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beltainefaerie -> RE: munchkins, time and sub frenzy (4/13/2010 12:09:45 PM)
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Hi January,
I understand your concerns and this is part of the difficulty with internet forums, helpful though they may be. You can't know me, only what I have posted, which is a very small slice of my world. In turn, I can't know you, only what you have said. I thank you for your suggestions and good wishes, and I want to respond to a few points.
There are things which could make me decide to wean my child myself, rather than waiting for him to quit, but none of them are currently in play. Thus, we are still committed to wee one-led weaning. Just like we are committed to organic food, cosleeping when he was little, and babywearing. I have a very happy, polite, well-adjusted son. We are very practical parents, though don't want to compromise ideals merely for convenience. We understand that being a good parent comes with a good portion of sacrifice. He has passed the point where nursing is primarily for nutrition, though, so we can spend some time apart now.
There are many things which help my anxiety levels, but none of them are as effective as time with my Master (which, as he is a sadist, usually includes some kind of release for my masochistic side). If I go too long without being hurt, especially when I am stressed, nothing else does seem to help. It isn't for lack of trying or due to rigidity in my thinking, but from actually experimenting with many other things and finding them ineffective.
The poster who suggested yoga also subsequently suggested a mommy and me yoga class, which sounds great and I'm looking into it. Certainly good for stress-relief. Incidentally, since you were being funny/snarky about DVDs and TV, we actually don't own a television. Our son never watches media of any kind. (I was a Waldorf teacher and plan to go back to it when kidlets are ready for kindy) There are a number of developmental reasons for that, but I can't just plug him in to the tube to get some alone time. However, if you were suggesting that I try a yoga movie rather than a class, that is potentially doable during a nap time or after my son goes to bed, as I can play them on my computer.
In all honestly, all I wanted was some helpful suggestions on either how to relieve my sub frenzy, what people did when pregnant to ease my fears about a second pregnancy, or how other people work on scheduling time for BDSM stuff when they have wee ones.
Incidentally, I think I was having a common difficulty for subs- trouble asking for what I needed. I have asked my Love to babysit this weekend and he is going to. This weekend my Love and companion are going to watch the wee one so that I can play and if things work out we should have one whole night together without the munchkins, so we won't feel rushed. This weekend we are going to have a bit of a round-table family discussion to see how we can work our schedules so that everyone is getting more of what they need.
Thank you to everyone for the suggestions and/or support. I am sure even the criticizing was well-intentioned. For everything else, I will just continue to try to find solutions within my poly family.
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