RE: Does anyone think there are more than two genders? (Full Version)

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion



Message


outofhabit -> RE: Does anyone think there are more than two genders? (4/4/2006 9:30:16 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: amayos

Of genders, there can be many. Of sexes, there are only two.

I like to speak in twos, personally.


One of the other posters did a very good job of speaking how there are not only more than two genders but that sex isn't binary the way we conceive of it. Intersex individuals are a great example of how sex isn't easily broken down as easily into "male" or "female" but so are transsexual people who through hormones and surgery have constructed bodies that are a mixture of "male" and "female" sex characteristics. Human bodies are diverse.




Zensee -> RE: Does anyone think there are more than two genders? (4/4/2006 10:48:54 PM)

"Love is a many gendered thing."




SoulfulSadism -> RE: Does anyone think there are more than two genders? (4/5/2006 12:09:58 AM)

<< Does anyone think there are more than two genders? >>
Yes. I guess the existence of trans-whatever_is_the_right_suffix has to be accepted.

<< I'm curious, though, whether people are capable of seeing people like me as of another gender - not male, not female, but something different. >>

Off-the-cuff answer: No - I would tend to classify anyone I meet as a male or female.
People who have had close friendship or/and relationships with trans may be able to stay away from that automatic behaviour, but personally, I think 95% of the world would react like me.




newdombbw -> RE: Does anyone think there are more than two genders? (4/5/2006 12:55:41 AM)

Years ago I worked for an art department at a university and met a female model who told me she, genetically, is XXX - a sort of "super female".  One of the side effects was being totally sterile.

I asked my doctor about it later and was assured it's totally possible.  Just as Charles Manson is supposedly XYY, genetically.  My doctor told me there are MANY things medicine knows about - and doesn't tell us.

I also remember having lunch with the Nobel Prize for Literature winner, Isaac Bashevis Singer.  During lunch the topic of transexualism somehow came up.  Mr. Singer said he couldn't quite understand it.  Knowing his love of the spiritual, I suggested to him that, for example, it's the spirit of a woman born in a man's body. AHHHH - he understood !!!! [:D]




scratchingpost -> RE: Does anyone think there are more than two genders? (4/7/2006 1:17:56 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

quote:

ORIGINAL: alleypussykat

I consider my gender to be in-between male and female. Phyisically, I'm male, although I wouldn't say that
my body was typically shaped for a male. But psychologically, I've never felt like a "man" (or a "boy" before that).
But I don't feel like a "woman", either - I'm not even sure what that would mean for me. So, I've come to
think of my gender as being in the middle. And there are lots of other people who similarly identify:
genderqueers and androgynes, for instance. I'm curious, though, whether people are capable of seeing
people like me as of another gender - not male, not female, but something different.


Some people define their gender as that which lies below the belt. Others define it as that which lies above the neck. For me, how a person chooses to identify doesn't matter to me. I'm about people and gender makes no difference.

There's bisexuals.. why not bi-genders or all-gendered? The main thing is self-acceptance, not definition anyway. I have no problem embracing someone other gendered if that's the way they wish to view themselves.

Celeste


Interesting point of view...I tend to agree with it. I find myself attracted to what I feel a person represents, a purity of their soul, thier kindness, generosity, warmth...Their physical appearance or gender identification has little to do with how sexy I think a person is. (that does not mean that I never think WOW that person is hot) but when it comes to a real relationship or encounter other than eye candy passing on a street...I find myself wanting to look at their inner self more than their outer appearances.
btw I love the little quote you have on your signature line it always makes me smile when I read it...grins




Vancouver_cinful -> RE: Does anyone think there are more than two genders? (5/29/2006 2:11:08 PM)

Not only do I see gender as a continuum, I also believe it's possible for people to fluctuate and travel along that continuum throughout their lives. It appears to me to be a very fluid thing. Perhaps more fluid for some than for others.

As a child I was very into all the little girl things. Even with very short hair, no one had trouble identifying me as female.

During my twenties, I was rather a tomboy. I hung out with gay men, never wore dresses, make-up or grew my hair. My friends teased me that I was a gay man trapped in a female body.

During my thirties I fluctuated between feminine styles, and masculine styles changing every few years, it seemed. But I have never truly been a girly-girl, in the traditional way of seeing it. I hate shoe-shopping, never took to make-up and perfume, or wished to marry and have kids. I've never understood women as well as I understand men.

Now, I'm almost exclusively feminine in style. I don't think I'm any more traditionally feminine in my thinking, but, you can't come close to calling me a tomboy.

Now, anyone who wishes to shrug this off as fashion, can go ahead, but I know how I dressed definitely reflected how I was perceiving myself in gender-related terms. Sometimes I happen to be in fashion, most of the time I was marching to the beat of my own drum.

It's all very complicated, and personally I find it the whole concept of gender fascinating.




mellian -> RE: Does anyone think there are more than two genders? (5/29/2006 4:53:25 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

Native Americans, at one time (but not so much since Christianity), felt that there were 4 genders. Male body with Male heart, FwithF, MwithF and Fwith M. The term "berdache" (originally a derogatory term) has been used in reference to the "mixed" genders, mostly in reference to the MwithF occurance.



The word is still derogative, hence the use of the term  "Two-Spirit" in the past decade or so.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Two-spirit

-mellian




becca333 -> RE: Does anyone think there are more than two genders? (5/30/2006 1:11:03 AM)

This is an interesting thread - got me thinking about things in a new way.
Thanks for the new perspective.




Kedikat -> RE: Does anyone think there are more than two genders? (5/30/2006 2:29:56 AM)

It depends on the frame of reference.
Some societies assign certain social things to a physical gender that are assigned differently in another society.
Physically there are those that have various blendings of gender.
Mentally there is an endless variety of ones gender. And can vary at any moment.
The limited technical definition is two, with some more elaborate names to try and catergorize the rest.
I think there are lots of genders. But few that can be conveyed in just a word or two. Like people.




Dustyn -> RE: Does anyone think there are more than two genders? (5/30/2006 3:30:45 AM)

you either have ovaries or testicles.  In rare cases, both, but in that advent, the doctors will discuss with your parents what they wish to have done before you leave the hospital after being born.  That being said, though, identity, especially sexuality, resides solely in the mind.  By as a matter of genetics, you start out as one or the other, with the rare exceptions that I already noted.

Think it hard enough and you will most likely find a doctor to do the surgery to change you one way or another.  But then you will still be only one sex.  Hermaphrodites are a true genetic misfire, but it wouldn't suprise me to find out that it has something to do with the .7% of our genetic structure that is related to frogs, which can actually change sex physically.  I miscue in the genetic orders could cause it to reactivate for just enough time to make the situation.  But, not being a geneticist, I can't say that with any certainty.




NikkiAnn -> RE: Does anyone think there are more than two genders? (5/30/2006 4:28:18 AM)

It is nice to see so many people with open minds to this issue. Maybe its just that the BDSM community as a whole is more open to diversity but I hope its possible this attitude can spread to more people.

Nikki Ann




LadyGatta -> RE: Does anyone think there are more than two genders? (5/30/2006 8:35:28 AM)

ok, its all nice and swell,  but what about someone like that:  woman, hetro, but so much into having sex with males, but using her strap on ?  what gender is that?  call her gay?  - A/all will think she is lesbian( lol, she is not), call her bisex- wrong again! she is STRAIGHT!!  Term Dominatrix will suit Her fine, because in that respect She is, but what if sometimes that sexual activity has NOTHING to do with D/s...then what?




LadyGatta -> RE: Does anyone think there are more than two genders? (5/30/2006 8:36:52 AM)

wow, just noticed *vanilla* next to My name- NOT!!!! NOT VANILLA!!!!  I am NOT!!!(:




Kirei -> RE: Does anyone think there are more than two genders? (5/30/2006 8:55:50 AM)

  Gender (male, female, trans, whatever) is simply a form of control.  If your female you are considered the weaker sex based not on your strength of spirit but on your physical limitations of muscle mass.  Yet many women are much stronger in spirit than most men, so how can they really be called the weaker sex.  You see how it becomes a form of control.
  Now why are we seeing so many gender types today?  Because people are being what they are human, and using that one thing that can overcome any type of control "choice"....they choose to not be classified into a catagory.  They choose to be different and choose to just be themselves.  People today in everything it seems are defining themselves....its not just gender its everything.  How many new corperate types are there today? 
  So I see this not as something new, but as people finally learning to use the knowledge they have and express themselves more.  Yes in olden times artists were such people, but now almost anyone can be considered an artist for choosing to do such.  Makes it a great time to be alive if you think about it.

Koneko




Lashra -> RE: Does anyone think there are more than two genders? (5/30/2006 9:22:04 AM)

This is a very interesting subject as I am a natural woman who has always had a tomboy nature. Now I'm not a lesbian, I'm bisexual, but I have a hard time finding things in common with the more *girlish* women that I meet. I think girlie girls are *cute* and sometimes just down right silly. [:D] Sometimes they do things I consider foolish and wonder where the heck did they leave their brain? Though I have that same thought with alot of males too lol
I've always have had more male friends and I find that I enjoy so called male activities to be more fun. But I do like some frillies and bows, makeup and such. I'm just not as into it as some other women are. So its kind of hard for me to relate to my more girlish counterparts, its almost as if we are so very different, yet so alike at least physically.

~Lashra




Proprietrix -> RE: Does anyone think there are more than two genders? (5/30/2006 12:00:06 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam
Native Americans, at one time (but not so much since Christianity), felt that there were 4 genders. Male body with Male heart, FwithF, MwithF and Fwith M. The term "berdache" (originally a derogatory term) has been used in reference to the "mixed" genders, mostly in reference to the MwithF occurance.Berdache were not seen as outcasts in their society. Instead, they were embraced and, often, thought to be special. It wasn't uncommon for berdache to be medicine men and, the more rare FwtihM to become warriors.


I wanted to expand a bit on this.

First, this word is still considered derogatory to most Native Americans. Hearing the word "berdache" used casually in speaking makes me flinch a little. Reread the paragraph replacing the word "berdache" with "nigger" or "wetback" and you'll see how it can be very offensive. It's probably not the best idea to use the term in casual converse with Native American speakers. It's better to use the phrase "two spirit" or simply use an English translation like "multi-gendered."
 
But the essence of what you're saying is pretty much accurate, though I haven't seen the difference you speak of with M to/with F, or F to/with M. Being that most two-spirits weren't looking for a transition from one gender to the other, nor did they identify as one gender with assets of the other. They identified as a different gender in the first place without comparing themselves to the typical "male" or "female".

From an eastern cherokee perspective, you are born "male", "female", or "ta ado" (two spirit). Ta adoas are either hvnas ganegaos (absent of the flesh) and identify as absent of the restraints of gender (normally placed in "counseling" positions and spend a lot of time directing people in vision quests and helping others learn to meditate), or lvladi ganegaos (higher of the flesh) and identify as understanding more complexities of gender (normally placed in shaman positions and spend a lot of time in healing ails of the body, assisting with birth, and treating wounds).

It was thought that hvnas weren't burdened by having a human body and so could reach a higher level of spiritual enlightenment, and lvladis better understood the human body, and so made better shaman.

The problem in using this as an extention of gender is that these belief systems, just like western civilization, are based on how society defines gender. Just like girls and boys are brought up playing with dolls and cars. Tribal children are brought up engaging in the activities that support the societal assumption. A baby born with a significant lack of genitalia is raised believing they are more spiritually enlightened. They are taken on their first vision quest much earlier in life. They are permitted access to the sweat lodge without having to earn it. A baby born with both sets of genitalia is raised believing they are in better touch with matters of the body. They are brought up learning the intricacies of medicine. While other children are learning basic living skills, hvnas are meditating with peyote and lvladis are assisting with child birth. They are learning to live the role that their society puts them in.

It comes back down to gender being a product of the society one lives in. Whether it's western civilization of only 2 genders, or a tribal civilization of 4, it's all socially defined. Nothing more or less.




jezabelKH -> RE: Does anyone think there are more than two genders? (5/30/2006 2:47:07 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadiesBladewing

Actually, there are several behavioral and sexual psychology studies that give a range of anywhere from 6-9 human psychosexual genders, encapsulated in 4 general physiological " genitalia types" - male genitalia, female genitalia, male and female genitalia (hermaphrodite), and nominal/non-existant genitalia (androgen). Most of the bases of these studies can be found on PubMed or in your local college library, if you're interested in seeing what the academic community has to say.

Lady Zephyr


Lady Zephyr,

i could not have said it better myself. if alleypussykat is searching for a "label" then research is the best way to go, if alleypussykat is searching his heart then labels don't really matter, the heart wants what the heart wants. my humble advice just breathe and be for life is too short to be unhappy.

sincerely,
jezabel {KH}
just simply a slave
Property Of Master Ken




Vancouver_cinful -> RE: Does anyone think there are more than two genders? (5/30/2006 3:26:32 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyGatta

ok, its all nice and swell,  but what about someone like that:  woman, hetro, but so much into having sex with males, but using her strap on ?  what gender is that?  call her gay?  - A/all will think she is lesbian( lol, she is not), call her bisex- wrong again! she is STRAIGHT!!  Term Dominatrix will suit Her fine, because in that respect She is, but what if sometimes that sexual activity has NOTHING to do with D/s...then what?


Well, now you're talking about sexual preferences and orientation, not gender. Whether you are sexually attracted to males or females or both, has no bearing on your gender.

It can definitely get very complicated and many people are left confused when they try to label someone who does not fit into the usual sub-types.

Take someone who is FTM and in a relationship with a woman. Before gender reassignment she would be classified as a lesbian, typically. But after the change of physical gender occurs...well, is she now a straight man? This can become guite a big issue, mainly because, as humans, we feel a need to classify and label in order to make sense of our world.

I've noticed in the younger (under 30) people I've met in the last few years a reluctance to label themselves gay, straight, or bisexual...prefering to leave those restrictions behind and say: I'm attracted to whoever I'm attracted to, and I don't feel it's based on what gender they are. I don't want to be limited by a label.

I admire that kind of breaking-free attitude.




Vancouver_cinful -> RE: Does anyone think there are more than two genders? (5/30/2006 3:28:06 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyGatta

wow, just noticed *vanilla* next to My name- NOT!!!! NOT VANILLA!!!!  I am NOT!!!(:


LOL Welcome to the forums, keep posting and that little ice-cream cone will melt soon enough.  




perverseangelic -> RE: Does anyone think there are more than two genders? (5/30/2006 4:04:56 PM)

Someone said there are only two sexes. I'm assuming they mean biological (chromosomal) sexes. This actually isn't true. There are chromosomal varients all over the scale, that result in a huge blend of primary and secondary sexual characteristics.

So, yeah, many genders, based on personal feeling and personal identification. Many sexes based on biology.




Page: <<   < prev  1 [2]

Valid CSS!




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy
0.046875