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Confused - 3/29/2010 8:17:35 AM   
beowulf1234


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Status: offline 		I am not sure if I am in the right forum for this. I placed an add in a vanilla dating site, clearly stating that I am a swm yearning to submit, obey and be enslaved by an assertive dominant female. I recieved a ton of responses. One Woman was really captivating. We met at a restaurant and we had the usual light chat. I was captivated by her beauty. I then asked her why she answerd my add. She said enslaving a man was her fantasy. She asked of my specialties and talents.I explained I was trained in Domestic, pampering, and all associated fetishes for Woman Worship and slave ettiquett at various organizations. If I were to be exclusive I would have little boundries. Her eyes opened wide. At the end of the evening, she gave me an address to serve her and explained her friend will be close by if I were a nut. I showed up the following saturday. I Kissed her feet upon entering the house. I was instructed to do laundry, clean the bathroom and kitchen and cook.
As I worked she sat and did work on her computer. I served her wine and snacks. She asked me to expose my manhood as she grabbed me. She released me and had e kiss her clothed ass. After completing all my tasks, she told me how wonderful it is to have a man serve her. She told me to kneel before her. As she sat at the dinner table and ate my cuisine. She expressed how good it was and told me she will feed me shortly. She stood up and and removed her blouse, what a beauty! She then removed her slacks and told me dinner is served. I removed her panties and found a penis tucked in between her legs. I was mortified. I was so turned on but Froze! I told her I want to. But I just cant. I never had a bi experience. (I do know that if a Female Mistress forced me to perform such an act for her enjoyment, I would)! My question is what should have I done. I wasn't rude, I completed all my tasks and cleaned up the dinner table and kitchen. I kneeled at her feet and sipped wine, I even kissed her feet when she dimissed me, but I could not get the nerve to pleasure her. My problem is I think about it and her since I left. Does anyone have any suggestions, or did anyone have a similar experience.
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RE: Confused - 3/29/2010 8:30:01 AM   
OttersSwim


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Status: offline 		Deception.

She presented to you as a female, then presented to you with a male appendage - totally blowing your nerve, your expectations, and your mind.

While it may have been an expanding experience for you, it was a deception on her part and an unkind and irresponsible thing to do to another person.


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RE: Confused - 3/29/2010 9:37:58 AM   
GraciousLady


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Status: offline 		2 thoughts here. This is either total fantasy on the OP's part or as Otter said, deception. If it was deception then the OP should not have anymore to do with the person. Lies are lies are lies and if a person lies once they will again.

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RE: Confused - 3/29/2010 9:40:30 AM   
sirsholly


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Does anyone have any suggestions
Advice is something you ask for when you already know the answer, but wish you didn't.

Stop thinking with the wrong head. You were lied to and deceived from the very first e-mail.

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RE: Confused - 3/29/2010 9:52:23 AM   
LadyPact


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ORIGINAL: GraciousLady

2 thoughts here. This is either total fantasy on the OP's part or as Otter said, deception. If it was deception then the OP should not have anymore to do with the person. Lies are lies are lies and if a person lies once they will again.

The highlighted above.  Exactly.



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RE: Confused - 3/29/2010 11:00:12 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Dude, quit going to people's houses and cleaning or serving them before you really know them.

This isn't the first time you have come with a horror story. One you decided it wasn't as bad as you said or made it sound and poster's went pages on the topic and then found you saying it wasn't like that.

Then you went and cleaned for a woman who said there was no chance of a relationship, which you wanted and you were deceived. Now this one.

Either you are very imaginative or you really need to change how you are doing things. Everyone gets fooled or deceived at some point, but you make a habit out of it.


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RE: Confused - 3/29/2010 11:16:46 AM   
CarrieO


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ORIGINAL: beowulf1234
My problem is I think about it and her since I left. Does anyone have any suggestions, or did anyone have a similar experience.
 
OP, I have to be honest, you remind me of the boy who cried wolf.  As Lockit said, you've posted similar things like this in the past...
http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3032096  and    http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3064998

I think you need to ask yourself why you seem to end up in these situations so often.
 
As for your most recent "surprise"... if it truly was a case of bait and switch, I agree with the others that it was wrong. 
 



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RE: Confused - 3/29/2010 12:45:19 PM   
hopelesslyInvo


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

quote:

ORIGINAL: GraciousLady

2 thoughts here. This is either total fantasy on the OP's part or as Otter said, deception. If it was deception then the OP should not have anymore to do with the person. Lies are lies are lies and if a person lies once they will again.

The highlighted above.  Exactly.



i'm going with fantasy myself, mostly because of...

quote:


I was trained in Domestic, pampering, and all associated fetishes for Woman Worship and slave ettiquett at various organizations.


did this include going to slave-scouts and selling slave-cookies before graduating slave-high with slave-honors, which then got you your slave-scholarships to allow you to attend slave-university of which you attained multiple degrees including the obvious masters degree in slavery, but an associates in domestic, and certificates for "all associated fetishes"?

or did you go to normal schools and simply discover that you like to write stories?

my 2 cents is that you either have poor perception, selective perception, or a transsexual has achieved what i've never seen any other pull off.

if you have to pull down panties to figure out what gender someone was born as, it might do you well to spend more time around said gender until you have a respectable grasp on what women authentically look or at least sound like.  at best, i could only understand confusion from still photographs.

my 2 dollars is that you want encouragement from the forums to pursue your already obvious attraction to men.  never had a bi experience you say?  this story makes me wonder what straight experiences you've had.

well here's your encouragement.

if you like men, go for it.
if you like transsexuals, go for it.
if you like women... pay attention to the details sometime, they have lovely ones.


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RE: Confused - 3/29/2010 12:55:43 PM   
Madame4a


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Status: offline 		I think you lead an exciting life there... wow.. I love your posts... I should be so lucky to have such adventures...

In the end, I think you're a fun read.

My advice, go back and suck her dick, if she wants you to.

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RE: Confused - 3/29/2010 12:58:04 PM   
GraciousLady


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Status: offline 		I figured it was fantasy when he wrote, "She asked me to expose my manhood as she grabbed me. She released me and had e kiss her clothed ass."

I just don't know what it is about internet porn that makes some men so stupid?

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RE: Confused - 3/29/2010 12:59:13 PM   
divi


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Status: offline 		lol.. I don't think its just internet porn that makes men dumb

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RE: Confused - 3/29/2010 1:05:27 PM   
GraciousLady


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ORIGINAL: Madame4a

I think you lead an exciting life there... wow.. I love your posts... I should be so lucky to have such adventures...

In the end, I think you're a fun read.

My advice, go back and suck her dick, if she wants you to.


So brutaly cold. I like it!

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RE: Confused - 3/29/2010 3:33:26 PM   
LadyAngelika


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Status: offline 		Last time you posted an ad on a vanilla site, you fooled around with the woman on the first date and then her ex came home and you were almost beat up.

There are 2 possible scenarios here:

1) You don't learn from your mistakes and are a drama magnet
2) You have a very active imagination and a desire to impose it on us

Neither shines a very positive light on you.

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RE: Confused - 3/29/2010 4:32:01 PM   
Politesub53


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Status: offline 		I dunno, maybe I should look in Match.com

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RE: Confused - 3/29/2010 5:37:42 PM   
GraciousLady


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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

I dunno, maybe I should look in Match.com


Is there an I want to wrap you in duct tape and throw you in the back of my closet section? If so I may give it a try.

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RE: Confused - 3/30/2010 3:02:13 AM   
Politesub53


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ORIGINAL: GraciousLady

Is there an I want to wrap you in duct tape and throw you in the back of my closet section? If so I may give it a try.


I wont get much cleaning done duct taped in your closet, will I  

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RE: Confused - 3/30/2010 3:08:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

quote:

ORIGINAL: GraciousLady

Is there an I want to wrap you in duct tape and throw you in the back of my closet section? If so I may give it a try.


I wont get much cleaning done duct taped in your closet, will I  


The two things don't have to be simultaneous


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RE: Confused - 3/30/2010 6:42:52 AM   
GraciousLady


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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

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ORIGINAL: GraciousLady

Is there an I want to wrap you in duct tape and throw you in the back of my closet section? If so I may give it a try.


I wont get much cleaning done duct taped in your closet, will I  


The two things don't have to be simultaneous



That's right!

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RE: Confused - 3/30/2010 7:14:13 AM   
allthatjaz


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Status: offline 		Sometimes you just have to suck it and see!

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RE: Confused - 3/30/2010 10:35:25 AM   
Politesub53


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The two things don't have to be simultaneous



Thats just as well, given how well men multi-task.

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