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Some questions about what other sadists are like - 3/30/2010 11:55:40 AM

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Well, here I am. I'm a type-A introvert sadist, basically. I don't really like the thought of inflicting pain, but I love humiliation and such. I'm a completely different person when not aroused. I believe in fairness, above all else. Actually, that would also apply to sex. Praising the slave or petting her like a good dog, that really turns me on.

I have social anxiety but cannot feel humiliation. What a paradox it is!

People say I look sexy and I am highly gifted. However, I have no time to build a relationship. The whole concept is dumb anyway, the real one is males fighting over a female, and the male that wins, mates with the female.

Do you think it's a good idea to ask a non-single female friend if she might have an idea of where I can find a girl that's interested in masochism? She's the girlfriend of a guy that was a best friend of mine but switched schools. I don't know who else to ask. I am non-social, and don't have any best friends.

So what personality type are sadists, usually? What about in terms of introvert and extrovert? Are they usually paranoid or anxious? I need to know this stuff.

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RE: Some questions about what other sadists are like - 3/30/2010 12:01:42 PM

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I'm middle of the road,niether really introverted or extroverted. I prefer to play privately, because most of the public scene come across as busy body twits and infringers to me. I really don't need to be told what I like-who I have to put up with etc...ruins the fun.

I care about girls I play with-but there is a limit to how much bullshit I will put up with from anyone-so I screen the emotional details carefully. Drama is fun for play-but needless beyond that-I like adults who can handle themselves as such.

I'm an unabashed sadist. I like to inflict suffering along with pleasure-it's a control impulse.

I take on my fair share of responsibility-but never beyond fifty per cent.

If I wanted to be a daddy-I would have had kids ages ago.

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RE: Some questions about what other sadists are like - 3/30/2010 12:45:30 PM

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I'm a type A driver-give me a square peg and a round hole and I start looking around for jackhammers.
I tend to see myself as fairly introverted, but that's only because I come from a family that makes extroverted seem shy and retiring. I'm outspoken, dynamic, passionate, intellectual, cruel, kind, sarcastic but above all a provocateur.

I like pulling strings (leashes) and seeing what happens. That control thing coming out in all sorts of wicked ways.

No, I am not paranoid, or anxious. (That's a damn unusual question BTW)
I lean way more towards even keeled and patient. When I screw up, I own my shit, but I musta missed the class called kiss ass 101, because I suck at crawling.
I speak my mind and, with few exceptions, don't really give to much of a rats about who I offend as long as I am content with the moral ground I am standing upon.

Edited to add:
Oh yes. Despite the fact I like to make them whimper and scream, I adore women.No misogyny here. There are days I enjoy spoiling them as much as I do hurting them. Of course, that's all part of the unpredictability factor-does wonders keeping them off balance. That danged pesky control thing again.

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RE: Some questions about what other sadists are like - 3/30/2010 12:59:15 PM

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I'm asking about anxiety and paranoia cause I am those things, and I was wondering if other sadists were also those things. It's not like I'm paranoid without a reason though. It came in handy quite a few times so I'm nicely adapted to this dishonest world.

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RE: Some questions about what other sadists are like - 3/30/2010 1:10:08 PM

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ORIGINAL: ParanoidSadist
I'm asking about anxiety and paranoia cause I am those things, and I was wondering if other sadists were also those things. It's not like I'm paranoid without a reason though. It came in handy quite a few times so I'm nicely adapted to this dishonest world.

Ok, I was wondering if you were projecting.

This being the net where there's (nothing personal, just an expression...grins....don't be paranoid) a nut to fit every screw, it's a pretty safe bet that some other sadist out there suffers from the same afflictions.

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RE: Some questions about what other sadists are like - 3/30/2010 1:23:24 PM

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The only way I suffer from anxiety is that I'm not as demanding or controlling to people as I'd like to be. I just act simple and kind, and I'm getting sick of not having the balls to be honest and dominant.

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RE: Some questions about what other sadists are like - 3/30/2010 1:28:13 PM

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My man, you are 18
Outside of possible chemical imbalances and such issues much better left to doctors, much of that will drop away as you gain experience and accomplishments.

Though I gotta say, having learned this little tidbit more than once the hard way, being honest and dominant are two traits that can get one in a whole lot o'trouble unless tempered with tact and grace. One thing you do learn as you age is to pick your battles.

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RE: Some questions about what other sadists are like - 3/30/2010 1:30:48 PM

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I have social anxiety but cannot feel humiliation. What a paradox it is!

Sweetie...the general basis for social anxiety is the fear of humiliation.

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RE: Some questions about what other sadists are like - 3/30/2010 1:31:48 PM

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Oh yeah, I want to be sure to add this. Kindness and fairness are not antonyms for domination.
I would in fact argue that it's the other way around. Vulnerability requires a certain strength of it's own.
Or to quote freaking Gandhi, "It takes a strong man to love."

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RE: Some questions about what other sadists are like - 3/30/2010 1:53:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: Kana

Oh yeah, I want to be sure to add this. Kindness and fairness are not antonyms for domination.
I would in fact argue that it's the other way around. Vulnerability requires a certain strength of it's own.
Or to quote freaking Gandhi, "It takes a strong man to love."

Kindness no, fairness yes. Well proper domination, that is. It wouldn't be fair to punish someone for doing something nice for you. The pleasure of being a slave comes from the appreciation of the master, and also, the slave must know what the master likes/hates. Strictness is fine on all levels as long as it's FAIR.

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I have social anxiety but cannot feel humiliation. What a paradox it is!
Sweetie...the general basis for social anxiety is the fear of humiliation.

It is confusing, but when I do mess up, I am never humiliated. I guess it's just caring too much about being perfect. I'm always the guy that messes up and I'm scared of it, but I still would care less than anyone else would.

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My man, you are 18
Outside of possible chemical imbalances and such issues much better left to doctors, much of that will drop away as you gain experience and accomplishments.

Though I gotta say, having learned this little tidbit more than once the hard way, being honest and dominant are two traits that can get one in a whole lot o'trouble unless tempered with tact and grace. One thing you do learn as you age is to pick your battles.

I'm proud of my chemical imbalance.

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RE: Some questions about what other sadists are like - 3/30/2010 2:00:08 PM

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He's very kind. He sometimes calls me honey or sweetie when he's beating the crap out of me.

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RE: Some questions about what other sadists are like - 3/30/2010 2:00:25 PM

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Kindness and strictness are not necessarily separate things.

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RE: Some questions about what other sadists are like - 3/30/2010 2:01:35 PM

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He's very kind. He sometimes calls me honey or sweetie when he's beating the crap out of me.

Has he ever beat a #4 out of you?

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RE: Some questions about what other sadists are like - 3/30/2010 2:02:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

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He's very kind. He sometimes calls me honey or sweetie when he's beating the crap out of me.

Has he ever beat a #4 out of you?

Heh. He's come close.

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RE: Some questions about what other sadists are like - 3/30/2010 2:43:36 PM

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I like that..calling you sweetie & honey while beating your ass. I love being sweet talked while beaten. There is something so delicious about it plus hearing how happy its making him. It makes it more intimate, increases all levels of goodness. I respond well to that stuff. Mmmm mmmm good!

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RE: Some questions about what other sadists are like - 3/30/2010 2:59:42 PM

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ORIGINAL: Kana

Kindness and strictness are not necessarily separate things.

Strictness is how hard you are to please and kindness. Being very strict doesn't necessarily mean you are cruel, which is the opposite of kindness. Being strict is good since it helps the slave know exactly what the master wants. Cruelness varies from master to master and isn't important as long as the slave can tell when the master is happy.

Aileen, that comment made me laugh. That's not exactly what I meant. What I meant is, compliments. Compliments about the slave's body or technique can even be embarrassing if the slave is wearing a mouthgag and can't respond. I had (or rather, have) a fantasy of tying a girl up against a wall and putting a gag over her mouth. Then, while her eyes filled with shame are observing how I slowly strip her, I comment about her body and also what dirty things I would do with it.

What is #4, btw? #1 is pee, #2 is poo, #3 is puke, #4 is bleed? I'm almost sure I'm wrong, but oh well. What is it?

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RE: Some questions about what other sadists are like - 3/30/2010 3:32:41 PM

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Don't make the mistake of believing that sadists can only be mean, nasty people.
Some are. Many aren't. Many are quite nice, quite complimentary...and quite sadistic.
I couldn't be with someone who didn't connect with me emotionally. I require love and caring and cuddling (Yes, ShoreBound is a cuddler).
I personally love extreme juxtapositions. A passionate kiss in the middle of a hard flogging. Being hit until I weep and then hearing him whisper how much he loves me. Things like that.

The #4 reference...

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RE: Some questions about what other sadists are like - 3/30/2010 3:47:08 PM

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968
The #4 reference...

That is beyond FUBAR.

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RE: Some questions about what other sadists are like - 3/30/2010 4:05:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

Don't make the mistake of believing that sadists can only be mean, nasty people.
Some are. Many aren't. Many are quite nice, quite complimentary...and quite sadistic.
I couldn't be with someone who didn't connect with me emotionally. I require love and caring and cuddling (Yes, ShoreBound is a cuddler).
I personally love extreme juxtapositions. A passionate kiss in the middle of a hard flogging. Being hit until I weep and then hearing him whisper how much he loves me. Things like that.

The #4 reference...

I know that cause I'm a sadist and I'm a very fair person. I wouldn't want to be in an equal relationship, however. I just don't like the style. I got very interested in sadism and here I am. Something tells me I should have sex for once and see what it's like, then I will be able to make judgments towards sex.

It happens twice a year, and that includes right now. Mid-March and Mid-September. Spaced apart quite evenly, probably when we are supposed to mate. I'm the only one who hates this. I have torturing butterflies in my stomach cause I desire sex so. No motivation for any other hobby. All sex. The worst pain I could ever have. But what brain chemical is responsible for this agony? Serotonin? Oxytocin? I know it isn't just testosterone, I'm out of my mind. Normally, I'm anti-casual sex, and all I think about lately is sex. Anyone else feel this way during those months?

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RE: Some questions about what other sadists are like - 3/31/2010 3:10:49 AM

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Well my personality type? That's hard to sum up adequately with out simply saying sadistic. My tendency for enjoying others pain existed from as early as I can remember. When I was a child and my parents would take me to the Mcdonalds play place I would would trick or out right force all the other children in to doing what id say usually through pain and threats id get two of three older children to act as officers and have them block off parts of the play structure and say that only the ones who knelt before me and swore to serve me could play. the few who opposed were "hurt" until they would cooperate. I remember inflicting there punishments fondly. It was not just physical pain that i enjoyed causing either my truest joy then and now comes from seeing mental anguish. I have a cousin two years younger blood related only through my fathers sister so he did not share my surname though he was next in line for future head of house until the birth of my brother but I digress. if he failed me or in some way offended me which especially in those was not hard I would tell him that he was to be disowned and throwen out of the family he would cry and always try very hard to reenter my good graces. I assembled a grope of followers through out the days of my schooling most of them bleed either for me or because of me at some point or another but no matter what I was just a loyal man was all ways treated properly given honers and cared for. I made sure there was plenty of infighting so no one under me could grow to strong and present a threat to me. The would call me sir or master or lord or some such title I did not demand nor did I ask for that not that it was unwelcome they did it of there own accord trying to gain my favor. that is a small task of it I do hope that helps paint a picture of what I consider sadism. im sure I could even disgust some of the sadists on here with my actions but that should do to establish my personality in some small way.

So I had many friend though they were seen as the outcast.

I indeed to "suffer" from paranoia but I think of it as a gift.

I hardly think of my self as a normal example though

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