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MontaukDaisies -> Eating Rituals (4/2/2006 5:50:57 PM)

Are there couples here who live together and share eating rituals? Where food is served? How it is presented? Does one partner do most of the preparation? Is food eaten with one hand only.. candles.. dog bowls..? Just wondering!



MontaukDaisies -> RE: Eating Rituals (4/6/2006 6:34:27 PM)

Or not!



cariad -> RE: Eating Rituals (4/6/2006 6:41:12 PM)

girl does not live with a Master yet, but she has had Doms who have had her eat with them when they have been to her home and she was the one who did all the cooking, serving and cleaning.

recently she has been told by a Dom she is speaking with that if she becomes His that she will eat from a dog dish, so she went out and bought one just out of curiosity sake to see what it would be like to eat from a dog dish. well girl can tell you she learned how hard it is, and to make sure the food is room temperature before diving in because she burnt her tongue.

girl was almost tempted to get up, grab a spoon and use it, let alone use her hands, but she didn't and she is proud of herself for trying it as it was a good learning experience in eating from a dog dish, as well as, a good lesson in humiliation even though she was home alone she still felt embarassed by it.

oooooops girl had to edit this because of her not paying attention to her words :(



truesub4u -> RE: Eating Rituals (4/6/2006 6:46:54 PM)

I've cooked and served dinner for Doms plenty of times. Have enjoyed doing so. I've sat and not eaten with them till after they've left and I've eaten with them.

I remember one teased me about making me eat from a dog dish... I got up, placed some food in a dog dish... sat it before him.. and told him.. I only have 1 dog dish.. so I'll have to eat after you.. Sir. Damn glad he had a sense of humor... [:D][:D]

But i'm not about to eat outta no damn dog dish... I got more respect for myself than that. And no matter how you try to explain or make excuses, when one makes you do that.. they have no respect for you as a person.



maybemaybenot -> RE: Eating Rituals (4/6/2006 6:55:32 PM)

I lived with my first Dominant for 13 years. Most of the time I cooked and set the table and served the food. He liked to cook, so when he wanted to prepare the meal, he did.  Every Sunday morning I can rememeber, he made breakfast for us both. We ate together again, most of the time. Mealtime was our chance to unwind from a workday and enjoy good conversation. We used plates, silverware and glasses to eat from.

I am with truesub on this one, I just ain't gonna eat from a dog bowl. Not my style. Humiliation isn't part of my repitoire. But I am sure it has appeal to others.
LOL... of course I have another thread about table manners, so any one who read that one isn't going to be surprised by this at all.

                               mbmbn



wytchywoman -> RE: Eating Rituals (4/6/2006 7:26:05 PM)

First thing I need to say. My owner ordered me to eat from a dog bowl. I tried. The human face isn't designed to fit into a dog bowl. Our snouts aren't long enough to eat from a dog bowl.

Then he ordered me to eat spaghetti off of a plate at his feet. After getting his ankles splattered with spaghetti sauce he gave up and tucked that away for "better left undone". -wink-



perverseangelic -> RE: Eating Rituals (4/6/2006 7:29:23 PM)

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ORIGINAL: truesub4u

But i'm not about to eat outta no damn dog dish... I got more respect for myself than that. And no matter how you try to explain or make excuses, when one makes you do that.. they have no respect for you as a person.



I totally disagree. By the same token, anyone who hits you MUST have no respect for you as a person. After all, if s/he respected you s/he wouldn't hurt you right?




truesub4u -> RE: Eating Rituals (4/6/2006 7:35:16 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: perverseangelic

quote:

ORIGINAL: truesub4u

But i'm not about to eat outta no damn dog dish... I got more respect for myself than that. And no matter how you try to explain or make excuses, when one makes you do that.. they have no respect for you as a person.



I totally disagree. By the same token, anyone who hits you MUST have no respect for you as a person. After all, if s/he respected you s/he wouldn't hurt you right?




I see how this is gonna turn out already... depends on the hitting.. if i'm playing.. in a scene... and i ask for it... totally different... and no one hits on a regular basis like one would tell someone to eat from a damn dog dish... but yet on the other hand.. hit me not in a scene.... and you WILL be picking your ass up on the fucking floor... either that or the paremedics will be...

But I will not get into one of your pissing matches either .. so whatever you think is right or wrong.. isn't going to matter... so I'll agree to disagree with you... and let this thread go as far as your comments to me.... Enjoy your evening.



TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Eating Rituals (4/6/2006 7:40:57 PM)

LOL..gotta go with you on this on maybemaybenot and truesub as well..but then again I too am not into humiliation..which is a hard limit for me...Now mind you I am not dissing any others who find this fabulous ...it just isnt my style..[:)]...be well...tempting...and yes I do remember your table manners question..(grin)..



smilezz -> RE: Eating Rituals (4/6/2006 7:44:08 PM)

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But i'm not about to eat outta no damn dog dish... I got more respect for myself than that. And no matter how you try to explain or make excuses, when one makes you do that.. they have no respect for you as a person.

Just because it's not your thing does not make it wrong.  What about the people who do puppy play?  what about the fact that some Dominants just want a humiliation factor to come in? or hell, what about just because that's what they want?  does that equate to having no self-respect?  No, just means they are into that, you are not. 
You are entitled to your opinion of course, but don't judge to harshly, what comes around goes around.

Have a great night...

~smilezz~



Tikkiee -> RE: Eating Rituals (4/6/2006 7:45:39 PM)

My boyfriend and I do not have any set rituals that we go by. Making dinner falls to whomever happens to get home first, cleaning up is done by the one who did not cook. However, if we happen to cook outside, he does all the cooking. He seems to have this idea that only men can BBQ properly. I figure he's allowed one unchallenged fantasy at least [:)]



truesub4u -> RE: Eating Rituals (4/6/2006 7:51:54 PM)

Smilezz.... i'm not judging... it was just simply my own opinion on the subject of eating out of a dog bowl.... i did not say ... hey (name here).. you're screwed up for doing that...  just i'm not going to do it.. and in my own opinion(which I get tired of typing everytime I post an opinion) is that it's disrespectful.... no matter how it's hid. But no... not juding no one on their likes and dislikes.



smilezz -> RE: Eating Rituals (4/6/2006 7:54:52 PM)

Ok...it just kind of  looked that way.  Thanks for clearing that up.

~smilezz~



catize -> RE: Eating Rituals (4/6/2006 8:00:46 PM)

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ORIGINAL: truesub4u

I've cooked and served dinner for Doms plenty of times. Have enjoyed doing so. I've sat and not eaten with them till after they've left and I've eaten with them.

I remember one teased me about making me eat from a dog dish... I got up, placed some food in a dog dish... sat it before him.. and told him.. I only have 1 dog dish.. so I'll have to eat after you.. Sir. Damn glad he had a sense of humor... [:D][:D]

But i'm not about to eat outta no damn dog dish... I got more respect for myself than that. And no matter how you try to explain or make excuses, when one makes you do that.. they have no respect for you as a person.



Well, actually..............
truesub, although I accept that is how you see it and believe you have the right to set that as a limit, I enjoy such play. 
DG does not lose respect for me.  When he commands me and sees the depths I will go in obedience to his will, our bond is strengthened.  I hear the pride in his voice, I see it on his face, and his arms hold me with great tenderness after. 



KnightofMists -> RE: Eating Rituals (4/6/2006 8:01:43 PM)

My girls have a few basic protocals when it comes to eating.

They use one hand for their fork/spoon and the other is on their lap unless needed for handling the knife.

They always start eating after me... and after the little ones have there food.  For that matter... my littleones always have food on there plate before me.  ... which is another standing order.  FEED the little ones first.

When they serve me... they have standing orders on how they hand me a glass and delivery food to me.

When we are out... I will instruct them what I want... and they will interact with the waiter unless I choose to.  They will also take care of paying the bill or anything else.

They also have standing orders of where they sit... depending on several factors.

that is just the highlights




proudsub -> RE: Eating Rituals (4/6/2006 8:07:18 PM)

quote:

Are there couples here who live together and share eating rituals? Where food is served? How it is presented? Does one partner do most of the preparation?


I do ALL the cooking, serving and cleaning up, have for 37 years, but never considered that a ritual, it's just the way it is. I always serve Him first unless He isn't ready to eat and tells me to go ahead. Then i continue to wait on Him the rest of the night.[:)]



sweetnessforsir -> RE: Eating Rituals (4/6/2006 8:21:52 PM)

mmmmmmmmmm . . .one of my favorite Domly memories . . . during the week we would choose a dish for saturday night . . . sometimes i had to research how to make it.  then, on saturday morning we went to the market together, made sure we had everything we needed.  when we got home, he chopped garlic, onion, and parsley and i made dinner.  i served dinner in the living room.  we sat on the floor in the living room eating "our" creation.  He is still my friend, in part, because of those dinners.  the house smelled wonderful . . . and the bond of shopping together for the ingredients was magnificent.

s.




KnightofMists -> RE: Eating Rituals (4/6/2006 8:24:40 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: truesub4u

Smilezz.... i'm not judging... it was just simply my own opinion on the subject of eating out of a dog bowl.... i did not say ... hey (name here).. you're screwed up for doing that...  just i'm not going to do it.. and in my own opinion(which I get tired of typing everytime I post an opinion) is that it's disrespectful.... no matter how it's hid. But no... not juding no one on their likes and dislikes.


You may not be judging... But I have read more than enough posts of you being questioned on your opinions that come across as judgements on others.  It just might be the way you say things.. but you keep saying things the same way and still you get challenged and questioned on them.  So much so, you get defensive.   You don't have to type "in your Opinion" all the time.  It's actually the phrasing you use that do not speak of just yourself but are directed to others as well.

for example...

you stated this... which is why more than a few raised their eye brows.

quote:

But i'm not about to eat outta no damn dog dish... I got more respect for myself than that. And no matter how you try to explain or make excuses, when one makes you do that.. they have no respect for you as a person.


some changing of phrasing could of said what you actually meant and not what you actaully said.

IE "But i'm not about to eat outta no damn dog dish.. I find this disrespects myself and no matter how someone tries to explain or reasons it, when they want me to do that!  I think and feel they have no respect for ME."

your phrasing is very judgemental and could even be consider as passive aggressive... 

"I got more respect for myself than that"

Could have the implication that those that do eat out of the do bowl have no respect for themselves.  considering the next sentence, it is even more likely that someone would read your post that way. 

"And no matter you try to explain or make excuses, when one makes you do that.. they have no respect for you as a person" 

This phrasing very specifically is universally judgemental and very specifically judges that anyone that wants another to eat from a dog bowl has not respect for you.  This phrasing is not speaking of what you feel for yourself but is directed towards others.  It is not a "I" or "ME"  it's a "YOU" statement.  you don't have to state in my opinion to express it's an opinion you have of yourself.... sometimes avoid using the "YOU" context can do the job all by itself.

just a few thoughts.



MistressLorelei -> RE: Eating Rituals (4/6/2006 8:26:44 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: truesub4u

I've cooked and served dinner for Doms plenty of times. Have enjoyed doing so. I've sat and not eaten with them till after they've left and I've eaten with them.

I remember one teased me about making me eat from a dog dish... I got up, placed some food in a dog dish... sat it before him.. and told him.. I only have 1 dog dish.. so I'll have to eat after you.. Sir. Damn glad he had a sense of humor... [:D][:D]

But i'm not about to eat outta no damn dog dish... I got more respect for myself than that. And no matter how you try to explain or make excuses, when one makes you do that.. they have no respect for you as a person.



I have had a submissive eat out of a dog dish (and yes they have ones suitable for humans, more like a doggie platter), and I did have respect for him afterwards... I was pleased that he would do something so humiliating to please Me.  To Me, that warrants some respect.  Additionally, I find that while 'humiliation' isn't right for all of us, isn't some form of humiliation present in tying someone up and beating on them, or shoving a gag over their mouth?  I guess I don't see that I would respect someone differently in any of these situations... doggie bowl, or no doggie bowl.



champagnewishes -> RE: Eating Rituals (4/6/2006 8:30:33 PM)

I have to say this ritual would fall under the category of humiliation in my mind...something i find is a hard limit for me personally.

quote:

ORIGINAL: perverseangelic
I totally disagree. By the same token, anyone who hits you MUST have no respect for you as a person. After all, if s/he respected you s/he wouldn't hurt you right?


If a person hits for the sake of simply hitting, then yes, you are absolutely correct. 

What it boils down to IMHO is the intent and the intended results derived from such action.   



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