after all bisexual, and I do enjoy dominating or topping women and I'm not getting that, While I enjoy bottoming to men and can get that every single day of every single year if I wished to when I have a kinky partner who plays with me a lot. quote: ORIGINAL: beej so i'm wondering: a) do others intentionally fantasize about the part of their nature that they are not engaging at present, and b) do you think that your intentional and repetitive fantasies are indicative of what you need, or are they just a greedy exploration of what you want?

beej -> RE: Greedy Fantasies (3/31/2010 7:05:27 PM)
quote: While I enjoy bottoming to men and can get that every single day of every single year if I wished to when I have a kinky partner who plays with me a lot. word. maybe that's part of it. all i have on line is offers to get bent over someone's knee. not bad by any means, but it's not all that i want. i kind of feel like i've been living on a mediterranean diet and now i want a medium filet and potatoes. :)

Andalusite -> RE: Greedy Fantasies (4/1/2010 8:02:55 AM)
I tend to fantasise about the Domme side of things, or occasionally explicitly bottoming from the top, and mostly with women, even though I'm generally more drawn to men in reality.

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Greedy Fantasies (4/1/2010 1:04:51 PM)
Yup, yup, me too. quote: ORIGINAL: beej word. maybe that's part of it. all i have on line is offers to get bent over someone's knee. not bad by any means, but it's not all that i want. i kind of feel like i've been living on a mediterranean diet and now i want a medium filet and potatoes. :)

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