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Najakcharmer -> RE: Offered money?? (5/10/2006 8:06:10 PM)
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I'd probably do it. I've done a stint as a pro domme, and it was fun. It isn't what I do any more, but it was good fun at the time, and I didn't mind providing a fair and honest service. A straightforward transaction - my skill, energy and time as an experienced dominant for your money - is perfectly ethical and reasonable. Legal even, as it does not involve sex or sex acts per se.
Now it isn't what I'd consider "real" D/s in the sense that the male is actually submitting to my wants and needs. We're having a simple play transaction, each stating what we are willing to give and what we expect to get. Not much different from negotiating, say, a spanking scene at a distant BDSM event with somebody I'm probably never going to see again. We are each honest about what we want out of the scene, and if we can come to a mutually satisfactory arrangement that is a fair exchange of time and energy, it's all in good fun.
I don't think it would occur to me to ask for money, as that is really not what I want from a submissive. But if that was offered honestly as what this person was willing to give in exchange for my time and energy, I'd consider the offer and make sure that our mutual expectations were clearly communicated. If I'm negotiating a scene with a sub, I'm more likely to ask, "Are you willing to let me leave serious marks on your body, welts, broken skin, bruises, blood, etc?" That's the tribute I really want offered to me, the one guaranteed to perk my ears up at a play party and get me seriously interested. Offer me the blank canvas of your skin and let me paint it in cerulean and crimson, and that is a great gift for an artist of the flesh. The jewels I like best are the bright strings of tiny ruby beads that follow in the wake of my blade. There are no flowers as lovely as the delicate rose petals that bloom on white sheets after a heavy caning.
But hey, not all subs are willing to make me happy that way. So if you won't give me what I want out of a session but you still want my time and energy, my innate sense of fairness demands that you be prepared to offer something else that makes my life more pleasant. Money wouldn't be my first choice, but it does make the transaction fair and straightforward rather than selfish and one-sided. So yes, I'd consider it, and I wouldn't be insulted by the offer unless it was clear that I was being treated like a drive-through McDommes.
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